Mat Boggs: Hey this is Mat Boggs, and today we're going to go a little bit deep on you,
where we're talking about online dating.
Now I was having a conversation with a client of mine, and this particular idea I felt could
really serve you, so I wanted to bring it to you.
A lot of times when we're wanting to meet somebody online there's a lot of focus that
goes into the emails that we're writing, a lot of focus in what the profile actually
says, the picture.
Rightly so, but often times there's a level above that.
My client, great photos, great profile, but she wasn't attracting the guys that she wanted.
She wasn't having guys reach out to her, and she was reaching out to a bunch of guys, taking
a lot of action and wasn't seeing the results that she wanted.
Maybe you've been there, maybe you've been in a position where you're putting a lot of
effort in, but you're not seeing the results that you want, and there's a big question
mark that comes up.
Which is, what am I missing here?
Anytime we're thinking the question what am I missing, it's important to look beyond the
physical results that we're seeing.
It's important to look beyond just the physical strategy.
I knew something about this client, because I've coached her, I know her story.
We're on this call and she said, "Look Mat, my photos are great, my profile is great.
What am I missing?
If you were to give me one piece of advice, some really solid feedback on kind of how
I'm showing up what would it be?"
My feedback to her was this.
"Start believing in men again."
You see I knew that she had a past relationship that she was forgiving and moving on, but
that there was a place in her mind where she really felt like this guy from the past was
the best that she would ever have.
I shared a story with her, well that my story too.
I was in a relationship where I thought we were soulmates, it was the best relationship
we were ever going to have.
Maybe you've been there, but that relationship didn't work out.
Then I was forced with a decision.
I was either going to live with an emotional cord tied to the past, that some other girl
that I would never be with was going to be the best that I would ever have, or I would
be willing to cut that cord and really start believing that there was a woman who could
be even better than that for me.
A relationship that could be even deeper, more passionate for me.
I started believing again that that was a possibility.
The interesting thing is believing is like creating an energetic opening in our lives,
and that opening attracts new results to us.
Very shortly after getting online, when nothing was happening for me, even though I was taking
lots of action, I had a good profile, good pictures, but it was like a lot of dead ends.
When I shift the power of my believing, and started believing in women again, in the sense
that there's an amazing woman out there that it could be an extraordinary match for me.
That's when everything shifted.
Very shortly after I met my wife.
I shared that story with my client.
I said, "Start believing in men again.
There's a great man in store for you, and he wants you to believe in him.
He's looking for you online right now, but the energy you're sending out is closed off
energy.
Really there's no openings for anything great to find it's way into your life.
As you open that up he's going to start flowing into your life."
I'll ask you the same question.
Perhaps you're in a place where you have an old energetic tie to a past relationship,
and you're putting the work out there, you're taking all the action, but nothings really
opening up.
Ask yourself, is there a place in me that doesn't believe that I'm really going to find
something special, and how can you change that?
How can shift that to really believe that the best is yet to come?
Believe that there's an amazing man in store for you, because when you do that will create
an opening, and that opening allows a whole new flow of energy into your life.
I hope that this serves you, and I would love to hear from you.
If there was one belief that you knew that you could adopt that would open more energy,
more positive flow for love in your life, what would that belief be?
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