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Do you have an overwhelming fear of
losing your loved ones? You distrust other people
or have anxiety about being abandoned?
Abandonment issues typically arise in childhood,
but can develop later on in life as well.
The fear of abandonment
is a serious type of anxiety that often stems from
a traumatic experience.
Some aren't even aware of their own repressed emotional trauma.
But it can manifest into unhealthy
behaviours over time. So,
here are 7 Signs You may Have Abandonment Issues.
One: you're a people pleaser.
Do you want to impress everyone you meet? Whether it's your friends,
acquaintances, or family members, you
try to meet their expectations to get on their good side.
You're the one who tries harder in your relationship,
and you're willing to put everyone else's needs ahead of yours,
as long as it gets them to stay. If you
have a strong need to please people and gain their approval,
you may still have some unresolved abandonment issues.
Two: you struggle with insecurity.
Do you sometimes think that someday,
the people closest to you will get sick of you and leave? People who
are afraid of being abandoned often struggle with feelings of
insecurity and inadequacy because someone you
loved has walked out on you in the past.
You've internalized the emotional trauma. You may
have wrongly believed that it was YOUR fault that they left.
This can result in low self-esteem and a need for
constant re-assurance.
Three: you find it hard to trust people
Do you find it hard to trust others to keep their promises
or to be there for you? You want to be in
control of your relationships and know everything that's going on with your loved ones?
Because you've been hurt in the past, you have a strong fear of
being left alone. In certain cases,
it can lead to feelings of unreasonable jealously,
suspicion, and possessiveness over your friends and
romantic partners.
Four: you're afraid to be vulnerable
Do you feel uncomfortable during moments of
emotional intimacy and honesty?
Are you scared of getting close to someone or
needing them too much?
Your deep-seeded
fear of
abandonment may manifest into a fear of
intimacy and emotional vulnerability. You may
unconsciously sabotage your relationships by
pushing people away just as you start to care for them.
You may struggle with commitment, and
act detached and indifferent when you really do care.
Five: you look for reasons to leave.
Do you always look for reasons to leave
in fear of getting too attached to someone?
You hold your loved ones to unrealistically high standards
and you only focus on their flaws. You don't give them
any room for mistakes. You do this
knowing that they're bound to disappoint you. And when they fail to meet your
expectations, you use it as an excuse to give up
and leave.
Six: you move on too quickly
Do you have difficulty forming meaningful relationships that last
because of deep-seeded fear of abandonment?
When you cycle through relationships one after another
and move on too quickly, you're not allowing yourself the
time and space to deal with the emotional fallout.
Instead, you dive into something new and exciting
to distract yourself.
You never want to be alone, because it would force you to
confront the personal issues you've been repressing for so long.
And number 7...
you cling to unhealthy relationships
Do you find yourself gravitating towards all the wrong people?
Have you stayed with someone knowing they're bad for you?
The trauma of being abandoned, especially at a young age,
can stay with you for a long time.
And since we're all hard-wired to recreate our early childhood experiences
for the comfort and familiarity, your childhood
taught you the wrong things about love.
It's not uncommon for you to be drawn to people who
treat you poorly.
Do you relate to any of the signs mentioned here?
I know I did...
Is a fear of abandonment harming your relationships
and keeping you from being happy? Let us know in the comments below.
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