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men do it one way women do it another
way
classes will happen because you need one
kind of space they need another kind of
space
how do we handle this so this is one
thing you have to earn as you get older
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how do we make sure that your students
and faith
and energy of youth work together
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they've always been at odds not just
today
older generation and the younger
generation the real problem is this
the older generation do not think they
are old
the younger generation think that they
are old enough
that's the whole problem the old don't
want to believe they are
old young don't want to believe they're
young they think they're old enough for
everything
so
somebody is occupying the space that you
want to occupy
it's not just among human beings
especially among elephants you will see
suddenly one young bull elephant going
all over the place
angry pulling out everything
because he has a fight with the bigger
male elephant in the herd
he's not vacating his space so this guy
tries to fight he cannot fight he
doesn't have the strength
so he freaks
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adolescence
so this is why this is why in this
country
we made what is called as varnasrama
dharma
that means from 0 to 12
is balabasta childhood just play
body and brain should grow
12-24 is brahmacharya time to discipline
yourself
bring discipline into your body into
your mind develop your energies so that
you're a powerful being
and acquire knowledge 24 you can choose
if you want to
if you see through life as you are you
don't have to go through everything you
are able to see through
then you become a sannyasi at 24
otherwise you become
a householder you get married so if you
get married at 24
two cycles of the solar cycle
and 24 years that means you're 48.
that means your children are somewhere
between 18 to 22.
they're like the young bulls they want
you to go
but they can't say it
today in the modern world
we send away the children we don't go
we send them away somewhere else
these asylums are usually called
universities
or
but those days because life was around
agriculture
you could you could not leave home and
go away because your land is here your
animals are here
you can't go away somewhere and make a
life somebody has to go out
so at 48 the old couple
48 old couple
they took sannyas and they went
different ways
husband went into one institution wife
went into another one
working on their spiritual sadhana 12
years
60 they came out and they once again
got married
today they don't go away they're still
together and they're still getting
married at
60.
now you're supposed to go away for 12
years
first time when you're married maybe
compulsions of the body
emotion something else took over now
all the things are over you've done your
spiritual sadhana for 12 years
now you come together in a completely
different way
and go into warner prastha that means go
into the jungle
live the last part of your life
so there was space i'm saying
when you wanted the parents to disappear
they disappeared
now they're not going they want you to
go
if you have found your legs in the world
you want to go even before they let you
go
but if you not found your legs class
for some reason if you've not found your
legs or wings
clashes every day clashes between
parents and children
you must understand because of emotions
they believing their parents or children
and children
but when it comes down to life it's just
a young bull
and a big bull clashing for space
clashing for dominance
men do it one way women do it another
way
but the fundamental problem is same you
want your space
they're not vacating the space
classes will happen children who live
away
always love you
yes yes or no
children who live away from you they
always love you that's the way to keep
them
if they were with you
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not because you're bad or they're bad
because
you need one kind of space they need
another kind of space both are in the
same space
heat will happen
unless you have children who grown very
old when they are young
you understand you successfully made
them very old people when they're still
young
such people will live very compatibly
with old people
if you become sick then they may
become okay because now the emotion of
wanting to take care those kind of
things will come in
but if you are well and strong and
they're well and strong
you must keep them away yes
so this is not a new problem
i'm sure in the cave
i am talking about the cave man in the
cave
the same problem existed between the
young and the old
because old do not believe they have
grown
old young believe they are old enough
for everything
so there will be something going on
how do we handle this
how do we handle this is
the old should learn to keep on stepping
back
the young will keep on occupying that
space
only thing is the old should display
a certain level of wisdom and experience
where the young are little overawed by
the old
if you don't do that then the young will
disdain
and they'll get rough in so many ways
so this is one thing you have to earn as
you get old
you have earned a certain level of
wisdom
and insight into life which they're here
to earn
so they look up to you then
you can somewhat be in the same space
first floor
but reasonably in the same space leave
the ground flow to them and the first
floor they're looking up to you
okay if they have nothing to look up to
if you exposed yourself
with your problems and with your
nonsense and everything
then best
vana
i know this is not the answer you're
looking for
but what shall i do
i am not a politician to say the right
thing
i'll say what is true
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you