we are slaves to our
own minds we let it control ourselves
where we just don't even know who we are
anymore
all of the toxic limiting beliefs that
we grow up with
and that we're influenced by just get
clogged up in our minds
and we don't realize that we just need
to clean it out
every once in a while and most people
don't because we don't know how
the more information that goes through
us that comes to us
the more stuck our minds become and
that results in overthinking and
storytelling
there are hundreds of ways to get over
overthinking and to stop being negative
whatever you want to call it but the
past two years of my life
i've learned a lot of different
strategies and methods
that were created by the japanese or zen
systems
that made me the person that i am today
there are hundreds of
talked about ways to stop negative
thinking to stop overthinking
but the problem with that is that we
shouldn't stop
so you cannot stop your thoughts it's
impossible
it's absolutely impossible so we find
ourselves trying to repress
our emotions we find ourselves trying to
stop
the voices in our heads when we should
be inviting them in
hear me out so for the past two years
i've been learning different ways
to master my mind and
so far the only thing that has worked
for me is a combination
of western style and japanese style
mindset methods
and psychology and it's helped me
tenfold
throughout the past couple years and i
wanted to discuss that today with you
for an alternative way to master
yourself and master your mind in your
everyday life
your mind is the only thing that holds
you back
and limits you in life it's the only
thing
nothing else people seek to stop
overthinking to
stop thinking even in meditation people
want to stop thinking but the more we
stop thinking
the more it comes up let's do a little
exercise don't
think about a yellow crayon
for some of you a yellow crayon popped
in your head
and the more you stop thinking about a
yellow crayon the more it comes up in
your life the more you start thinking
about yellow throughout your day because
your subconscious mind remembers that
someone told you not to think
about a yellow crayon because you're
repressing that you're stop you're
trying to stop
doing something that comes natural in
us humans those things will always come
up in your life
including myself i over think still i
think negatively still
i've cultivated more awareness and
gratitude in my life to the point where
it doesn't affect me as much as it did
before i've identified it as
not being a bad thing because a lot of
the times we think it's bad we think
our thoughts are bad when in reality
it's part of who we are it's our
humanness coming out
it's our fears our fears try to protect
us in everyday life they serve
us in a way so they're not bad but you
just have to know
when it's happening and how you react
towards your thoughts
and how you treat yourself and how you
manage it
and that is the key to success in
mastery
of the mind this is a whole nother video
but
i want to remind you that we have two
minds we have the observing mind
and we have the thinking mind and the
observing mind
is kind of like the mother to our inner
child
our thinking mind is pretty much our
inner child coming out
running rampant so many different
thoughts going through our heads
making up stories lying to us it's that
little
toddler in our head that just can't stop
you don't realize that our minds are
separate so we can't differentiate the
two
and that's what makes it difficult for
us to
react in a way that serves us what we
really need to do is change our
perspective on ourselves we need to be
kind to ourselves we need to realize
that these are normal things
we need to normalize thinking once we
accomplish
that we can begin the new habit of
resilience when these things
continuously come up we know how to
react we know what action to take
we'll know not to feed into the stories
that our mind
tells us so what exactly does it take to
quit
overthinking and i promise you you're
doing it wrong oftentimes
overthinking actually comes from
questioning
our life path so we create a lot of
what-ifs and
judgments and assumptions on other
people and on ourselves and the fact is
a lot of it isn't true more than people
have lied to us we've been lying to
ourselves
mind-blowing i know what if i don't get
that job what if i lose my job because i
didn't
feel like i did very well today what if
he leaves me what if i'm doing it
all wrong what if this isn't the right
decision what if this isn't what i'm
supposed to be doing in my life
we tell ourselves stories in a dialogue
that makes it seem like it's true our
language
is so powerful and our subconscious mind
is picking up on the truth
that we're telling ourselves she hates
me he didn't email me or text me back he
must hate me
i suck at my job we are so in the habit
of thinking this way because we grew up
hearing people
speak to themselves this way we don't
know how to turn the what ifs
to the what is we don't know how to turn
the untrue stories
into true stories and again we can't
stop
these thoughts we can't stop thinking
them but we
can react towards them in a way that
serves us
we can lessen the chances of it
consuming us
we can adopt awareness of our thoughts
to bring us back to center and in the
present moment because all we're doing
is time hopping we're just time hopping
all the time going to the past going to
the future
and we keep passing up the present and
we're not looking at the lessons and the
actions that we can take now to get from
point a to point b
we're always going back and forth in
between these time loops
and we're not sitting with ourselves
in the present moment in japanese zen
practice it's always important to keep a
don't
know mind if you're worried about what
other people think of you
or if you're worried about the future
ask yourself does any of this
reign true do i know this as a fact do i
truly know the outcome of my future
no do i know that that person actually
hates me
or cares no and if they do does it
keep me from moving forward in my life
no
because you can always take action you
can always change your reality
your truth is your reality and you can
change it
whenever you want so the lesson here is
even though we can't control
what pops into our minds we can control
how we react to them we can learn to
question their validity a practice to
move from
fear which is the real culprit of
overthinking
to a place of calm is to ground
ourselves in the present moment when
you're
constantly and consistently caught up in
a loop of
fearful thoughts simply say the words
drop it become that parent to your inner
child
because what's happening is your inner
child is scared
your inner child is shaking you need to
be
the person to calm down that inner child
imagine
grab the small u by the shoulders and
say
drop it in the most firm and calm way
possible
look yourself in the eyes and then
direct your attention
to a current sensory input this is
called an anchor and it's a habit to
bring yourself
back to center it could be a sight a
sound a smell a touch
say drop it sit down on your chair feel
the chair
notice the chair snap a bracelet nicely
don't hurt yourself
snap a bracelet bring yourself back feel
that snapping sensation something that's
going to
bring you back to yourself so you can
adequately
assess the situation a lot of the times
the things that i overthought in my past
never came true all of the fears that i
had never came true i was always
overthinking i was always
feeling like i have to do this i have to
do that because i was taught that way
but now i'm embracing the concept of
uncertainty
and as you begin to embrace uncertainty
especially when it comes to your future
or relationship
then you start to open up more
opportunities you start to get excited
about
new things that will come into your life
you make more room for new things that
come into your into your life
and the more you embrace uncertainty the
more success you can have in your life
the more happiness you can have in your
life even though there are going to be
negative things that happen to you
in your lifetime most of them are
lessons that you can learn from
and there are more good things that
actually you'll find that there are more
good things that come into your life
that are positive verse negative you
have a choice
to allow everything in your life into
your life including family including
friends including
the words that you hear and the things
that people say you have a choice
to accept those things into your life
you have a choice
and there are no wrong choices because
people think that
if they go down the wrong path they're
going to
run themselves into the ground and that
may be true but that doesn't mean that
it's the end of the road no step is the
wrong step every step that you take
is important in your life it's a lesson
learned it's
something new that you can understand
about yourself in my life i took
so many wrong paths and i needed to take
those paths to discover what i loved and
what i didn't like and what i
did want and what i didn't want in a in
a relationship
in my career in my life in general for
myself for my happiness
i needed to go down those wrong paths in
order to
understand myself and where i was going
so there is no wrong step there is no
wrong path
and you need to remember that when you
start to overthink especially when
if you're the type of person that starts
to overthink about your future which is
why the ikigai
life purpose lifestyle that i created
my eight-week course there is no wrong
way to do it
there is no right or wrong way to
accomplish
anything in this lifestyle every path
and every step you take
is so important and there's a lot of
things that you're not going to know
about yourself and there's a lot of
things that you
are going to know about yourself it's
all about the journey
in your life the future and the past is
not
us in this very moment that's not who we
are
we are safe in this moment now and when
we direct
our attention to the present moment
fear is simply not there because fear
resides in the stories that we tell
ourselves about the future
one tip i have for you if you don't know
where to start with this
stop looking at the end result the
outcome the ideal
you focus on the you right now and what
step
one percent step you can take to become
that person that has a master mastery
over his or her mind so what you can do
is learn more about yourself ask
yourself questions we don't ask
ourselves enough questions
therefore we feel uncomfortable doing it
but we have to get into that habit if we
want to figure out
what we want and what we don't want and
one thing that i
highly recommend is to journal and in
your journal you can ask yourself
why do you think this way why do you
feel this is true
call yourself out on it call out the bs
set a timer for 15 minutes and just go
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spelling mistakes don't worry about
sentence structure don't worry if it
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one thing i want to say before i end
this video is a lot of people
tend to look at point b and never focus
on the point a
and the point a is very important in
your journey realize that you're going
to meet some amazing people along your
journey
don't settle for anything because if you
settle you're just going
you're going to be limiting yourself
you're not going to be able to grow
you're not going to be able to succeed
start to say yes to the things that you
want in your life literally like even if
it's a small
little dog or something point to it and
say
yes point to a butterfly yes just
point at things and say yes you may look
a little crazy but
realize that you have the power to say
yes to the things in your life you're
never going to stay stuck
if you make a move if you take the
action if you spend less time in your
mind
and more time in reality in the real
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right now in this current moment is what
is
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and your mind is what limits you
so please remember that and i'll see you
guys in the next video
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