Welcome back.
In this episode, we are going to talk about how to take negative thoughts and turn them
into positive thoughts or positive outcomes.
This is a crucial lesson to learn especially for youth today who get caught up in negative
thinking.
They don't feel like life is worth living because they're focusing on what's going wrong
instead of what's going right in their lives.
So, get ready to be empowered with something that will help those that you care about to
be able to get on win streak in life.
So, being on a board of teenage suicide prevention, we find that many young people for example
get hung up on what's going wrong in their lives.
And they set themselves up to almost feel like a loser every day.
What they don't realize is that our creator put into factory installed --pituitary glands,
endorphins that can be released chemicals naturally that can have you actually feeling
high.
A good high on life.
Stronger than artificial.
One's that we're off such as drugs or alcohol or sex or pornography or shopping or sugar
or eating.
Those type of things that we're off.
And that's where people become addicted.
And I've helped many people with 12-steps programs to overcome addictions.
But this is probably the single most important concept that I've been able to teach people
on how to get on a win streak.
And I Dan Sulivan, my good friend, the strategic coach for coming up with this.
Because I've always try to everyday write down my carpet deums, okay?
Carpet Deums seize the day.
And I like to go through and think, "Okay, what are 3 carpet deums or 3 positive things
that happened today?"
I've made a habit of this.
And so at night, before I swing my feet from the floor up in the bed, that's my signal
to write my 3 wins.
It takes about 60 seconds.
And so, I can do that in a little black book filled notes or you can use an app.
So, Dan Sulivan created a free app.
It's called Win Streak.
And you can use it on an iPhone or an iPad or an Android version.
And it's this simple.
When I take out my smart phone or my iPad or even a little booklet, I think about 3
wins I have for the day.
Not what went wrong, what went right.
So, I may think about today.
And that I exercise, I ran 3 miles, I did 70 push-ups.
Okay, that's a win.
maybe I finished 4 chapters in my book --Entitlement Abolition or whatever book I'm working on.
And maybe it was our 16th grandchild's first birthday that we celebrated.
Whatever it is, I look at 3 things that went right.
3 positive things.
Those are called wins.
I don't look at what went wrong during the day.
I focus on what went right.
Over here, this is where I write down, 3 wins I would like to have the next day.
So, maybe I write down "I'm going to get up and exercise.
I'm going to do cardio and so forth.
And then, I'm going to have a date night with my wife, Cherry.
And then I'm going to have an incredible audience at my next event on that day and so forth."
And so, those are 3 wins.
Now, if they actually don't come fruition, if something happens, I don't beat myself
up.
"Oh, my day turned out so bad."
No, I look up what went right.
When you do that, you get on a win steak because you're focusing on what went right instead
of what went wrong during the day.
If you're going to create an app, a game, would you create a game where you're always
losing most of the time?
Well, no.
That's no fun.
But would you believe how many people, youth that almost set themselves up to feel like
they're losing the game of life everyday, because they're focused on what's going wrong,
what didn't go right.
Instead of what did go right.
So, let me give you a couple of examples on how this applies in real life.
So, one day my wife and I were working out at our fitness center.
The gym with the trainer at 6:00 in the morning.
At about 6:20 A-M we we're doing some exercises --lifting kettle bells.
Now, if you don't know what a kettle bell is, it's a big iron bell that's weighs a lot.
Sometimes 12 and 15, 16 pounds.
And what we would do is we would actually lift up the kettle bells that strengthens
our legs so that we could ski.
And we'd lift up the kettle bells and you lift it up with enough uhmp that you let go.
But you have to come underneath and catch it and then put it down on the floor.
And he lifted up like you come them and so this strengthens your legs so we're doing
this kettle bells.
And my trainer would often realize that I was not focus because I'm so used to doing
in these and even say Doug, focus!
Well, my mind was a million miles away because this is routine.
And about the third time I came up and I let go and I came down so fast my two front teeth
hit the kettle bell.
Guess who won?
The kettle bell.
It rings so loud in this 5,000 square feet foot gym.
Everybody heard the kettle bell ring.
Well that was not the beginning of a very nice day.
6:20 in the morning.
These tooth broke up clear up here in the jawbone.
This went shattered.
Blood is spurting out and I'm thinking, "Ugh, I had an audience that night I needed to speak
to."
Well, what happened is I got a hold of my dentist.
He lives an hour away and he said, " You know what?
I'm in town, get down here ASAP.
Let see we can save those teeth.
I'm going to have to give you some medication to make sure that the pain not there when
you're speaking tonight."
I got down to his office and he put me first one on the chair before all of his patients.
And I really appreciated him doing that.
And he was able to do a root canal to save these two, to bring it back.
This one he re-constructed and I look like this.
Perfect for the presentation that I gave that night to an audience of about a 100 people.
Of course he gave me some pain meds so that I could handle that because it was strobing
and writing down my 3 wins, what do you think I wrote down?
I didn't focus on " Oh what a bummer of a day.
I bumped teeth my teeth!"
No.
I wrote down what were right.
My dentist was in town.
He put me in the chair for first thing.
He saved my tooth.
He said if I was 20 minutes any longer, he wouldn't have been able that.
He constructed it.
He gave me payments that I was able to get my presentation.
See, it's focusing on what went right that day.
Not what went wrong.
When we are raising our 6 children, I remember one day my wife calling and saying, "Emren.."
That's our oldest son.
We have 2 sons and 4 daughters.
"Emren just fail and he has got to have probably 15 to 20 stitches.
I am involved with the group of women.
Can you drop everything at the office and go down because he's asking for he's daddy."
Now, I can choose to be upset but I am not obligated to be.
Instead of thinking "Oh, wow!
I'm going to have to reschedule with these clients.
I've got a call and postpone and cancel."
No.
I don't worry about that.
I went down and was with my little boy who was 5 years old at the emergency room.
And they've put it about 16, 17 stitches right here.
He didn't even wimper.
At the end, he hugged the doctors hand and thanked him and the doctors said, "Wow, you're
a brave little boy."
And my son said, "That's because my daddy is with me and he's my hero."
Was that a win or what?
That was more important than being with...
I don't know how many clients that day.
See, that's a win.
No matter how your days turned out because they never turn out quite like we planned.
Don't focus on what's going wrong.
Focus on what's going right.
And as you get in the habit to do this, you'll get on a win streaks.
So, let me share how this will change your children and grand children when you develop
this habit.
So, you start doing this with your children and grand children.
And I assure you they might resist it first.
They may say, "Oh, nothing went right."
Or you say, "Let's talk about the wins."
Maybe it's around the dinner table.
Maybe at night before family prayer or whatever.
Before you talk them to the bed.
Well, what went right?
You know kids.
"Oh, nothing.
The teacher didn't call on me today.
I got bullied.
They made fun of me."
Well, if they know that every evening, the ritual in the family is to go around and focus
on the wins.
See, I climb in the bed.
And many times I turn to my wife Cherry saying, "What were your 3 wins for the day?"
And then she says, "Well, what were your 3 wins for the day?"
Because it's a habit.
Pretty soon, your children will realize that this is what you expect.
And they'll start looking for what's going right.
They may say, "Oh, you know a young lady moved into our school and she was all alone at lunch.
And so, I went over and sat with her.
Is that a win, dad?"
"Yeah, high five.
That is a win."
When they start looking for opportunities of what's going right, watch their constant
change.
Watch them be able to take control of their attitudes.
And they will be able to turn on those endorphins naturally by getting on win streak on focusing
on what's going right.
And guess what?
They won't need external stimuli --Drugs, alcohol to feel high.
Because those things were off.
They will know how to permanently get on a win streak by focusing on what's going right.
So, that's the power behind this.
And as part of this whole idea of taking anything negative and turn it into a positive.
So, I would encourage that you watch this episode to understand how to take negative
experiences and turn them into positive outcomes just like taking any thoughts and turning
them into positive by getting on win streak.
Instead of feeling like you're losing the game of life.