hi I'm Manjit Kaur Ruprai I'm a clinical hypnotherapist
EMDR therapist and a counselor today I will talk to you about why you are more
prone to getting into a narcissistic relationship most of you will have had
more than one narcissistic relationship and most of you will have had a
narcissistic parent I know that I fit into this category which is probably why
I went from one not relationship on to the next and on to the next and on to the
next I used to think that there was something wrong with me
yes I am a codependent and an empath and I've struggled with boundaries which is
one of the reasons why I have attracted narcs into my life they're always on
the prowl for vulnerable people that they can take advantage of and
manipulate narcs are great actors and love attention and empaths are good
at resonating the people's feelings and doing anything to please the other half
I used to think I'm a narc magnet I am in the sense that they were able to
sense my vulnerability and good nature from a mile so they manipulated me in
order to get what they wanted and to latch onto me but no I didn't ask for a narc
to come in my life I see the statement time and time again am i a narc magnet
why do I keep on getting narcs the reality is I had no sense of boundaries
and I was after someone that could save me I liked the idea of having someone
rather than being with the actual person they were my false sense of reality
I was also attracted to toxic types of men this is because I became used to
being treated badly I became used to tolerating abuse and to be taken
advantage of the lack of boundaries didn't help as I
didn't have any in the first place I just wanted to please the person even
though I was suffering deeply inside and I resented them and
myself although I didn't want toxic relationships I was attracted to narcs
on a subconscious level and it felt normal to me this is something I was
unaware of at the time someone nice seemed so boring as I was used to being
treated like crap this is something I should never have got used to but I had
no sense of self-worth at the time narcissits and codependents are drawn to
one another and they feed off each other I was the
codependent and the abuser took what they could so it's important to remember
you have the giver which is the codependent and that will be you and the
taker which is the narccist narcissists are always searching for
codependence so it's important to learn boundaries and self-worth you may not
know where to start with self-worth and boundaries as you've never had any start
by thinking how you should be treated think about what you deserve as a person
then think about how you're being treated currently it will hopefully make
you see things differently look into your life how are you being treated
rather than jumping from one relationship to the next to the next in
the hope that you will find happiness and be saved
take time out work on your healing build your self-worth work on your boundaries
as that is what will save you you don't need to be rescued be your own rescuer
and it's only then will things begin to change it is only then that you increase
your chances of not attracting narcs I can't promise myself or you if I will
attract another narcissist but I'm absolutely 100% sure how I want to be
treated if i ever did i will not be sticking around if you find you were
questioning if your newfound relationship is a narc or is
toxic it means you are not ready to be in one just take a step back and think
about what is acceptable and what isn't if your newfound relationship is doing
things or behaving in ways that you don't like it means that they are not
for you don't be afraid to walk away if they
were the one there would be no questions asked it is only when you have truly
worked on your healing will you know what you want there is nothing wrong
with taking time out take as long as you need
there's not a mad race please feel free to comment below and visit my website
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