I have one question for you, black [B]. Why does it matter if he wants to sleep with a transsexual?
Oh God, y'all smell that? That's misogyny! So I've seen this video going around quite a bit,
and I thought that I would finally give you guys my response as a black trans woman.
So, Sasha Shaw is a black transgender woman who recently made a video called "Black Women Are Murdering Trans Women",
And... it's got some choice moments.
to give you guys a bit of context for this video, Jimmy smacks is a social media guy. He's got
almost 700,000 followers on his Instagram and he used to date a woman named Trina,
who is a celebrity. Jimmy smacks since dating her has gone off and started to do some sex work.
And most of his Instagram pictures are of him with the various women that he's shooting with. Well,
one day he took a picture with Mia Isabella and Mia Isabella is a famous transgender porn star.
So apparently this caused a, a lot of controversy on the black side of
social media. And there are a lot of people creating videos about how disgusting it was
that Jimmy smacks was with a transgender woman. To give you guys even more context,
Here is part of the super cut that Sasha has on her video is supposed to be pronounced
for me personally. I will not date a bisexual man. Hey, I am. I keep that to yourself. I don't agree
with it. Um, has the stomach has the butt work done, but she still has a wee wee and I'm talking
from the three Oh five. We do not condone this. Jimmy Smacks is gay, man. You know, I'm, I'm sorry. You
know though, that's not some that you were talking about, you woke up and you just started to do no,
bro. You done did that for, so this video that we're about to watch is Sasha's reaction to
these comments. Now, before we watch this video, I wanted to share with you guys that as a black
transgender woman, I personally do have a lot of hesitation with following a lot of black centered
social media pages, because I do find myself running into stuff like this quite frequently.
I'm not going to say that black people are more transphobic than white people. But what I will
say is that as a black transgender woman, the opinions and feelings of black people do actually
cut a little bit deeper than the opinions and feelings of white people. A lot of black people
are very socially conservative. And so it's really common for very Afro-centric pages to
veer off into transphobia pretty quickly. So I say all that to say that I understand
the foundation of her frustration, but girl, maybe this, this wasn't the look. All right.
So we're gonna watch this video and I will give you guys my reactions as we go through.
Why are you upset? Why are you upset at the world that black men? Yes. I said it,
black men finds trans woman attractive. They find this attractive because you're boring.
You are judgmental. You only want to have threesomes with other woman. And then this man is
just, they're penetrating you. You don't want to do nothing to him and you don't want to pleasure
him. So guess what? He's going to come to me or other transsexual woman to pleasure him because
he's into transsexuals. Whether you like it or not straighten that is into transsexual. They can bash
us with you. But when you're not there, these straight lines is all over this baby.
So there's a lot to unpack. Um, it is very, very common for men who are with CIS women in
long-term relationships to seek out these sort of secretive relationships with transgender women,
that they would never claim publicly. And I think from reading this, these are the sorts
of relationships that Sasha is very used to. She sees this as a badge of honor. I'm a little bit of
validation I'm piecing together. But to me, I wouldn't really feel complimented by a man
approaching me in a dishonest way. That's not a positive thing. I do think that a lot of CIS women
have a hard time wrapping their minds around the fact that the men who date them also date us. I do
think that that's something that a lot of people struggle to understand. Of course they would in a
time where the men who date us often, aren't comfortable telling people that they're dating us.
But I think it's interesting about Jimmy smacks is that he's not hiding it. He is very loudly saying
I sleep with trans woman. And in fact, here's the trans woman that I'm sleeping with, which
is honestly fairly uncommon. The reaction that people are having to this is a good reason why
you don't see this very often. I don't personally put Jimmy smacks up, you know, in this like
category as like, you know, an idealistic man that I personally would want to date or be with. Right?
But I will say that it's interesting to me to see this because you don't often see
You, black are just nod that everybody else is sleeping with block man. And the block man,
that you're desiring do not want you. They do not desire you anymore.
Every comments in this nightmare is a black woman saying you're gay, you're gay, you're gay. And
these black girls are very ugly. They're ugly. They are ugly. First of all, they have no sex
appeal, no feminine features, no nothing feminine about them. But then they think I, Jimmy smash
is going to smash them. All the girls in this video, they don't look, girl. They don't because
black are waist. Black dentures are ignorant. Black dentures are mad that no one wants them.
Oh God. And it just gets more and more misogynistic like she just is so misogynistic.
It's a lot. One of the things that I noticed while quickly looking through
Sasha Shaw's content is that she has so much heat for black women. You know,
she has got so much to say about black women, but when she's addressing really anyone else,
she doesn't seem to have the same heat, which I found really interesting to me. It sounds like she
has this integral issue with black women, which is so interesting to me because like SIS, aren't you
supposed to be a black woman? Like I don't get this strong disconnect of yourself
from this category of black women. Like, it's very hard for me not to
read a lot of what she's saying as self-loathing also, maybe it's because I'm dark skin, but like
black men have always been interested in me.
Black men have always been attracted to me. I don't buy into this idea that
black women are undesirable. In reality. Most black men still marry black women.
I date people of all racial backgrounds, but most black people still date within their race.
So if anybody tries to convince you that, you know, the numbers are going down or dah, dah,
dah, dah, that's just not true. That's just not true. Most black people still
date in marry black people. Here's the thing. And another one of Sasha's videos,
she mentions that transphobia is violent. And I absolutely agree that a lot of times transphobia
leads to violence, reinforces violence, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. My thing here
is how is what she's saying here, not reinforcing the violence and bias against black women. How,
how isn't it again? I understand her frustration. I get how frustrating it is to be in a situation
where you're consistently being shown that men cannot be with you without being shamed,
where you consistently feel like people don't know this reality of your life, where you are hyper
desired, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. But that all being said, I don't believe that you should
take that alienation and translate that into anti-blackness against black women. Especially
when you're a black trans woman. It doesn't make sense, girl. It's just really not adding up.
Y'all biological females, the black in the back. Yes. I'm saying that y'all black need to learn,
need to respect, need to abate me to learn that guess what? Trans woman are here to stay
and we're not going nowhere. It doesn't matter. If you tell a man to murder us, it doesn't matter. If
you brainwash a mountain to murder us, we're not going nowhere. So you can batch Jimmy.
You can bash other men in the media who comes out that like, and trans women,
they're going to keep coming out, honey, what are you going to do?
What are you going to do? Keep bashing them because I'm going to stop sleeping with them.
My girlfriend's not going to stop sleeping with them.
And she's proud of that. She's proud of that. She's proud of being the secret sex object to
a man who would never claim her, who would never prioritize her in the way that he has a CIS woman.
That's sad girl, this is 100% some pick me. And I'll tell you why a lot of men will come to
transgender women and just sit there and complain all day long about CIS women not being this,
Cis women not doing that. She doesn't do this. She's not into that. That dah, dah, dah, a lot
of these men are looking for a sexual outlet. They are looking for a trans woman who can
fulfill their fantasies. One of the things that a lot of men will say to trans woman is
that they're just more feminine than CIS women. You know, and this is just all gas lighting.
You know, like a lot of men know that transgender women are insecure about themselves. And so they
will just give you this long list of all the reasons why you're better than a real woman.
I love when they actually say that, because it really brings out the transphobia in their eyes,
you know, and all throughout this video, she's like touching her booms and pushing them
up. And at one point she like shows her room and she's like, look at this. This
is what your man wants. Your man wants this. It screams insecurity. That is not,
I think what somebody who is truly secure in themselves with do you don't need to
put people down like that. You don't need to talk about how they have no femininity,
no sex appeal. You know, being a woman isn't about having sex appeal. Sasha, let me level with you.
You need to want more for yourself. You need to want to be prioritize. You should not be
patting yourself on the back because some man is having sex with you while he's cheating on his
wife. That is not, and should not be a source of power for you. You know, saying I'm going to keep
doing it. My girls are going to keep doing it. Why is that something that you're proud of?
Why is that something that you're expecting for other women to be threatened by?
That's not a compliment. I just want for people to want better for themselves.
I just want for people to know that they're worth more than that. You know,
I don't think that anybody should be sitting on the internet bragging about the men who
are cheating on their wives with them. I think that that is so tacky. I think that that is so
classless. That's not something that should be flattering to you also. Can we talk about this?
If a man is cheating on his partner, that's him breaking his promise to her. That's not her
Not doing what she's supposed to do or dah, dah, dah, dah, or, or
being too black or too masculine. That's not bad at all. He is directly disrespecting both
of y'all. And the thing about all of this is that when she starts describing these black women as
masculine or having no feminine features, to me, it just it's, it's picking out a wound that is so
fresh within a lot of black women who have often had to have their femininity stripped from them.
The masculinization of black women is something that a lot of black women are fighting against.
And to me it's like, she knows that these wounds exist and she just wants to pick, pick,
pick, pick pick. And to me that is disgusting, especially as a black person. Now, I think what
she was trying to say in this video, but didn't actually say is that the sort of environment that
a lot of people create where a man needs to be shamed because he's with a transgender woman,
does lead to the situations where men killed their intimate partners so that
they don't have to explain why they're in relationships with transgender women.
I get where she's coming from with that. But that is not black women's fault. That is not
black men's fault. That is a fault of the men who killed their partners out of insecurity.
That is a fault of the men who lifted their hands up to express violence because they could not
accept themselves. That is the fault of men who attacked transgender women, because they were
so afraid of what their colleagues, friends, and family and church, et cetera, would say.
That is not the fault of black women. The only person who should be held accountable
for the murder of black transgender women is the black men who tends to kill them. I do think that
a lot of black men probably do feel like they're in a position where they can't openly acknowledge
that they've been with transgender women without losing a connection to their community.
Because oftentimes when a man does express interest and attraction to a transgender woman,
he does lose a whole bunch of. Now, personally, I'm of the opinion that a man who doesn't want
to do that is a coward who I have no interest in being with. So I'm not going to sit here and baby
men, especially black men on because they're not confident enough in their. I do understand
however, that it is a very uphill battle when you are somebody who is dealing with racism on top of
all the other things at the end of the day, what I find to be so ironic about this video is that
it's a video that's being made that obviously is made to be hurtful to black CIS women. And
in this conversation that we're having about improving relationships between
black CIS women and black trans women, I don't think this is very helpful.
Anyways. I definitely edited this video down. It is a very, very long video with a lot of choice
moments. You guys can look it up if you guys are interested in watching the whole thing. Um,
but yeah, that's what I had to say. I think it's important to talk about the fact that trans women
can still be misogynistic. And this was a very, very violently misogynistic video. Do I understand
why she's upset? Yes, but girl was not the way. So I'm really curious to know what you guys have
to say about this. Please give me your thoughts in the comment box below. I am mostly interested
in hearing from black folks on this. Obviously everyone is welcomed to share and express their
feelings, but, um, I would definitely like to hear from black trans folks, black CIS folks about this
discourse, because it definitely is a conversation that I think needs to be had. And so I would love
for us to start that conversation in the comment box below. I'm definitely only going to be
wanting people who are interested in a productive conversation to be commenting. If you guys start
any, I will be bleeding you. So let's just make that clear anyway, but the emoji in the comment
box below, if you are interested in being part of the cool kids club, it is the most exclusive club
that you could be part of everybody's in it, who is cool with the school. And doesn't draw
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The emoji there. If you don't draw, we don't like jewelers hair and we
try to be accepting of everybody, but there's a limit. Anyway, I'll talk to you guys next time.
Bye.