Hey everybody welcome back to Skillopedia and you are with me Meera. Guys you know,
what's the biggest problem in the world? Any guesses? For those who all are thinking, “hate”,
“jealousy”, “war”, “unemployment”… you all are wrong. This biggest problem in
the world is a disease we might catch, no… it's not HIV it's not malaria, it's the disease
of “being boring”. Now why do I call it a disease or an epidemic? Well, because it
kills your chances of a good career, getting a date, kills your personality… If you're
being boring, believe me you will never be able to get the best in life. So how do we
cure ourselves of this epidemic? How do we get rid ourselves of this disease? Today I
have exactly few tips for you that will help you get rid of it.
Now when you get to a party at work or when you're on a date, what do you say? Most of
us say, “how's work going?” Or “how's everything?” Now these questions are what
I call “social scripts”, you're saying them because you don't know what else to say.
These questions are so predictable, let me tell you and the person who answers them,
knows this as well. So I really want to challenge you all, to “engage people in active thinking”.
How will you do that? You need to ask questions that make them give you an answer based on
their deep believes or emotions. So on a date you could say something like so tell me, “are
there any particular project at work that you are deeply passionate about?” or “I
love your work is there anything else you would rather do?” Now these questions are
comfortable questions which make a person talk about his likes, his dislikes, his preferences
and the person you are speaking with really feels that you're genuinely interested in
them and that makes you a lot more interesting. So boring out, interesting and engaging in.
There were many years where I felt like I never had great connections, you know? Never
had close friends or colleagues, never. I realized that somehow I wasn't interesting
enough. Now when I closely analyzed, why..? I found that my actions show that I wasn't
showing people that I was interested in them. Now let me tell you that, people find you
interesting, only when you show that you are interested in them. How do you do that? Pick
a close person in your conversation that help you ask interesting details about them. For
example, your friend is a software developer, you can say, “being a developer must be
very challenging, how do you cope up with such a fast-paced industry?” or someone
who's a freelancer, you can say, “how do you get inspired to write about things, where
do you draw your insights from?” Your questions are showing that you're interested in the
people you are talking to, your questions give importance to people and that's how you
become more likeable. Believe me, if you give importance to people, you become less boring
and you end up having a real advantage talking to people and in your social life. When talking
to people, also make sure your phone, that your phone, you're not busy with your phone,
make sure that you maintain eye contact and give your 100% attention to them, focus on them.
This is almost like a no-brainer, okay? But having to say that, giving compliments and
genuine ones, definitely will make you more interesting. Interestingly there is at least
one good thing you can you know, you can say to anyone you meet. So why not say it, right?
What if that's the most first good thing that you've ever heard from them in the whole day?
Now, wouldn't you be an interesting person for them? Think about it. Give compliments,
it doesn't take more than a minute and doesn't take any money out of you. It's easy and makes
you a lot less boring around people.
Well guys, make sure your body language is right. Now what does that mean? You could
use three simple tips… every time you speak with someone, lean in their direction, like
so, why? Because psychology says that, if you like someone you are bound to lean closer
towards them. So subconsciously, it shows that you are genuinely interested and that
makes you less boring. When someone is talking to you, make sure you just nod multiple times,
to show that you're engaged in what they're saying or what they have to say. People love
to be heard and this is a way to ensure that you make them feel that you're paying close
attention to them. Now this one is optional, but you can also touch them or Pat them slightly
on their arm maybe or on their shoulder to show affection. Just make sure, you do it
once, if you've done that once, you've established a good deal of comfort with that person.
Not everyone is natural at, you know, cracking jokes, but if you are one of those people
who can make light, of any situation, you will never be called boring. Now using humor
doesn't mean that you need to crack a full-blown joke, even if you pass a comment that makes
people crack a smile, it's a good sign. If you're talking to your date about living with
your parents, instead of saying, ‘I'm currently living with my parents’, you can say, “well
it's been a while since I have woken up to my mother yelling at me to make my bed but
I love being with my folks”. When you say that way, chances are that you will make people
smile and enjoy being with you, simply by using humor in the smallest possible way.
Hey guys I just want to thank you for watching this video because I wanted to make sure that
there's anything inside you that is Mr. boring or Miss boring, I want to make sure that that
goes out and interesting comes in to you. Well guys that's all for today. I hope you've
got some good tips, I will see you soon in another video with another topic, until then
this is me Meera saying, ciao.