yeah that's right after pretty much a year Manny MUAa finally opened up about
his experience being cancelled and as someone who's been canceled myself I
thought this would be the perfect time to break that video down and discuss it
what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I try to
do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community and try to see
what lessons we can pull from them to improve our own mental and emotional
well-being so if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that
notification bell so two quick things I am releasing this video today September
first so if you catch it in time my brand new book cancelled inside YouTube
canceled culture you can get the e-book for free until the end of day two day
I've been doing it all month long and we have over 1200 downloads already crazy
so get yourself a copy there's also an audiobook if you want to buy that it's
only ten bucks but anyways after today the e-book the pdf version is only three
bucks the other one is five dollars but anyways like if you want to learn more
about cancel culture and why it's so toxic and what it's like to go through
it it's one of the many reasons I wrote this book so make sure you check out the
description check out the pin comment down below
second thing is I wrote down so many notes from manisManny MUAs video and I had the
biggest smile on my face the whole time so make sure to subscribe because
there's gonna be a two-parter okay in this video I'm going to be talking about
what mani was discussing when it comes to cancel culture and kind of break that
down but the next video I make I want to help teach all of you what we can learn
from what he's been through all right so this video we're going to be talking
about cancel culture but you guys like man I'll give you a little spoiler ahead
of time like if mani or anybody else can get through this like you can get
through some stuff you're going through and that's what
we're gonna be talking about in part two of the next video so anyways yeah it's
been about a year since drama get in one and oh my god like oh like cancel
culture I did a video the other day the witch hunt of Pro Jared and there's this
formula to witch hunts and one of them that really stands out to me one of the
factors in these witch hunts is how is started typically by something trivial
or there's lies that circulate and it could be both like like what happened to
Manny it was like oh my god he got exposed as being a bad friend or doing
or treating some friends poorly right and all of this happened which is
absolutely insane and yeah it affected him in a bunch of different ways
psychologically and I'm so glad that he opened up about this I remember a week
two weeks ago keemstar actually tweeted out that he
wanted to interview James Charles about what James Charles went through this
year you know when everything happened with talk to Westbrook and Jeffrey star
and everything and Jim's house was like you know what I just want to move
forward I just want to move forward and get past this right and I'm like dang
dude like when people get cancelled like we don't want to talk about it we just
want to have everybody forget about it and just move forward but like here's
the thing like so those of you who don't know me I've been clean and sober for
seven years I'm like I didn't want to talk about it I didn't want to share my
story but the thing is how am I supposed to help anybody who's about to go
through this if I don't share my story right so I'm so glad that manny has such
a big platform and he finally got to a place where he was willing to open up
about this and even though kind of bummed me out when Jan Schall said he
wasn't you're gonna want to do that interview where teams don't like
hopefully this is inspired James so like maybe even a year from now James is
willing to open up about his experience right because cancel culture is terrible
and let me discuss this a little bit later in the video but like listen it's
okay to disagree with people it's okay to not like people that's
but like joining in on the hate mob like that is not that is just it's so toxic
it's so toxic and so terrible so one of the things that Manny talks about is
this I'll show you a little clip and it was truly the most terrible thing I've
probably ever been through in my life emotionally and mentally it is probably
the worst thing I've ever gone through in my entire life and you guys cancel
culture basically says oh you've dub you're canceled
you'll never be brought back from life because you're literally dead in the
water hmm so there's a many things wrong with
that because you know what about for your forgiveness cancel culture does not
allow for growth and forgiveness and learning and allowing people to be
people yes yes like oh my god like all right it's so nice as somebody who's
been cancelled like it's so nice to hear somebody else discuss this like one of
the reasons we share our stories with one another whether it's you know your
your history of trauma or addiction or mental health or whatever is so we don't
feel alone right and what man is talking about is cancel culture doesn't give
people the opportunity to grow and and we're also not promoting forgiveness
like do you know how crazy that is like something I'm trying to teach people
right even my own son is like would you want to be forgiven would you expect
people to forgive you for this right like these things are black and white
like we're treating we're treating people who get cancelled for for these
silly trivial things like like they're a murderer or something like what but what
he was a bad friend like chill the hell out all right and it's absolutely
bananas and here's the thing like I I discussed this in the book a little bit
I think in the conclusion chapter like as somebody who is an advocate for you
know mental health and addiction like our prison system sucks right
like we punish people and it's not even just people who go who get locked up for
you know substance abuse and things like that but look at all prisons
system right like when people get out of prison it is so hard for them to get on
their feet get a job and repair their life you know what that's teaching them
but why even bother why even try to improve yourself because society is not
gonna forgive you and when I see canceled culture like just crash down on
somebody I'm just like do you not want this person to grow to become a better
person you know what I mean and I'm so proud of Manny for going out and seeking
therapy and doing stuff you know getting involved with it you know doing more
with his family and you know getting back into the gym and all that kind of
stuff but you guys like we have to have a society where we're willing to forgive
people all right like one of the worst things that we could do one of the worst
cognitive distortions that we can have is black-and-white thinking thinking
people are either all good or all bad no 99.9% of all of us human beings we
sit in the gray area we're good people who do some bad or stupid things
sometimes you know what I mean and it hurts and it sucks and it's
bullying imagine someone who has not same spot of me UK I'm 28 years old
imagine canceling someone who's 15 for something that they did imagine sending
them so much hate that they decide to hurt themselves for it in a very very
negative way you guys the suicide rates for LGBT youth are astronomical and it's
so sad imagine I can't even imagine someone getting even a percentage of the
hate that I got and where they would have to be mentally to be able to go
through that so right there he says one of the reasons he's sharing about this
is he imagines somebody else going through this and let me tell you this
this is probably the biggest reason that I wrote this book like so many of you
guys watching this like you know I know the majority of people aren't going to
go through what Manny MUA went through or even I went through
it out you know lesser level because I'm not as
of a youtuber but you guys like this is stuff that's happening at schools right
like when I was a kid like we didn't have social media like if people were
lucky they had those crappy Nokia cell phones with like snake on them and stuff
but now you can get canceled at your school you can get canceled at your
college and stuff right like cancel culture is this something that just
happens to youtubers and celebrities it's happening to people like I talked
about this in one of my last videos but I just finished a book call so so you've
been publicly shamed by Jon Ronson and most of that book is it's just normal
everyday people where canceled culture came after them and publicly shamed them
you know what I mean so one of the reasons why I finally decided to build
up the courage and just like write this book and share my experience is to help
others and oh my god and like I hope oh this might have to be a three parter
because if I see people harping on Manny for this video we're gonna talk about it
but anyways like when I released my book you know how many people you know how
many people are like oh my God look chris is trying to play the victim chris
is trying to do that and like I knew it I knew the second I sat down to write
that book I knew that was coming right but the thing is I have found meaning a
purpose in life to take my experience and help others that's just what I do
right so I will take all the backlash all of that from sharing my experience
and people say oh he's trying to play the victim or he oh he's not telling the
truth or blah blah blah blah whatever it is if I can help somebody else and like
I said over 1200 people have downloaded the book the free version so far like
cool I hope I've been able to help somebody and I know for a fact Manny is
helping people by sharing his story - yeah like you said like we have to talk
about this whenever I hear about people get cancelled getting cancelled and I
just heard about this with a game game developer but look at what happened to
Erica - earlier this summer you know what I mean like there were a million
different contributing factors though one of them was just the internet hate
mob just constantly on him egging him on and everything like that and it's like
we need to talk about this stuff we have to have conversations about this you
know what I mean like nothing's going to get better nothing is going to get like
nothing is going to change unless we have conversations about this and listen
check it out I know I do commentary here and I know there are other channels that
do commentary or they do drama or they do news right like you the audience like
if I could just teach you one thing like just one thing all right it's just
because you disagree with somebody's opinion doesn't mean that they shouldn't
have the right to discuss their opinions all right like we're humans we're going
to have different opinions I don't like seafood I thought like hell
some of you know I'm vegetarian we have different tastes in foods that doesn't
mean that I'm a bad person it doesn't mean that you're a bad person
so like broaden that scope what's your favorite color
alright mine sometimes blue or black or gray I like a bunch of different colors
but if those are your favorite colors who cares we all have different views
opinions and preferences and things like that it doesn't mean that you need to
cancel somebody just because you disagree with the way that they live or
the way that they see the world or the views or the opinions they have alright
because I'll be honest with you 90% of opinions are not hurting anybody
I know we like to think in this current political climate that words are harming
people but it's just if you cannot handle a differing opinion than yours
like that's a you problem all right like we need to take
accountability like I used to have a very screwed-up mental filter where I
got offended by everything and then I realize I'm like oh wait they're not the
problem I'm the problem like I have to just ask myself like why
does it matter if these other people have different views or opinions that I
do we all have our own different life experiences that make us the way we are
and I fully realize that want to say thank you to everyone who
allows me to continue to do what I love and to continue to do what I'm doing and
for you guys to be there for me to let me make mistakes to understand I'm going
to make them and that I'm doing the best that I can to be a positive role model
for you and for myself and for many family and for my friends and to
continue to grow as a human being you know as you fall down you got to get
back up that's just how it works so right there like Manny talks about how
he's still going to mess up but he also talked about right before that about
standing up for himself like check it out like both those things and I hope
everybody learns from that too like when you get cancelled you get so afraid
right like Manny talks about in his video like you know some people have
commented that he's not the same he's not his caddy and things like that he's
like he was just playing it up mate that might be yet that could be yet for me
personally like some of it like some of it was played up but a lot of it was
just who I am and four months after I got canceled I was so afraid to be me to
be Who I am and vocalize my opinions because I was so worried about how
people were going to take it or twist it and do whatever whatever they wanted to
with it you know what I mean and like Manny says like standing up for
yourself like if you believe in things like stand up for them all right like
people are gonna disagree with you and that's cool all right there are going to
be people who do agree with you and they will be on your side but like he said
he's still gonna mess up like hi I'm Chris I'm not perfect either I'm going
to screw up right and I don't think Manny ever said in his entire life that
he's perfect and he is the person that you should hold up on a pedestal right
it's something weird that we do with these parasocial relationships we're
like oh that person's successful so they must be a perfect human being like no
like Manny does makeup I make youtube videos and try to teach you about what
I've learned about life and mental health and addiction and all these other
things like we are you know next coming of Jesus we're all
going to screw up but again it goes back to forgiveness like I feel what people
have an issue doing is looking at the situation by swapping shoes and just
saying what I want to be forgiven for this you know what I mean and speaking
of messing up man he also talks about how recently he had a little drama in
the last week where he didn't give credit to another makeup artist for a
certain look and it was kind of like he saw the second person who did it so I
didn't know who the original came from and he publicly just said you know he
said sorry and he gave her credit and everything like that he goes on a thing
about like helping out small creators and lifting them up and like listen like
I just recently started following Manny probably within the last week or so so
right I started following I saw this happening I'm like what is what is going
on I'm like cheese like like you screwed up into oops oops
oopsie mistake right you know and the most we can do as human beings the most
we can do is when we're wrong we admit to it and we try to improve ourselves
that's all we can do and listen listen baby that's all we can expect from
anybody else too when somebody screws up all we can hope for is that they learn
from it and try to improve and try to grow from it alright so the last thing I
want to say before I let you go and do part two is like I I don't know if Manny
will ever watch this video but I want to apologize to Manny because when I was
covering you know lessons that we can learn from drama get and everything like
that like I was harsh I was brutal and that's the thing so many of us from the
outside looking in we're like here's what I would do here's what they should
have done here's how they should apologize here's how they should make
videos here's how they should act on social media all that stuff and that is
so like I was so dense and ignorant right like when I went through it like
nothing you do is right I think some of the more recent people who have gone
through this they've learned from people like
who went through it and screwed up massively like I talked about in my book
like I did everything wrong and I empathize with so many people now so
like yeah you know when we make videos like I was dumb enough to make videos
like breaking down Manny's apology and you see people doing this anytime an
apology comes out like jeez it's so crazy and I feel like such a chump you
know when you look back at your younger self even though for me it was just like
a year ago like you look back at your younger self you like what was I
thinking god I was a brutal human big but anyways I'm gonna link Manny's video
down below if you're new to my channel you have no idea what I'm talking about
but anyways don't forget you have until the end of day today midnight Pacific
time alright to grab yourself a free copy of my brand new book cancelled
inside YouTube cancer culture the ebook and yeah that's the link down in the
description down to the pink comment below alright anyways that's all I got
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I'll see you next time