If you nail a first date then you're going to have a higher chance of getting a second date. I know
that it can be really tough when you really like a girl and you feel like you have a lot to offer,
but then you end up on a date and you just make some dumb mistakes. Like this one - telling her
every single thing about you. Yeah we like to do it especially when we're really attracted
to a girl. We're on a date and we just want to dump it all. She doesn't know anything about us,
we want to let her know everything about us, we want to tell all of our stories,
all of our insecurities, all of our fears, talk about all of our past relationships,
talk about all of our likes and our dislikes, and our family and our job and what we like about our
job and we just want to give her every fact and emotion possible. Let me tell you, it is possible
to do that. I know people myself included guilty who have been on dates that go 7 to 10 hours. I
mean if she ends up sleeping over or you sleep at her place, now we're talking about an easy 12 to
16 hours. And I know in that time you can't literally tell her every single thing about
yourself but you can tell enough where you're not leaving a little bit of mystery. And that's the
mistake - that you're not leaving enough mystery for her to be more excited to continue to get to
know you. One of the reasons why long-term relationships start to die over the years is
because there is little mystery and then in order to get that back or get that excitement back,
you have to do a variety of things and new things together so you have to defeat that mystery. Why
not start off on the first date and extend that as much as you can. Of course you don't want to tell
her absolutely nothing, but you also don't have to dump all of it on her. Let her discover you
slowly. Another big mistake guys make on that first date is they are not being flirtatious
enough. They might not even be going for a kiss at the end of the first date which I encourage
you to do, although I know that it's not always easy to make that happen depending on how the
connection went. Either way, if you're not going for a kiss at the end of the first date you should
be flirting with her. You should be making it easy for you guys to connect on more than a friendship
level. Otherwise she's gonna walk away from the date and go hmm yeah I can maybe see being his
friend. Or they'll say the famous line which is "Yeah he was a nice guy. I just didn't really
feel a connection with him." Most of the time that means that you didn't spike her emotions and you
weren't flirty enough and you were all facts over emotions telling her all the different statistics
about you as if you were reading a resume - not having fun, not teasing her, not making light,
not making jokes throughout. This date is not just a factual exchange, it's about having some sort
of emotion which allows for connection. Speaking of facts, this brings us to the next mistake. If
you are not qualifying her enough and you're only trying to have fun, that's going to be a problem
because first dates are not just dates where you're trying to get her attracted to you. Don't
try and get her attracted to you. It should first of all just happen sort of naturally.
But more importantly is this woman a good fit for you? Forget the attraction piece - is this
woman someone that you can see seeing again? Is she a good fit for you? Does she match your 3
non-negotiables, the 3 things that you're looking for in a woman? You need to be qualifying her
throughout the whole date, there's an art to this. You don't want to just sit down and say okay what
should we order and then all of a sudden you start drilling her with all these questions.
No. Instead have a few questions picked out that you can sprinkle in the date so that you'll get
to know her a little bit better and see is she someone who qualifies to be with me? For example,
if you're someone who is looking for another person who's really into politics or leans to
one side, you might want to be bringing that up on the date just to see where they stand there.
If you don't know, you have to ask. Wouldn't it be a bummer if you found that out on date
seven or eight and just realizing wow we've only taken this long to finally get to the point where
you're getting to know her on the important levels? Don't wait long, do it on date one.
Ask some of those questions that are important to you that you're going to be asking anyways but
are specific to what you're looking for. If you do like her, then the next mistake I see guys make is
you're not seeding the idea of a second date. One of the best ways to build attraction with
a woman is creating what I call the we bubble. We being the pronoun that's describing you and
her creating this imaginary bubble over you two so it's as if there's no one else in the room,
so we create this connection between you and her. In this connection you want to be seeding ideas
that you guys might be hanging out again. If you guys are talking and having a good time and you've
qualified her enough to know you want to see her again, you might mention something that you've
always wanted wanted to do and she should join you sometime. In fact, you can even go as far to make
it more efficient for yourself so that if you guys have a great connection at the end of that date,
you can actually create a second date so you guys can set up a time to see each other once again.
And the thing is, a woman's gonna know by the end of the date if she likes you. This is not going to
be any kind of risky move. She's either interested or she's not interested. In order to get her more
interested on a date you also have to know when to break the touch barrier, when to make sure
you are going for a kiss at the end of the date. I have a video here on YouTube that you can watch
that's going to teach you how to go for a kiss, how to break the touch barrier so that you don't
make the mistake of not being flirty enough and creating that we bubble. You can watch that video
and if you need more help you can always work with a one-on-one coach over here at Tripp Advice that
will get you on tons of first dates so you can start to practice this stuff. If first dates
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