CARDS.
CARDS. DON'T, YOU KNOW, SNEAK BEHIND
MY BACK.
MY BACK.
MY BACK. I MEAN, HE THINKS OF THAT
PROBABLY AS REGULAR FIDEL --
>> THAT'S A GOOD POINT YOU
MAKE.
MAKE.
MAKE. GUESS WHAT THE PERCENTAGE OF
PEOPLE IN AMERICA THINK THAT
FINANCIAL INFIDELITY IS WORSE
THAN PHYSICAL INFIDELITY.
>> AT FIRST I WOULD SAY A LOW
PERCENTAGE BUT KNOWING JIM I'LL
SAY 40%.
SAY 40%.
SAY 40%. >> CLOSE, 31%.
31% THINK IT'S WORSE.
I DO REMEMBER A FEW TIMES MY
MOTHER GREW UP ON THE EAST
COAST AND I GREW UP IN INDIANA
SO WE WOULD DRIVE AND MY MOM
LOVED ANTIQUING, SO SHE WOULD
BUY ANTIQUES AND ALWAYS SAY
DON'T TELL YOUR FATHER HOW MUCH
THIS COST, AND THEN IT WAS LIKE
THE IMPETUS FOR ME TO STORM IN
THE DOOR AND SAY MOM GOT CHAIRS
THEY WERE $200 AND SHE WAS LIKE
WHAT.
WHAT.
WHAT. >>
WHAT. >> THE VERY RARE OCCASION WHERE
I'VE SAID LIKE LET'S JUST NOT
TALK.
TALK.
TALK. IT
TALK. IT WAS LIKE THEY COULDN'T WAIT.
THEY'RE LIKE DAD MOM JUST DID
THIS, AND IT'S IN THE TRUNK,
AND IT'S UNDERNEATH SOME OLD
SHOES.
SHOES.
SHOES. >>
SHOES. >> YES, IT HAS THE OPPOSITE
EFFECT.
EFFECT.
EFFECT. >> IT REALLY DOES.
>> AS WHAT YOU WANTED TO DO.
SO HERE'S SOME SIGNS.
THE SIGNS MADE ME CHUCKLE A
LITTLE BIT BUT I'M GOING TO
SHARE THEM WITH YOU.
THE FIRST ONE, THESE ARE SIGNS
OF YOUR PARTNER MAY BE
FINANCIALLY INFIDELITY.
FINANCIALLY INFIDELITY. MAYBE COMMITTING FINANCIAL
INFIDELITY.
INFIDELITY. IF YOU SEE THESE SIGNS AND HAVE
A FEELING IN YOUR GUT, THE
FIRST ONE IS YOU NOTICE A LOT
OF NEW STUFF.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> WHICH MADE ME LAUGH BECAUSE
I JUST THOUGHT LIKE MY
HUSBAND'S VERY FRUGAL, LIKE HIM
COMING HOME WITH ALL NEW
CLOTHES, LIKE TECH STUFF.
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> A NEW CAR, I'D BE LIKE HMM
THAT'S WEIRD.
THAT'S WEIRD. THAT'S STRANGE.
THAT'S STRANGE. >> WOW, LOOK AT YOU.
LOOK AT THOSE CLOTHES.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> I THINK THAT WOULD
DEFINITELY BE A RED FLAG IF ALL
OF A SUDDEN YOU JUST STARTED
NOTICING THINGS.
NOTICING THINGS. LIKE SOMETHING HERE AND THERE,
I'M LIKE GOOD FOR YOU.
JIM'S A SHOPPER.
>> DOES HE EVER COME HOME WITH
SOMETHING WHERE YOU'RE LIKE
WHOA.
WHOA.
WHOA. >>
WHOA. >> HE CAME HOME WITH A NEW CAR.
>> I KNEW THAT ANSWER.
>> YEAH, YOU KNEW THAT ANSWER.
WE WILL DRIVE OUR CARS INTO THE
GROUND.
GROUND.
GROUND. ACTUALLY, I FINALLY NEED A NEW
CAR I WAS TELLING CARA.
BUT HE CAME HOME AND I WAS LIKE
LOOK AT YOU FANCY, HE GOT
HIMSELF A NICE NEW CAR.
BUT HE -- I MEAN IT WAS FINE.
>> BUT YOU DIDN'T GET MAD.
>> GOD NO, BECAUSE HE'S IN
CONTROL OF THE FINANCES, NOT
ME, AND I KNOW THAT IF HE CAN
DO IT, WE CAN DO IT, WE'RE
GOING TO DO IT, OTHERWISE
FORGET ABOUT IT.
>> RIGHT, I TOLD YOU WE HAVE
THE OPPOSITE SITUATION, MY
HUSBAND THINKS IF WE CAN KEEP
THE LIGHTS ON AND THE BILLS
PAID THAT WE'RE MILLIONAIRES.
NO, WE DON'T HAVE THAT MUCH
MONEY.
MONEY.
MONEY. WE
MONEY. WE CAN PAY OUR BILLS BUT IT'S
NOT LIKE -- HE DOESN'T REALLY
HAVE THE CONCEPT OF IT BECAUSE
HE GREW UP VERY POOR SO HE'S
LIKE, YOU KNOW, HE JUST DOESN'T
REALLY UNDERSTAND THAT LIKE --
>> AND YOU PAY ALL THE BILLS.
>> BECAUSE WE CAN PAY OUR BILLS
THAT WE'RE NOT MILLIONAIRES.
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> HE DEFERS TO YOUR EXPERTISE
RIGHT?
RIGHT?
RIGHT? >>
RIGHT? >> THAT'S NICE.
>> YOU ALWAYS PUT A POSITIVE
SPIN ON IT.
>> WHAT YOU'RE ABLE TO DO OR
SPEND OR NOT.
>> THAT'S TRUE.
>>> NUMBER TWO IS YOUR PARTNER
GETS DEFENSIVE.
GETS DEFENSIVE. >> DEAD GIVE AWAY.
>> IF YOU SAID HEY, I LIKE THAT
NEW TRACK SUIT AND THEY SAY.
>> WHY, WHAT ARE YOU TALKING
ABOUT?
ABOUT?
ABOUT? IT'S NOT NEW.
ALTHOUGH I DO SAY THAT A LOT.
THIS THING, THIS IS OLD.
I'VE HAD THIS SINCE COLLEGE.
>> RIGHT, JIM CAME UP BEHIND
ME.
ME.
ME. I
ME. I WAS
ME. I WAS ON HIS COMPUTER LAST
NIGHT, AND I WAS SHOPPING FOR
SOME NUDE SLIDES SUMMER, THAT'S
ALL I WANTED.
AND HE WALKS UP BEHIND ME AND
HE'S LIKE WHAT IS HAPPENING
BECAUSE HIS SCREEN IS -- FIRST
OF ALL, DON'T DO THAT.
IF YOU'RE TRYING TO SHOP BE A
LITTLE STEALTHIER.
LITTLE STEALTHIER. YEAH, HE DID NOTICE THAT.
BUT YEAH, AND I WAS LIKE WELL,
I'M LOOKING FOR SOME ON SALE.
BUT DON'T GET DEFENSIVE, GUYS,
JUST OWN IT.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. OWN IT.
OWN IT.
OWN IT. >> OKAY.
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY. SO NUMBER THREE IS NOW THIS
ARTICLE WAS WRITTEN JUNE 1st,
2018, HOWEVER NUMBER THREE
STILL SAYS THE MAIL IS OFF
LIMITS.
LIMITS.
LIMITS. IF YOUR PARTNER IS HOVERING
AROUND THE MAIL GETTING ALL
THOSE CREDIT CARD -- LIKE THE
CREDIT CARD ENTER TO WIN OR
WHATEVER.
WHATEVER.
WHATEVER. >> YEAH, I DID THAT AT ONE
POINT.
POINT.
POINT. >>
POINT. >> SUSPICIOUS.
>> SUSPICIOUS. >> YOU WERE FILLING OUT ALL THE
CREDIT CARDS?
CREDIT CARDS? >> EARLY ON.
I'M GOING TO GET A WHATEVER
CARD, WHAT, WE DON'T DO THAT.
>> SUDDENLY YOU'RE SHOWERED
WITH GIFTS, APPARENTLY THAT'S A
BAD THING.
BAD THING. ALSO, THE LAST WHICH IS MY
FAVORITE.
FAVORITE.
FAVORITE. LARGE CASH WITHDRAWALS GO
UNACCOUNTED FOR.
UNACCOUNTED FOR. >> THAT'S DEFINITELY --
>> IT'S A RED FLAG.
>> SOMETHING SMELLS FISHY.
I HAVE TO SAY THIS REALLY
QUICKLY.
QUICKLY.
QUICKLY. REALLY QUICKLY.
REALLY QUICKLY. IF YOU WANT TO CONFRONT YOUR
SPOUSE ON YOUR PARTNER ABOUT
FINANCIAL INFIDELITY START WITH
A COMMON GOAL.
IF YOU ARE SAVING FOR A NEW CAR
OR A NEW HOUSE, BRING IT UP
WITH THAT AND SAY, YOU KNOW,
WE'RE TRYING TO SAVE MONEY FOR
SUCH AND SUCH.
>> AND LOGICAL AND CALM.
>> I WANT