- In this video, I will share with you 10 ways
on how to be a priority in his life and not an option.
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So, without further ado,
let's start with tip number one,
don't accept what's not good enough.
Or perhaps, just set in a boundary.
So, a lot of times we get in life what we accept.
So for example, a guy is pursuing you, you do like him,
but he comes up with something,
that you feel is kind of not up to your standard,
but you're trying to be nice
and you still end up accepting it.
Well, when you accept something
that's not up to your standard, you give a guy
a green light that he can continue to treat you that way.
And then of course in return,
you end up feeling disappointed.
Of course, because you don't feel fully happy or satisfied,
long-term you start to build up resentment
towards that person.
And this is kind of not fair when you think about it,
because you did accept what's not good enough
in the first place, as you allowed it to happen.
So, what I would recommend you to do instead,
whenever someone is offering you
something that's not good enough,
just politely in a very nice way, decline it.
Or set in a boundary.
So, if you're with a guy on a date
and he's being a bit rude or disrespectful, or he's using,
let's say, a language that is not very clean.
Like for example, he's cursing a lot,
and it's not up to your standards, just say like,
sorry, but I don't feel comfortable
with this type of language.
And if he continues to do that, just, you know,
go home early.
Show your standard.
And the best way to show your standard is by your action.
And not accepting what's not good enough.
Number two, don't get jealous, right?
Don't fall into a trap that he tries to provoke you
or make you jealous with his female friends
or the waitress or a girl on a street.
Maybe you guys are coworkers, and some new girl
came into the office and he purposely in front of you,
checked her out.
All of these kind of signs is him to make you jealous.
Guys are not stupid, they are not dumb.
They know that they are behaving inappropriately.
Or they know that they are provoking you,
walking on the edge or teasing you,
don't fall for this game.
Like, give it no attention whatsoever.
Once you start to give no attention whatsoever
to his little provocations, he will either stop
because he will see you as secure and confident.
Or in return, he will get insecure,
how come you're not jealous?
If you think about it, he does deserve anyway, right?
I have an awesome video ladies for you to check it out,
it's called,
"What to do when he's trying to make you jealous",
and you can find it just by following the link right here.
Number three, so relating to number two,
don't compete for his attention.
When we start to feel insecure, let's say,
if he has many female friends
or that we know that a lot of women pursue him,
a lot of girls fall into this trap and we start to compete
for a man's attention with other women.
When you start to compete for a man's attention,
this is when you become an option and not a priority.
If you want to stay a priority,
you do not compete for a man's attention.
You do not get into a competition with other women.
When you don't get into your competition with other women,
you show that you're secure and confident.
When you show that you're secure and confident,
this is when he starts to compete for your attention.
Even though the other women are pursuing him.
Number four, don't always be available.
So, when a guy is into a girl,
when he finds her attractive, he wants to see her every day.
I like you so much, I want to get to know you inside out.
Ladies, control the speed.
If you're gonna allow him to see you every day,
first of all, you're gonna put aside all your hobbies,
all your dreams, your life will slowly become all about him.
And in return, you will actually end up losing yourself.
Losing that person that he was so attracted to
in the first place.
On top of that, all the mystery will be gone.
As you will become a very well readable open book.
Open book is boring.
And the girl that loses her life for a guy,
loses her value in his eyes also.
Number five, try and be the best version of yourself.
So, do the right thing, have patience, have self control.
Focus on your goals and dreams, let go of drama,
let go of negativity, let go of gossip.
Try and be the best version of you.
When you will try and be the best version of yourself
daily, consistently, then he will try
to be the best version of himself also.
When you will inspire him to be the best version
of himself, he will not want to be behind you.
He will want to impress you.
He will want you to want him back.
Therefore, he will have no choice,
but to be the best version of himself,
if he will want to be with you.
Number six, let him pursue you.
For a man to appreciate a woman and to want her,
he needs to be in a place to pursue her.
You will start to pursue a guy that you really like,
very quickly he's gonna lose interest in you.
Men love to pursue, it's a manly thing to do.
When a man is pursuing a woman,
he feels good about himself as he is behaving masculine.
When a man is pursuing you,
you feel good about yourself as you're feeling feminine.
So, don't take that pleasure away from him,
and let him be the one to sweep you off your feet,
do the right thing and come after you.
And why you should not pursue a man?
Check out my video right here.
Number seven, don't wear your heart on a sleeve.
So, if you're totally smitten by him,
he swept you off your feet,
he is just what you're looking for.
Every time when you meet up with him,
you feel like head over heels in love, control yourself.
Don't wear your heart on a sleeve.
As soon as you will start to wear your heart
on a sleeve, and you will start to tell him
how smitten you are by him, giving him lots of compliments,
and telling him how amazing he is,
he will start to lose interest.
Guys are goal getters.
Guys are not big fans of safety and security.
This is why complimenting a guy
can come across as a pursuit,
and it's a masculine thing to do.
As it's not your place to sweep him off his feet.
And when you behave that way,
you give him a lot of safety and security.
And safety and security is not his love need.
So, keep your feelings to yourself.
Don't wear your heart on a sleeve.
Allow him to keep charming you.
And this is exactly what he's going to get,
a healthy amount of uncertainty,
then will keep coming up to you, pursuing you.
If you would like to know more reasons
why you should not wear your heart on a sleeve,
check out my video right here.
Number eight, be logical.
Take things slow with him in order to get to know him.
As in the beginning, he might just be focusing
on the strategies how to charm you
and how to sweep you off your feet,
so you would fall for him.
Therefore, take your time at getting to know him.
Don't create an image about this guy,
just after a couple of dates.
Date him for a couple of weeks,
date him for a couple of months and then see
what he is truly like.
A lot of ladies put guys so high on a pedestal,
literally after one or two dates.
The truth is, you don't even know the person.
You have no idea about the real character.
Men come up with all kinds of strategies
and games to charm women.
Because he's been doing it as a practice from the young age.
They know what makes women tick.
So ladies, please be sensible.
Don't be naive and don't put him on a pedestal,
thinking that he's like The One or Mr. Right
just after a few compliments or after the few dates
where he swept you off your feet.
Be logical, take things slow, and let him wonder
why you haven't fallen for him yet.
This is exactly how you come across as a challenge.
And this is exactly who men tend to fall for.
And how to be a challenge for a man?
Check out my video right here.
Number nine, don't sleep with him too soon.
I know in today's society,
we are really pressured, pushed and influenced
to have sex on a first, second, third date.
Sometimes we are even influenced
to pursue men for sex nowadays.
Ladies, what comes easy, goes easy.
Majority of men, like 99% of them,
they really don't appreciate women that give them easy sex.
As you're not showing self-value or respect for your body.
In men's books ladies, what comes easy, goes easy.
Especially if you live in big cities,
such as London and New York.
Basically, when a guy has sex with you
and he didn't even get to know you,
he doesn't even care about you.
His goal is achieved and he goes, thank you, next.
What I find in more like countryside or smaller cities,
guys are a little bit nicer.
Or the likeability of one night stand
to actually turn into something more serious
is much bigger.
Yet ladies, I really don't recommend you doing that
as the percentage of it to turn into something serious,
is very, very small.
But, if you already made that mistake,
check out my video right here,
how to turn friends with benefits or one night stand
into a relationship.
And here comes the number ten, if you want a man
to make you a priority, focus on your path.
Focus on what you need to do,
your goals, dreams, ambitions, your beautiful life.
Let him fit in around your life rather than vice versa.
(indistinct) men that want a woman to fit in
around their busy schedule,
they come up with excuses saying like,
"Look, I'm really busy. I don't have time."
Or they say, "Look, I only have one day off
and this is the day, and that's the only time
I can fit you in."
Don't fall into this trap.
He is a man, he needs to pursue you.
He needs to fit in around you.
Even him just calling you up saying,
"Hey babe, I'm really busy, but right now I'm free.
So, she wants to hang out, like drop everything
that you're doing at the moment and run to me."
This is basically what last minute is, like,
put your life aside.
Now, I am this prince charming, right?
And just drop everything and just run me.
I am so incredibly busy and you need to fit in around me.
Ladies, don't do that.
When you start to do things like that,
you lose your value for yourself, for your life.
And that's exactly when he starts to under value you too.
So ladies, these are my 10 tips on how to be
a priority for a guy and not an option.
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