- My dear ladies, today I will share with you six ways
that he shows that he cares, but he actually doesn't.
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So finally, without further ado, the sign number one:
he cancels when the better option shows up
by giving you tons of very genuine excuses.
So ladies, this is the trick
that people can get away with a lot,
and the trick is that men use a lot,
and women use a lot as well, is when you cancel on somebody
make it look very genuine,
so the person truly believes you and we let it go.
Plus if you will cancel in an aggressive, rude
or I-don't-care way, then you cannot get away
by lying that you care about the person,
because you canceled in a rude way,
therefore the action speaks very loud.
But when you cancel on a person in a very genuine way,
soft and with a long excuse,
and you also love bomb the person and sugarcoat everything,
then the person is more likely to still feel special,
overlook that action that actually shows
that you are not a priority,
and then the better option comes along,
he lets you go just like that.
Number two is actually following from number one.
Again, his messages are very sweet, loving,
he calls you all the most beautiful names.
He puts all these heart emojis everywhere.
Like every message he types is love you this, love you that,
you're the most amazing,
the most beautiful et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
However, six months, eight months later,
you still don't know any of his family.
You still don't know any of his friends.
He keeps going on holidays every two weeks.
He keeps traveling around the world
while sending you all these sweet emojis,
but you are never in (indistinct).
So what he's doing, he's actually throwing you a bone,
as I say, or just like gives you breadcrumbs
with his sweetie emojis.
He's trying to sugarcoat his action
and really is hoping that he can get away with it
while keeping you attached on the string.
So you keep having hopes about him
that one day he'll take you on that amazing holiday,
one day he will introduce you to his family and friends,
because his messages and words are just so loving.
Not.
Number three, where he doesn't really care about
even though he says that he really does
is when he asks you out
and you're kind of ready to be together,
but you kind of tell him
that you won't be able to sleep with him.
And then suddenly out of the blue,
something comes up and he cancels on you,
giving you the sweetest, nicest,
the most excusable excuse ever,
sugarcoating the whole fact that he's it just for one thing
and making you believe that you are more worthy to him
than just the night thing.
Number four sign that he pretends he cares
but he actually doesn't:
he talks with you a lot about intimate things
and he gives you tons of compliments all the time
like he completely love bombs you in all the possible ways
but he never asks you any personal questions.
He never asks you about your childhood.
He never asks you about your parents, about your family.
He never asks you about your wants or dreams, et cetera.
He's not interested in getting to know you.
And when you actually start to share these things,
he changes the topic, usually in love bombing you
and making you feel special by that.
Or he just simply does not listen.
Or you share something with him
and then the next time you can see
that he actually forgot what you have told him
about your personal life.
Why is that?
It's because he sees you as a casual fun
and he simply doesn't care.
Number five is when you guys have been dating
for 3, 4, 6 months, and he still has not made it official.
You kind of got tired of hinting
and you actually started asking him to be your boyfriend
or asking, "Where is this going?
How do you see us? Why aren't you taking me seriously?
Or why are we not official yet?"
And he keeps giving you the same excuses such as like,
"Oh, you know, you're so wonderful.
You're so beautiful,
but I'm just not ready for relationship.
I have big commitment issues
because of my childhood or upbringing,
or I just feel like if we put a title on it,
I will start to feel suffocated and controlled
and I'm not gonna feel free anymore,
and I need to feel free,"
and whatever else's coming up with
hoping that his excuse will be reasonable or big enough,
and that it'll also make sense to you,
and you're gonna be this lovely, nice girl
who will be very understanding
and will still stick around with him,
letting him take advantage of you.
Number six reason where it looks like he cares
but he doesn't is he calls you a lot
and you talk on a phone a lot
and maybe perhaps even every single day,
or maybe you text each other a lot, right?
So on a phone you share and talk about your day,
a lot of sexual things, of course,
'cause that's what guys usually want.
And they don't make you into their girlfriend.
They really see you just like that.
So the focus usually is on sexual topics, right?
So let's say you talk about this type of stuff
a lot on a phone or in the text messages,
sometimes about the other stuff too.
And you think like, "Well, he must care about me
'cause he calls me every single day.
He checks on me. He sends me these messages."
And you're kind of lost and confused because you think
that by talking to you so much and calling you so much
he's showing that he's really, really into you.
Therefore you keep waiting for him to make it official
'cause you're hoping that one day he will snap out of it,
that he will wake up and will see how amazing you are,
and will make you into the one.
So ladies, to summarize the whole thing
about bashing the guys, right?
I just wanna see that, yes, there are plenty of guys
who will take advantage of you.
But a lot of times also we let men take advantage of us
by not showing or by not presenting ourselves
as valuable and worthy.
And many times we let men to take advantage of us
by settling for less.
When a guy drops you a bone
and you know it's not good enough 'cause it's a bone, right,
you're so into it that you take it
or you feel so desperate for that relationship or that guy,
you're basically settling.
And then you are settling for something like this,
you are reducing your own value and worth.
You're saying "I'm happy with that.
I don't need any more."
So what he does, he takes it as a message
and he just keeps dropping you bones
or giving you breadcrumbs along the way.
And if later on you complain about it,
he's like, "Well, you were happy with the bone before.
So why are you becoming such a high maintenance?," right?
So ladies, if you want a man that respects and cherishes
and adores you, don't accept what's not good enough,
because if you will accept what's not good enough,
you will keep getting what's not good enough.
Why? 'Cause you're still accepting it.
If you will not respect or value yourself,
if you will not respect or value your body,
people will take advantage of it.
People will use it.
People will do whatever they can get away with.
Is it right? No, of course is not.
But this is the world we live in.
We don't live on heaven, as they say.
We have bad and we have good and you will get manipulated
if you are not behaving in a wise way.
Whereas on the other hand, if you are respecting yourself,
if you are valuing yourself,
if you are protecting your purity,
people will look at you differently.
They will look at you with value and respect.
You will get a completely different type of treatment.
And ladies, how to have this self-respect,
how to show your value and worth, how to behave ladylike
and show it to others in a feminine non-aggressive way,
I have written it all in my ebook "Devoted Relationships,"
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So thank you for watching. Kisses from Dorset, mwah!