where all I have to do is hit and hit a button and you get whatever sexual genre you would like
on the screen before you and you can even hit a button and have any sexual genre show up for you
hey welcome back for another episode of porn brain rewire with me Dr Trish Lee today we're going to
talk about the solution on how to heal your brain from porn use on the next episode we're going to
talk about the solution on how to heal erectile dysfunction and other arousal dysfunctions in
the brain like premature ejaculation and delayed ejaculation before we explore the solution let's
explore the problem so we're going to go problem solution how to implement it in your life brain
hack strategy so the problem is the opposite of the solution so many times okay so when it comes
to porn use what is the problem the problem is that you have inadvertently set yourself up with
a lifestyle not life lifestyle or situation where you go into the screen for high levels
of dopamine to offset stress and boredom you've taught your brain to use sex and porn to be able
to give your brain this Rush of dopamine so you can feel good and escape from the feelings of
primarily stress but secondarily boredom now this is what I call a lifestyle of the Easy
Button if somebody was having a problem they could just hit the easy button and a guy would
show up and solve all the problems for him where all you have to do is hit and hit a button and
you get whatever sexual genre you would like on the screen before you and you can even hit
a button and have any sexual genre show up for you so the problem when it comes to porn use and
hypersexuality is an easy button lifestyle and when we're thinking about that neurologically
and applied directly to porn use what happens is when you fire up your computer or your tablet or
your phone you hit a button literally and you are exposed to high levels of dopamine in your brain
from what you are viewing on the screen we know that porn is a super normal stimulus
it delivers a lot of dopamine into your system which makes you feel really good it's that rush
in your brain that you feel and most people pear pornography use with masturbation so
pornography use it's fantasy it's Visual and auditory stimulation lighting up those areas
in the reward center in your brain and then paired with masturbation you're coupling it
with intense physical stimulation also so a pornography habit typically is
and varying levels of intensity a mental and physical stimulation habit that helps you to
calm down and to feel stimulated simultaneously that's why you keep going back because it delivers
high levels of dopamine what I want to think about today with you is the idea behind novelty and the
idea behind intensity when it comes to hitting the easy button so with every intensity or with
every going into the screen and with every switch into another novel scene or genre you
are delivering more and more dopamine into your brain and it impacts your entire nervous system
and your entire body the damage is real the damage to your frontal lobe and to that desensitization
in the reward center it is real invisible on the brain map service that I provide it's showing up
in your mind it's showing up in your behavior and it's showing up in your body so when you feel that
pull that urge that compulsion that pull back into the screen it is the pull for dopamine it is the
pull for mood regulation now what's pushing you back in mostly stress stress is a major trigger
that's going to push you back into the screen as the screen is pulling you back in because the
reward center has been desensitized which means it needs more constantly it needs more intensity it
needs greater frequency it needs longer sessions it needs more novelty to get the same feeling as
you felt before there's tolerance building there's withdrawal this is a real addiction
basically when you go into the screen it's very unhealthy sexuality it's hypersexuality at its
finest so it's training your brain to look for sex everywhere and to need sex more than you would if
you didn't get all that dopamine from porn and sex it also is teaching your brain to objectify people
and I know so many people have this experience when you go into the world and you see a beautiful
woman and you start thinking sexual things right away and you think that is healthy or you think
it's quote unquote normal it's certainly not a reflection of a healthy brain pattern as
literally not sexual at all but it's become linked to sexuality into that dopamine release for you
and so hypersexuality objectification and changes in your arousal template all become part of the
unhealthy sexuality that is in fact part of the Easy Button lifestyle of porn use so what is the
solution let's move into the solution the solution is is the opposite of the Easy Button lifestyle so
my precious child Declan he was given my husband's old Jaguar XF so the point is he got that Jaguar
an easy button you know cause my husband was getting rid of it gave it to Declan Boom the
next day he's got a Jaguar that's pretty awesome right so the Jaguar died so I sent a Declan okay
we'll you know we'll have to invest in another car for you start looking for cars that man comes back
and guess what he's got on the screen on his phone before him you guessed it a Porsche and I'm like
dude Porsches are earned they're not given I'm not buying you a Porsche you're insane my man so he's
all disgruntled he's like but I had a Jaguar we got to go up from here so here's the problem is
he had an easy button Jaguar so now he thinks boom I'm just gonna hit a button again and I'm
gonna have a portion in the backyard I have not gotten him a car until his brain can recalibrate
what's going on right now because he has to work work work work work he has to work for a Porsche
and so the idea is the same here is that you've easy buttoned all this sex all of these actors
that you're viewing you might even Easy Button some of these experiences but now it's time to
put your beautiful brain to work you have to re-sensitize the reward center and fire back
up that frontal lobe but if you're used to the Easy Button you might need a recalibration time
like Declan Jude Lee does so he's recalibrating like you know now he's thinking Toyotas yes Declan
yes he's thinking you know more of a typical car all the other kids just have your regular Teenage
car so he's getting with the program here this is what I encourage you to do this is what I
wanted to tell you is that there's technology that exists I don't make it nor do I sell it
but if you buy it with my affiliate link you get the best pricing out there there is state of the
art 2023 technology that exists that you can use to recalibrate your brain unconsciously for you
while you're going to work on the subconscious and conscious reprogramming of not thinking a
Porsche is going to show up on your doorstep a sexual Porsche if you will so this technology
is a headband and I'm gonna make sure we put the link below to the webpage on my website if you go
to my website it's under personal neurofeedback coaching there's a tab that says Muse headband
it's called a muse headband and it's an amazing piece of technology I literally use mine all the
time to keep my brain optimized it will help you optimize your brain and to re-sensitize the areas
that have become desensitized it's a very powerful piece of technology so if you're not ready to work
with a professional this is something that you can use at home now if you're looking
for a higher level support after the qeg brain map which is the first step in working with me I offer
professional grade the very highest technology professional grade neurofeedback coaching that you
can do at home we use them use as the hardware but there's professional software so I can
individualize your training specifically to your needs I can create many protocols for you and the
best part is the data is so measurable that you get highly measurable data after every single
session I get a ton of data and I share it with you so if you're interested get a brain map that's
the beginning step to working together if you are stuck in this loop I want you to break this
Loop so I need you to know that recalibrating your brain is the solution to the problem of the easy
button and it can be done using technology but you can also do it by yourself with the starter
neurofeedback which is in the Muse headband but how do you work your brain you do that by not
hitting the Easy Button you have to make sure you do not hit that easy button you definitely
don't hit the Easy Button sexually and I would even encourage you not to doordash not to Amazon
not to Easy Button anything for a little while of course you can go back to ordering things off
Amazon but in the short run we're recalibrating which means you have to work for it and when
you work for it what I want you to do is start exercising executive function so get involved
in your work especially the pieces that you like and pick a project that lasts over 90 days would
be perfect even longer I spoke with someone today who's building a shed so cool building a shed is
going to take some time it's going to take brain power there's no easy button when you're building
something because you have to course correct there's little dopamine hits along the way and
when you're done there's a lot of satisfaction with a healthy dose of dopamine you want to do
the same thing in your relationships and in your sex life so if you have a partner start working
for that pleasurable experience of being in a sexual relationship with another human being
sex is supposed to be relational not you and a screen and masturbation and actors that are
not involved in Intimate experience when you get busy working on your sexual relationship with your
partner what happens is you're re-sensitizing the reward center now it's not going to happen
overnight because I want you to think about how long you've been hitting the easy button over time
you're going to feel your brain coming online especially if you're using the highest level
technology to rewire that brain you're going to feel it you're gonna feel calmer you're going to
feel more focused you're going to feel motivated in the bedroom you're going to feel more pleasure
and happiness and joy at lower levels so that you can have fun it's about the healthy levels
of dopamine in pleasure plus serotonin for happiness joy and that calm wonderful feeling
and oxytocin for connection Okay so you also need to figure out more tools for mood regulation if
you've been going to porn and sex you might only have one tool left porn and sex what I would like
for you to do or encourage you get five tools for mood regulation you want as many mood regulation
activities that are healthy for you and that you have to work for and start practicing Intimacy in
your relationship get connected with people texts phone calls go visit people number three right now
are the brain hack strategies that you're going to implement number one you have to stay out of
the screen if you are stuck in this cycle it's imperative that you break the cycle and if you
can't break that cycle by yourself like so many people can't please check out my 90-day program
it is a digital program that is designed to help you move through a very specific process over 90
days and all the strategies synergize to help you be successful 90 days later when you get into the
90-day program it's like the university course that walks you through step by step everything
you need to explore resolve and move through to get to the other side of that 4D cycle Okay so
once you come out of the 4D cycle what so many people find is that their brain might
have unwired so now they don't have to go into the screen anymore and they've broken the masturbation
trap but their brain hasn't rewired okay so what does that work look like number one get the brain
training headband highest level 2023 technology that's out there start training your brain if
you are not getting where you want to with the headband alone schedule a brain map with me I can
tell you why measurably start training your brain it is there for you again it's fairly affordable
when you buy that headband from the manufacturer it will serve you that's number one use Tech we're
at the point where we should be using technology to help our cause number two is don't hit the easy
button start hitting the less than Easy Button make yourself dinner think re-sensitizing the
reward center firing up the frontal lobe food is highly dopamine producing and when you take those
small baby steps by checking out a recipe finding the ingredients making the meal you're going to
resensitize your brain plus you're moving at a slower pace which is going to help it come online
work I already told you get a work project going because it's essential to link your brain back to
your work for lower levels of dopamine re-link your brain to your passion in your work if you
don't love your work get a little side hustle going to move you towards work you love it
can really resensitize your brain and it can really reconnect you to your life for dopamine
serotonin and oxytocin okay moving on to your relationship practice healthy sexuality let go
of objectification what that means is more giving less taking in the bedroom sex is supposed to be
relational which means you're relating to each other start practicing healthy sexuality with your
partner find five other healthy mood regulation tools that you can use I already mentioned some
like working out going for walks cooking I want you to go back to your childhood and think what
did little you like to do we're gonna wrap up for today all right well thanks for being here with me
because I totally appreciate it it's my mission to help as many people as possible stop watching porn
because it damages your brain keep showing up show up next week when we visit part two and we think
about arousal dysfunction erectile dysfunction premature ejaculation and delayed ejaculation so
I can keep helping you heal your brain okay until next time control your brain or it'll control you
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