hey naturals this is a short and super helpful english speaking lesson for you if you want to
sound more confident i get this question a lot not only how can you sound more fluent when
you're speaking english but how can you sound more confident and why is confidence important
well i think it's worth noting that when you sound confident people tend to have more trust in
you they tend to give that some power so they're more likely to follow your suggestions and perhaps
this would be helpful in your work if you're looking to advance in your career and you want
people to really trust that you know what you're talking about and there have been many studies
that sometimes people who are more confident even if they're not as smart or well informed
they advance more quickly in their careers because simply they're confident and people tend to trust
this feeling this confident feeling that they exude so now we know why it's important to seem
confident or to be confident but how how do you project this feeling of confidence how do you make
others believe that you are a confident person well of course part of it is in
your body language are you slouched do you sit up straight your posture is important
part of it is in your volume and your tone do you tend to whisper your weird words and talk very
very softly and sometimes stutter or do you speak in a loud and clear voice and take your
time expressing yourself do you stress important words and vocabulary is super important so i want
to share three things to stop saying if you want to sound more confident let's start with
maybe maybe is not a confident word and i hear a lot of english learners using this
maybe it's because you don't feel confident maybe it's a cultural thing because you're translating
from your native language and it's very common to use the word maybe this word in and of itself
is not incorrect but it projects doubt and it does not show confidence what it shows is that
you are unsure of yourself which is the opposite of confidence so if you feel like saying maybe
stop yourself and we can completely delete it from your sentence or you could think of other words to
say instead of maybe for example instead of saying maybe you could say let me check that and get back
to you so if you're not sure you know it's okay to not have all the information you don't have to
fake or lie in order to give some information when you're not ready you can simply say in my opinion
you should not say i'm sorry well it's okay to say you're sorry in appropriate circumstances but many
of us overuse the word sorry for example uh sorry i'm late sorry i didn't mean to step on your toe
sorry i don't know the answer um you don't always have to say you're sorry sorry i didn't like your
picture on instagram it's just not necessary to apologize for everything but of course if
you sincerely need to apologize it's okay you can say you're sorry you can say you apologize
but i think you follow me here that some people just apologize for everything just for their mere
existence and this does not exude confidence so the next time that you feel like apologizing or
saying you're sorry just stop and check yourself and ask is this really worthy of a sincere apology
if so then go ahead if not then stop yourself and instead of saying for example sorry i'm
late what if we turned this around and said i'm glad i could make it better late than never
so this is a completely different way of looking at things and expressing ourselves
so start thinking about how you could either delete too many stories from your english
and maybe express yourself in a different way one last thing about saying you're sorry definitely
definitely definitely do not say you are sorry for your poor english skills it's okay to make
a mistake in english native speakers make mistakes all the time in english instead of saying sorry my
english is so bad you could say thank you for your patience because i'm still improving my english
it's the same idea but expressed in a much more confident way now finally uh the third word that
or phrase that i'd like us to stop using in order to sound more confident is excuse me so this is a
very basic phrase but it can sound unconfident if you use it too much and this is really the key we
need to balance our vocabulary and i find a lot of english learners using using these three words or
phrases way too much maybe sorry and excuse me so when do we use excuse me maybe if you want to get
someone's attention or basically for apologizing like if you bump into someone you might say excuse
me like i'm sorry i bumped into you so instead of saying excuse me or sorry in that situation
you could if it really was a serious bump into someone you could say oh are you okay
or if it's not such a serious bump you just brush them or something you don't have to really
say anything okay if you're saying excuse me to get someone's attention there are other ways that
could be more confident ways to get someone's attention sometimes people don't they don't say
excuse me they just start talking probably you've noticed that the more confident people you know
just start talking and they expect other people to listen so you could try that you could also
try um a noise like an attention getting clearing your throat or a word like well or hmm before
you start talking well i think or hmm that's interesting i have an idea to share about that
so instead of excuse me which is sort of apologizing or asking permission
i want you to jump in and claim your space in a conversation because you deserve it and other
people want to hear what you have to say so no more apologies no more excuse me or sorry or
maybes let's be more definite and let's be sure and confident in yourself and trust me i know that
this will help you i want to hear from you do you have other tips about words that you think do not
sound confident or maybe tips that we can share with each other to inspire more confidence in our
english speaking please leave them in the comments i'm super excited to hear them and by the way if
you want to learn more with me gabby your american english teacher from go natural english you can
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pre-reg for course information thanks so much for watching and i hope that you feel more
confident and fluent in your english speaking each day you've got this all right bye for now