#1 You tell your girl what to wear.
This is a common one I see guys with girlfriends do.
They tell their girlfriend not to dress “slutty” or too “revealing” because they don’t
want other guys checking her out.
Like bruh.
Who cares what your girlfriend wears, what's the big deal?
If you're dating an attractive girl, other guys are going to look at her.
If you don't want guys to stare at your girlfriend then you’re probably gonna have to date
an ugly girl.
But let’s break this down further because there’s a deeper point here.
Why would you have to tell a girl what to wear?
Why does it bother you that other guys see her and how pretty she is?
It’s insecurity.
And I get it man, dating is a tough and emotional process for guys.
Feeling rejected is one of the worst feelings ever.
Going through the trouble of making her your girlfriend is a lot for guys, so you don’t
wanna lose her and risk being alone.
If you’re worried about other guys looking at your girl it’s because you’re insecure
in your relationship with her, and most importantly, you’re insecure with yourself.
You think that if other guys are looking at her and giving her attention, she’ll leave
you for one of them.
You think you’re not good enough.
Well let me tell you some good news bro, I don't’ remember a time when a girl left
me for the random dude at the mall who checked her out, or the truck driver who broke his
neck checking her out on the street, or the waiter who was overly nice to her because
my girlfriend was drop dead gorgeous.
You worried about all these random dudes she’ll never see again?
Come on man!
Have some faith in yourself.
Being mad at what she’s wearing is just a symptom of your insecurity, not the cause.
Instead of trying to control other people, control yourself first bro.
All this time wasted on telling her what to wear and making sure nobody looks at her is
time you could spend working on your relationship with her, making your connection deeper and
stronger, and that’s how you make your girlfriend actually want to stay with you and only you.
Aside from what you do in the relationship, how are you improving yourself as a man?
Are you a high quality man?
If not, are you working to get to that best version of yourself?
Spend time doing that because being the best you, will help you in your relationship with
your current girlfriend and every other girl you date in the future.
And uh in case it isn’t obvious, is a terrible way of making her wanna stay with you so from
a pragmatic standpoint it’s pretty bad as well.
#2 You’re not reading the room.
I’ve spent weeks or months worth of time in a nightclub approaching girls.
You know how when you play Call of Duty or any other video game it tells you how much
time you’ve spent total on it so you can feel bad about yourself for not having a life?
Yeah I basically have that but for being in the nightclub and doing approaches, it’s
kinda wonky I know.
In fact, I spent 3 straight months going out 4-5 nights per week when I made my course
The God Approach, link in description but let’s not get off track.
You want to Be inclusive.
If the girl is with her friend, or is in a specific scenario, you want to include the
friends in the conversation.
When you’re talking focus your eye contact on the girl you’re interested in and make
sure you’re physically closer to her as well, but you also want to make eye contact
with her other friends around her so they don’t feel left out and drag their friend
off before you can even get a phone number.
This applies more to in-person interactions where you’re meeting somebody for the first
time.
Don’t just approach a group of girls and talk to the one you’re interested off in
the corner, this makes the friends uncomfortable and feeling awkward and left out.
It pragmatically is bad for you and it doesn’t create a fun, comfortable, and open environment
which the girl will prefer when first meeting a guy.
She needs that comfort and feeling of openness for attraction anyways so don’t oppose it.
And oddly enough, she’ll feel more comfortable giving you the time of day at first if her
friends are around since it takes some of the pressure off.
To make sure the friend is included, use what I call “The Friend Follow-Up” which is
basically where you ask the girl you’re interested in a question and after she responds,
and you flirt with her a bit, you ask the same question to the friend.
For example, if I ask the girl, “Where are you from?” - she’ll tell me her answer,
I’ll almost always tease her about it or turn it into a flirty exchange, and then I’ll
turn to the friend and ask her where she’s from.
This organically moves the conversation forward without feeling forced or awkward for anybody.
Besides, if you’re trying to get a cute girl to come home with you or break off from
her friends for an adventure then you’re going to need to leave a positive impression
on her friends and show them that you’re not only a guy their friend will be safe with,
but a guy that their friend will actually have a great time with.
#3 Lack of congruence.
Your words aren’t matching your actions.
You talk a big game, you say things that make you seem like you’re a confident badass
but you don’t back it up.
IF you want me to make a whole video on congruence then let me know and I’ll break it down
for you in detail.
Put simply, it means that you need to say what you mean, and mean what you say.
Most guys who are in the beginning stages of their dating and personal development journey
lack congruence.
They fake it til they make it and it ends up backfiring.
It ends up feeling ‘off’ and weird.
It gives off weird vibes.
She needs to know that you’re not just putting on a confident or ‘alpha’ act, you’re
actually embodying what you say you are.
This is the pinnacle of advanced game, it exudes confidence and security in yourself
and it attracts girls like crazy because it builds trust.
If you’re not the smooth-talking, witty guy, then don’t pretend to be because it’ll
leave you worse off than if you just played things cooler and more congruent with your
personality.
Girls are incredibly adept social people, they detect congruence immediately.
And if you’re being incongruent, then she’ll know and will be turned off.
She’ll see right through you.
Speaking of things that girls hate, they hate NOTHING more than a guy who’s a terrible
texter.
In fact, every time you send a girl a text, she’s testing you.
Your text serves as the audition.
She’s deciding whether or not you’re worth spending time on.
One text can make the difference between her falling head over heels for you, or ghosting
you until the end of time.
Relationships with gorgeous girls ride on the success of the messages you send her.
Send a bad text and you guys are done for good.
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