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You often hear it said that there are two different kinds
of people in this world.
There are pancake people and there are waffle people.
There are iPhone people and there are Android people.
There are those who like Neil Diamond, and those who don't.
Myers-Briggs, AKA the 16 personalities,
does this on several different levels.
People are either thinkers or feelers.
They're either introverts or extroverts, et cetera.
But, if you had to divide the 16 personalities
into just two groups,
what is the most significant dividing line
between the personality types?
Which division would you use?
Many of you might argue that it's thinkers on one side,
feelers on the other side, and yeah, (laughs)
thinkers and feelers do go about making decisions
in very different ways.
But some of you might say intuitives and sensors,
that's the big dividing line;
the sensors with their eyes on reality,
the intuitives with their head in the clouds.
But I am here to tell you no (laughs) to both of those.
I don't think that either of those divisions
are quite as significant
as the one I am going to discuss today.
And this division is not really talked about
in traditional Myers-Briggs,
but once your eyes are open to it,
it really gives the 16 personalities a whole new level
of depth.
You will start to notice it immediately
in your day-to-day life.
Simply put, the biggest dividing line
between the 16 personalities is:
Are you an IJ or EP type?
Or are you an EJ or IP type?
Frank, how did you come to this division?
It seems a bit arbitrary.
How are these two groupings of the 16 personalities
so different as to be the biggest division between them all?
Well, I'm glad you asked.
It all has to do with the dominant function.
If you don't know what a dominant function is,
you can check out this video in the card above my head,
called "What Are the Cognitive Functions?"
In short, man, I feel like I keep saying in short
and then the video is just gets longer and longer.
The dominant function is the most powerful force
in your personality type.
So for an example, and INFP has intuition and feeling,
those are the two preferred functions,
but the feeling is dominant,
feeling as the most influential function
in that particular personality type.
So in that video I just mentioned,
I explain how to figure out what the dominant function is
for a personality type.
You should really watch it.
I know cognitive function seems boring,
but it really isn't, I swear.
Of course, in Myers-Briggs, everything has an opposite.
So for example, if a type has feeling
as their dominant function, as their most powerful function,
then they will have to have the opposite, thinking,
as their weakest, inferior function.
As another example, if a type has sensing
as their dominant function, like an ISFJ,
they will have to have intuition as their weakest,
inferior function.
This polarity, SAT word, of your strongest function
with your weakest function causes the biggest dividing line
between the types, because the IJs and the EPs
all have intuition or sensing as their dominant function,
while the EJs and IPs all have thinking or feeling
as their dominant function.
So when... (stammers)
(laughs) When you divide them up this way,
you start to realize that these groupings
are pretty distinct and pretty profound.
Let's get into the nitty gritty of the differences
and how you can spot them.
Let's start by talking about the EJs and the IPs
who have thinking or feeling dominant,
which also means they have thinking or feeling inferior.
Thinking and feeling are the decision-making functions.
Myers-Briggs calls them the judging functions.
That's how we decide
what course of action we're gonna take.
What is logical thinking or appropriate feeling to do here?
Pop quiz: Who makes decisions?
If you answered people, you're right.
"Oh, actually, Frank, I have a very smart dog
who makes decisions."
Stop! Enough! (laughs)
So, the IPs and EJs are very aware of people
and the disconnect between other people's decisions
and their own decisions.
Whenever you hear an EJ or an IP talking,
you will hear them overly focus on other people
in a way that might seem weird.
Unnecessary, gratuitous, I dare say,
it's because the people are what they are always trying
to process in any situation.
The EJ and IP types just bring up other people
all the dang time, oftentimes by name.
Like, you ask them, "What happened at work today?"
They might say, "Well, Jim made us all have a long,
boring meeting."
And I'm like, "I don't even know who Jim is."
But they gotta point out the person.
They just gotta.
To me, not being one of those types,
it feels like they are going out of their way to do this.
Like why, why are we focusing so much on people right now?
It's like a little awkward.
Now, obviously the other types, the IJs and the EPs,
they also talk about people from time to time,
but they don't do it as constantly as the EJs and IPs.
For the IJs and the EPs,
it's like we talk about people when necessary,
but for the IPs and the EJs,
it's necessary for them all the time.
What this comes down to is the EJs and the IPs
are really worried about being judged.
What are other people's thinking
and feeling judgements about me?
It's really painful to them to be on the receiving end
of someone else's judgment.
I mean, no one likes to be judged,
but for these types, it's like,
this is the end of the world.
You'll often hear EJs say something to the effect of,
"I can't do this because what would people think about it?
They're gonna judge me because of this.
I don't want to stick out and have people judge me
because I made a decision on my own.
That would hurt.
That would really hurt, Charlie."
Charlie. (laughs)
The IP types feel similarly.
They feel like everyone is trying to gang up on me,
everyone is against me just because I'm being myself.
Then the IP types double-down on being themselves
and trying to shut out other people,
and then they get shocked, surprised, and hurt
when other people are still judging them.
And even if you find people who are these types,
who are not necessarily like living in fear of other people,
even if they don't have a great deal of social anxiety,
and these types do struggle a lot with social anxiety,
you will, at the very least,
see them considering what other people are going to think
about what they do, like all the time.
In the next part of the video,
we're gonna talk about the IJs and the EPs
and what they are focused on.
Stay tuned.
Oh, here I am.
You thought maybe I was gone? (laughs)
It's just 10 minutes of nothing.
The EPs and IJs have intuition or sensing dominant,
which are perceiving functions.
These functions are about taking in information
and processing it.
These types, these, (laughs)
these types of focused on: What do we know?
What do we not know?
What is happening here?
Why is it happening?
And perhaps those negative questions,
like what do we not know, what are we not aware of,
are the more significant ones for these types.
Because not only do these types
have dominant intuition or sensing,
but they also have inferior intuition or sensing.
The IJs and the EPs are always trying to ignore
either the sensing or the intuition.
It's like they're ignoring half
of all the available information,
and they kinda, (laughs)
they kinda know that,
that's why they're worried and anxious about this.
They're worried about what's gonna happen.
Why are things happening?
So while the EJs and IPs are overly-focused on people,
the IJs and the EPs are overly-focused on
and bothered by things.
If their car breaks down,
or if they have to clean their room,
or if the government does something.
Now of course, everyone is gonna be bothered
by all those things to a degree,
but the IJs and EPs are really deeply triggered by it.
So you ask them, "What happened at work today?"
They might say, "Well, there was a boring meeting
that wasted all of our time,
and then I had 100 emails to answer.
I was like, buried by it.
Couldn't... (stammers)"
Of course, the examples I'm giving you
are like not to be taken as literal in every circumstance,
but generally, it's gonna be about the things
for these types, not really about the people.
They're not gonna point out Jim
and say it was Jim's fault, Jim did this.
Jim!
The IJs are focused in on a narrow band of reality.
They have an anxiety
that there's just so much information out there
that I haven't accounted for.
So many new things could come out of friggin' nowhere
and get me.
And that's kind of scary, man.
Even something as simple as I have to update my phone.
An IJ might have a fear of, "Well, what if I update it
and then I can't use it like I'm used to using it?
What am I gonna do in that situation?
No!"
That will give them a great amount of anxiety.
Whereas the EPs, they like to take in new information,
but there's the fear of, "Oh, I haven't really stopped
to get all the information lined up and organized,
so I might not really know exactly what is going on here,
what is happening.
I'm not really prepared.
I don't have a plan, and I'm afraid to stop
and sort all this stuff out,
sort out that information I've taken in,
because that would then prevent me
from taking in more new information."
So for the EPs, it causes them a lot of anxiety to stop,
and, for example, create a budget for their expenses,
or to organize their office, or to write out a schedule
because that makes them feel too boxed in and limited.
Listen for the focus on things and systems and information,
and especially when something goes wrong with those things.
But IJs and EPs will talk about it
as though it's like a major catastrophe.
I will never financially recover from this.
Basically what you want to ask yourself is:
How is this person weird?
Do they seem to be weirder around people,
overly-focused on the people and what they think,
or are they overly-focused on the things
and the information of what we know and what we don't know?
Thanks for watching.
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