- Have you ever fallen for a girl,
who is not your type but you have strong feelings for her?
And have you ever fallen out of love
with a girl who seems your type,
but the personality or something is not there.
(laughs)
- Yes.
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- Hey guys, it's Greta Bereisaite here
and I'm a dating and relationship coach for women.
And today here I am with Gatsby.
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And Mykolas.
And the reason let me just tell you quickly
why I got Mykolas on today.
And I just want to share some stories
before we actually ask him a question.
So, Mykolas is my nephew and recently
I've been going out with him and I saw
like a really different vibe in him
'cause obviously he doesn't show this vibe with me
but he shows this vibe a lot when he goes out.
And Mykolas is very very confident.
(laughter)
And very charming.
And I seen him literally,
he's only 20 and I seen him approaching girls like--
(snapping fingers)
That.
Right, like he sees a hot girl,
he's like oh my god she's so hot
and he just goes for it.
And I literally seen it.
And the best bit was when I saw him
approaching a really pretty girl
in his pink Peppa Pig socks.
(laughter)
And I'm like, I literally look he's like--
- I think I had black nails as well.
(laughter)
- Yeah and black nails too, right.
And I was like, is he literally
going for her with these pink Peppa Pig socks you know?
Anyway he came back with her number,
I think you guys even went on a date.
But anyway that's another story.
But point is about his confidence and charms.
And if you're very confident and you believe
in yourself you can literally get
the girl with pink socks on.
So, Mykolas so I know you're surrounded
a lot by actually really pretty girls.
(laughter)
We can see it always on Instagram.
Anyways so, the question is,
is it the looks that you fall for in the girl?
- The initial attraction, something like that
until you get a vibe of the person yeah 100%.
But then it literally flips because
you could literally end up going
for someone that kind of connecting with someone
that isn't exactly your type on paper.
- Yeah, and the reason I'm asking was
because in so many cultures the looks
is you know, girls and the way we are influenced
is like looks, looks, look, look your hottest,
look your best, you know have this or have this done
in order to attract guy because, you know a lot of--
- Yeah it's so looks orientated everywhere it's insane.
- Yeah it's so looks, it's like the society
is influencing us so much but it's just
looks, looks, looks, looks, looks.
So now, you're as a guy you are surrounded
by a lot of beautiful girls so I'm just like
okay if you see a pretty girl are you like
in love with her and that's your girlfriend?
- Jesus, no I don't think you like
even if you are that just won't work
if you're just attracted to the looks.
Once you get to know her if she's
being like a doormat or something
how the hell are you gonna connect?
How is that gonna work, you know?
- Have you ever fallen for a girl
who is not your type but you have strong
feelings for her and have you ever fallen
out of love with a girl who seems
your type but the personality or something is not there.
- Yes.
So many f-ing times and genuinely
what you just said there is just
a really good summary of what it's like,
genuinely for everyone I think.
Look at all the stars dating different stars,
not based on their preferred type or anything
where you would expect like two models to whatever
but it's just all it's so much.
- Yeah, it's personality. - Yeah it's crazy.
- As long as you're the best version
of yourself and this is what you kind of fall for.
When a guy is the best version of themselves.
But for example sometimes you date
like so many, let's see I date hot guys
and they have a low value personality
and then you basically turned off by that.
Or sometimes you date a guy that you're not
necessarily are that attracted to but their charms
and fun and so on you know you kind of fall
for their character and you're like
oh my god I'm really into him.
And then that person kinda becomes
really beautiful to you.
- Exactly, that happened to me so many times.
- So this is what I was gonna ask you.
- You fall in love with the inside
of the person and then you literally
if something changes or if they start
behaving in a bad way like being doormatty
or just any other way like toxic.
And then you kind of when you break up,
'cause you will eventually break up
if it's not like you know if it's clashing
if they're behaving in bad ways.
And then you break up and you're like
how could I have ever been with that
person, she's so ugly or something.
People say this, this hasn't like you know.
But you're kinda like how could
I have ever went for that?
But you don't realize that you literally
go for the personality more than the looks.
- If a girl is confident and let's see,
there are some things about her that she doesn't like,
but she doesn't show that or maybe
other people say "Oh, she's a bit this,
"or she's a bit that."
But she doesn't show that and she is pulling it off
in a confident way.
- Yeah confidence is such a key.
Oh my god if a girl isn't confident
I could never, I can't deal with insec--
Like I can't.
- Yeah 'cause when you show your insecurities
you become unattractive. - And you needa work on it.
And it's really just it brings down
the whole energy, everything.
And it's just like, I want to help but I couldn't
ever be in a relationship.
It's just confidence is so key.
- Yeah you have to be confident
about what you look like, what you say.
- Self love, all that.
Love yourself, no matter what.
- That's really attractive.
- And that's really, really, really attractive.
When you love yourself and you show the world
that you love yourself and that you're confident.
This is exactly how you fall for
a girl that isn't exactly your type.
When she's confident, when she's in love with herself
and she shows you and everything
and that's literally how she grows on me.
- So basically this is what I wanted to ask
because girls, like I know for me
I fall in love with the personality.
And even if I was not into the guy
I can be into him and because guys are so visual,
I'm like does it really work for guys
the same way as it works for girls?
Or is it different?
- Bit differently but more or less, yeah.
- More or less, yeah.
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Let us know if you have ever fallen
for a guy who is not really your type
and became your type because he's funny,
he's confident, he's got those qualities
which you're looking for.
- Yeah, I'm intrigued to see what
you're gonna say actually.
Because I think it works both ways,
I think it's just--
- Yeah and also if any guys are watching,
I'd love to yeah I know guys are watching
but they kinda hiding.
And if any guys are watching if you ever
fallen for a girl who is not really your type,
but her personality was just so amazing
that you kind of fell in love with her.
That would be awesome to see those comments.
Yeah so thank you so much for coming.
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Kisses from London.
- Bye. - Bye.