Tripp Kramer from www.trippadvice.com. Let's talk about if you're dating a girl
and you have a situation where she just recently broke up with someone or
maybe her ex is somehow still in her life and you had this ex situation.
What do you do? How do you get it so she can forget about him,
focus on you and this ex doesn't become an issue? Here's the number one, the
number one is if you are building attraction and you're doing a good job
at it and you're not being needy and you're not being predictable which are
the two most unattractive traits that a guy can have when they're trying to get
a girl attracted. If you're doing all this and it's working out then naturally
she should not be thinking about her ex or really any other guy for that matter.
A lot of guys don't really understand that women are loyal when they are
attracted to a guy. I'm not saying they're not loyal if they're not. I'm not
saying that girls were just cheat on you at any second. Although I know a lot of
you guys think that. I'm just saying is that when a girl is interested in a
guy and attracted, she is really focused on him and there's not a lot that can
distract her from that. So hopefully naturally as the relationship progresses
and things continue with each other that he will slowly fade away. However that's
not always the case so let's get into some more stuff. I don't want you to
necessarily ask this question. I don't want you asking any questions about the
exes unless you have the very perfect moment where she's bringing it
up and you can kind of throw it in there. But I don't want you to show any
interest at all in the ex. With that being said, if she brings him up and she
starts saying something about why they broke up or maybe you throw in there
"Oh, why did it end or why didn't it work out?" Say it very casually.
Pay attention to what she says because whatever she's saying that is a big
thing that could cause you two to break up so if you really care for this girl
and you want this thing to last then find out
what it is or just listen intently to what she's saying about her ex that
didn't work out and try to be the guy who's not doing whatever that thing is.
Of course it all depends on what it is but if it's reasonable to make sure
that's something you pay attention to because that's something that she's
sensitive to. You don't want to bring him up, you don't want to bring him up
ever. Don't bring him up. There's no point. There's no point.
There's no information besides the little information I said earlier that
might be somewhat useful but don't bring him up. When you bring him up, you're
gonna show that you care. It's gonna show that it affects you and that's not gonna
be very attractive. Focus on the relationship and what's happening
between you and her not her past. However she might continuously bring
it up. If that's the case, what I want you to do is I want you to say to her, not in
an accusatory way but in a very curious way, "I get this feeling that you're
maybe not over him or there's some sort of connection between you two."
You're gonna say that. Again, this is very crucial here, you're not gonna say it
like you're upset and angry about it. The more emotional reaction you have there,
the more turnoff it's gonna be. Instead you're just gonna be very
curious, you're gonna inquire, you're gonna say "I don't know. This is
interesting. You bring him up quite a bit. Is there still a connection
between you two. Is there something going on?" What that's gonna do
is that's gonna show her, wow I do bring it up a lot without you having to say
"you bring up your ex a lot." But also that might get her thinking "maybe I do."
And you want that. Tou want her to actually think "yeah, maybe I do have
a connection to my ex" because if she does or she still likes him bye-bye.
You want her out. Don't go the opposite way which most guys do. They think
"oh oh she's still hung up on her es. How do I get her? How do I get her?"
Forget that. There's so many women out there that you can be with that are ready
and willing to be with you. Don't just try to get a girl to be just
trying to pull her away from her ex-boyfriend. It's like let her go.
You don't want to be with that person. You want to be with a person who is at peace
with all of her past relationships for the most part
where she doesn't have to talk about her ex or deal with that stuff anymore.
That's the kind of person you want. Bottom line is don't make this a thing
in your dating relationship or relationship. Don't make this a thing.
The more you make it a thing, the more fuel you're adding to the fire and the more
this is gonna be an issue. So you need to just keep quiet,
don't bring it up. If she brings it up whatever. If she brings it up too much, you're
gonna say something and then throughout all of this you're gonna keep on
following all this stuff I've been saying in terms of you being and you
walking and stepping into the most attractive self you could be
because that is the most powerful. That is what's gonna make her forget. Like I
said, if that's not working, it's doesn't have to do with you per se if
you're doing your best job at being awesome.
Instead the situation is she's not over him and she should be gone.
I want you to check out a video called "36 questions to hack a girl's mind that
make her fall in love with you." Questions that help you get to know a person to
help you two connect. Remember that's what we're trying to do here so check that
video out. It's a YouTube video I made a couple years ago. Watch it. It's in the
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