What are the best first date conversation topics? What sort of lingerie do men absolutely
love? What do you do when a guy says another woman's name when you're in bed with him,
and how do you handle it when your best friend who's a guy is being weird cause he has a
girlfriend? Hello, Hello, welcome to Ask Mark number 21 and we are answering questions as
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for a full video. These are great questions this week and they're pretty darn interesting.
So you're going to enjoy this. Make sure you subscribe. Let's get straight into it. Jenelle
is our first question. She says, great tips. Mark, what are your favorite first date conversation
topics? Do you know what? I'm going to tell you the best first date conversation topic
you have ever heard.
And the coolest part is it changes for every single guy. Passions. His passions, your
passions. If you talk about people's passions, there will always be conversation. So you're
never gonna run out of conversation. The guy and you are going to enjoy yourselves. And
do you know the coolest part about speaking about passions is that you get to find out
about part of a world that you may never be a part of. This is one of the best things
about dating is you get to go out with lawyers, you get to go out with plumbers, you get to
go out with electricians, you get to go out with businessmen, whatever it is. A lot of
these will be jobs that you never do, you never have experience in. And dating is such
an exciting opportunity to get experience. What's it like to live a day in the life of
a plumber?
I don't know. Who knows? I've never been on a date with a plumber, but if I did, I'd be
fascinated. I'd be absolutely fascinated. What's the, what's the easiest part of commerce
day? What's the little annoying things? Every job has its little annoying things that it
has in it that you never think of. You know, most of you don't know this about me and it's
not something I promoted a lot on the channel, but my day job before I got into this, I'm
a qualified vet as in veterinarian and I still do one day a week in that job. And you know,
there's little things that people don't think of that they're fascinated by. Like what's,
you know, like when a, when a client comes in and they've only booked a 10 minute appointment
and their dog is super sick and has so many problems that they haven't told the receptionist
about little things like this that you just don't think of and you go, wow, I never thought
that about that job.
These things fascinate me and they should fascinate you too. If you're genuinely interested
in the people you're meeting, dating is your one chance to meet people from all different
backgrounds, religions, jobs, passions. Then you can find out and just have that little
hour, two hours, whatever it is, time, that small amount of time to live vicariously in
someone else's world. It's pretty freaking cool. Right? So ask a man about his passions.
Tell him about yours. Not only are you both going to have heaps to talk about, but every
date is going to be different. And you're gonna get to understand the world of something
that really you probably never be a part of. And this is where dating is really cool. It
really grows you and gives you so many interesting and varied experiences. So Jenelle that would
be my advice to you regarding conversations topics don't go down the same line every single
day. Every, every single day should be different. It should be fun, varied and you'll have a
lot of fun without putting any pressure on yourself and without having to um, prepare
too much if you just focus on his passions and your passions and chatting about both
of those.
Second question and it just gets better Leeda. Leeda says, I was wondering what type of lingerie
do guys like? What colors? Red, black, a white, trashy looking lingerie attached to high stockings,
Hollywood style, classy shoulder, long high heels or bare feet?. Leeda the simple answer
to this, and for you at there, the best type of lingerie is the type that you feel most
comfortable and sexiest in. Because if you don't feel comfortable, if you don't feel
sexy, it is not going to be sexy to a guy. Confidence is sexy.
Whatever. You know, we talked, we talked out, I talked with Glenn, I think it was two Ask
Marks ago. I talked with Glenn McIntosh, Australian Weight Management Psychologist, and I've got
my own video coming out with him soon. So keep an eye on the channel for that. We talked
about how sometimes you let body image get in your way, but there's also a lot of women,
a lot of women who are a lot bigger and are still very, very sexy because they own it
and because they've got that confidence. It's not about what you wear, it's how confident
you feel and how comfortable you feel in it. Because if you think you're sexy, the guy's
gonna think you're sexy too. Now, they might be some of you out there who are saying, yeah,
okay, that's great Mark, but I do feel good in a lot of these.
Is there a particular preference men have? So I will touch quickly on what studies have
said, and this is going to be a big shock to you. There's going to be a huge just Truthbomb
shock. Men love pushup bras. Go figure. Yes it's false advertising. No, none of them care.
Push up bras, do really well. Bralettes are very popular, uh, and baby doll long over
the top lingerie does very well as well in terms of bottoms. Again, big shocker, thongs
do well. Men love G-strings. Go figure. The other thing is that the cheeky brief was the
other one. The studies show that men really love. So it comes up a bit on you and the
cheeky brief, but the thong is always the most popular. Go figure. And you know what?
Throw on a set of heels if you're feeling up to it, the guy's going to love it. So Leeda,
I hope that answers your question. Most of all, you have to feel sexy in it, but there
are some preferences if you're going, Hey, I feel I do actually feel sexy in all of this.
What do men love? I want to please him the most. That's your average. Gigi 55 Gigi 55
says Hi Mark. Jesus. How do you handle, I will say, or do when a man calls you the wrong
name, uh, when having sex. Oh dear, has this happened to you Gigi or is this just a, Hey,
what if type thing?
Here's the thing, it's going to hurt a lot. It is. If a guy does this, if a guy says another
woman's name during sex, it's going to hurt a lot and it potentially shows that at that
moment he was thinking of that woman, which hurts. If you're honest, there have been times
where you've been with your partner and you've thought of someone else too, maybe in the
bedroom or maybe you're just walking along the street, hand in hand with him, and you
saw a hottie across the road and you thought, gee, he big, go fuck with me, and then you
went, Oh, what am I doing? I'm bad. We have these fleeting thoughts. We're human. No one's
perfect. It does happen. This is a really hurtful way for them to come out. And there's
no question about that. But I will say this Gigi, if this is the worst thing that ever
happens in your relationship, if this is, this is the very worst thing that ever happens
between the two of you. You've got a pretty good relationship.
Now, it's got to hurt, you probably not going to want to sleep with him for a couple of
weeks, maybe longer. Uh, but we do have slips of the tongue and we do think of other people
from time to time. And that's the reality of being human. That's the way our brains
are designed to work. It does happen sometimes. Humans weren't born, most humans weren't born
with an entirely, purely monogamous genetic set. And sometimes we do have thoughts that
betray us and you know what? We get of control them and we don't act on them. So this is
the worst thing that's ever happened. If this is the worst thing that ever happens in your
relationship, then you're going pretty well. So it takes some time and let hubby, your
partner knows, Hey look, it really fricking hurt. I will get over it.
We'll be fine. I trust you. Give me time. Give me a few weeks and I'll get over it.
I'm just not ready right now. So let him know that you're on your way and obviously hopefully
he's being super apologetic and he's wanting to make it up to you. Um, obviously if you're
suspicious of him or if he's being dodgy or if he's sort of uh, avoiding it, then that's
weird. And you want to go, okay, do I trust this guy? If I don't trust this guy, what
am I doing with him still? I, these issues here we've got to deal with. But assuming
you trust him, assuming there's none of that going on, then take your time, let him know
you're taking your time, but that you will get over it. And that's going to reassure
him in the process. And this is one the time will heal.
, I hope that answers your question. And the last question is from Reema. Reema says, hi
Mark. I have a best friend who's like my soulmate and we've been best friends for almost two
years now. Have seen the worst of each other. Uh, but here's the catch. He has girlfriend
for a very long time and he's still gives me signs that he wants to be with me cause
he enjoys my attention. Uh, I know he likes me but there's something stopping him. Something,
something's stopping him? What? What could be stop...? Oh you mean like a girlfriend?
Oh right.
I know that there is no one who can love him and take care of him more than me. Okay. We've
had numerous fights and months of us not talking to each other and we get back together. Good
Lord. This is like a soap opera. This dude's a friend. This time he stands me responsible
for messing up our friendship cause I have stopped giving him attention. I don't know
how to deal with this. I want a solution. Can you help? Reema, there's a whole bunch
of details missing here. You haven't said kind of what your emotional recent contact
is. You haven't said where things are at right now, but this is, this is seriously sounding
like a soap opera. The fact is he has a girlfriend right now, so you've got to either accept
that, accept him and go after other men or if you'll finding that you can't and you're
still sitting there going, I wish this would happen. I want this to happen. Um, I can't
think about any other guys. Then this space that it looks like he's given you is exactly
what you need. You need space. You need to go through that. Check out the video, how
to stop liking a guy. I'll put it in the description, but in these situations where we get really
infatuated with someone we can't have and then we have to mentally break up with them,
it's almost as significant to our brains as a real breakup because Reema, you've probably
fantasized about this guy. You've probably fantasized about a future with him, about
the two of you being together. You've said here, I know there is no one who can love
him and take care of him more than me. That shows to me how much you projected forward.
So if you go sort of no contact with this guy kind of cold turkey to get your emotions
away, you're going to have a calm down guaranteed.
And this is something I take clients through and women who call me on discovery calls.
This is something that you are going to feel and it's going to feel almost as real as a
breakup. So check out the how to stop liking a guy video. Have a look at that. This, the
bottom line here is you either need to accept that he has a girlfriend and be his friend
and want nothing more from it. Or if you can't do that, if the emotions are just too involved,
then get that space, keep it until you're over him and can accept that friends frame.
If he comes to you wanting to be with you as more than a friend, then you tell him,
all right mate, you've got a girlfriend right now. Sort that out. Then we can talk. Well
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