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about your relationship?
There relationship insecurities
may manifest themselves in a number
of harmful and even destructive ways
that negatively impact a relationship with your partner.
You may feel like you can't control these fears
and insecurities, and end up projecting them
onto your partner.
Therefore, it's important to be aware
and recognize when your insecurities start
to get the better of you.
Before we start, we'd like to mention
that this video is for educational purposes only.
If you feel that you may be insecure in your relationship,
talk to your partner or somebody you trust.
Seek further support from a professional
if you feel like you're finding it hard to manage.
With that said, here are nine signs
of insecurity in a relationship.
Number one, you don't accept yourself.
Are you really critical of yourself
or hold yourself to unrealistically high standards?
This may have an impact on your relationship
if you're not able to give yourself time
to work through your own insecurities.
If you're unable to accept yourself,
then you're less likely to be open
to letting another person into your life.
It's important to take time for yourself
to allow your authentic self to grow.
Number two, you feel unseen by your partner.
You feel like your partner doesn't see you
in the way that you'd like to be seen
or expect to be seen.
Maybe they don't take time to get to know you fully
or try to understand you more intimately.
This may leave you feeling confused,
anxious and dissatisfied.
However, your partner may not be aware of what they're doing
and so it's important to communicate your feelings
and needs to them to allow your relationship
to blossom into a healthy one.
Number three, you feel as if your relationship
is in a constant state of limbo.
Are your plans with your partner always canceled
or changed at the last minute?
Allowing flexibility when you're making plans is important
so that both parties can be present and involved.
Feeling like your partner's not reciprocating any
of your desire for long-term plans,
commitment or stability may leave you in limbo
where you question whether they're really interested
in a relationship with you.
This may lead to feelings of anxiety
and a lack of trust that's harmful
to a healthy relationship.
Number four, you don't trust your partner.
Do you doubt every little thing your partner says
or stalk their social media?
Wanting to go through your partner's personal things
may come from a fear that they're not faithful to you.
Maybe you were hurt from a previous relationship
or have experienced some type of betrayal before.
But projecting these insecurities onto your partner
can be harmful to your relationship.
It prevents you from fully trusting your partner
and it makes it difficult for you to open up emotionally.
Number five, you struggle with intimacy,
emotional regulation, and communication.
Do you feel your walls going up
during an intimate moment with your partner?
Difficulties in dealing with
and regulating emotions lie at the core
of attachment insecurity.
Closeness and intimacy may mean different things
for you and your partner
so it's crucial to communicate with them
how you feel and how to approach each other
in a more comfortable manner.
By voicing out your concerns and worries,
your partner may be more able
to understand where you're coming from
and help you become more comfortable
during intimate moments.
Number six, you compare yourself
to your partner's exes.
Do you constantly compare yourself
with your partner's exes and worry you don't measure up?
This anxiety that you may not be good enough
for your partner compared to their past partners
may signal that your insecurities
are affecting your relationship.
It's important to recognize
that you and your partner are unique individuals
and should be treated as such.
Whether it's you or your partner doing the comparing,
this tendency can become harmful and toxic
for your relationship in the long run.
Number seven, your partner
is constantly having to reassure you.
Do you constantly need to ask your partner
if they really love you or find you attractive?
While there's nothing wrong with craving some reassurance
from your partner, the constant need
for validation may be a sign
that your insecurities are getting the better of you.
Seeking excessive reassurance
from your partner can even be an indicator
of depression caused by attachment anxiety.
Number eight, you may experience jealousy,
paranoia and disbelief.
Does your partner say or behave in ways
to purposefully make you feel jealous?
Maybe it's their controlling behavior,
their negative thinking or their sudden clinginess.
Their insecurity of losing you
and your relationship may end up dominating their behavior.
While a certain level of jealousy
can be considered healthy,
since it's only natural
that you don't want anyone breaking up
what you've worked so hard to build with you partner,
there is a point where this insecurity
may become harmful and toxic.
And number nine, you avoid confrontation
and fear rejection.
Do you tend to avoid confrontation like the plague?
This may stem from a fear
that your partner will leave you,
judge you or reject you
if you disagree or oppose them in any way.
By limiting emotional closeness,
you end up preventing emotional vulnerability,
which is crucial to any healthy relationship.
So it's important to set boundaries
and practice honest communication
so you can voice your concerns without worrying
that it'll end your relationship.
Do you or your partner relate to any of these signs?
Are you insecure about your relationship?
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