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- [Isabel] So this time last year, I was working full-time,
I was living in my own apartment with my two best friends,
and, just kind of had a normal life.
Priority was all just kind of about work,
and doing that early 20 thing of trying to move up,
and I was doing that.
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I got a call from a friend who was over at my dad's house,
he's been sick since I was seven years old,
but it kept going up and down, he had prostrate cancer,
so I didn't necessarily think it was a big deal,
I thought she was just getting nervous about
the way he always was, but everything changed,
I left my job, my mother just wasn't capable of parenting.
Before he went into the hospital,
my dad had asked me to take care of the twins,
if he passed away.
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- No body that I know is being raised by their sisters,
which I guess is pretty cool.
- I was definitely, for lack of better terms,
probably a little bit more on the selfish side. (laughs)
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- Charlotte had actually moved home, to save up money,
to travel around the world.
- And so now I'm sharing a room with a 15 year old girl,
and, it's different.
- So obviously in this day and age,
if you're faced with a problem,
the first thing you do is Google,
and there was nothing there.
- I think that's actually why Izzy started doing the blog,
also because she couldn't find anything online.
- Just talk about what we're doing,
so next time someone else goes through this,
there's something to reach out to,
and something to read about,
at least the daily experience of it all.
It's cool! It's cool that it's actually,
within a matter of months, it's helping people.
Normally we're on the same page about everything,
and we're really good at when
the twins ask for something big,
that we know they're gonna hold us to,
we'll say, 'Oh, I have to talk to Charlotte first',
or she'll say, 'Oh, I have to talk to Isabel first',
and as long as we do that, we're fine. (laughs)
- I couldn't imagine just not being part of this,
to be honest, me and Isabel definitely had our moments,
where we were debating not living together,
in this situation, the question was never,
am I gonna leave the raising the kids part,
it's just how do we make it work,
where me and Isabel are in a situation
where we're getting along.
- Charlotte and I have had our ups and downs through this,
but I don't know what I'd do without her, we co-parent.
I legally have guardianship, but it's a lot of work,
for one person.
- I'm older by three minutes. - Two minutes.
- He always says it's two, but it's three,
it's three, it's three. - It's probably three.
- I think that at the beginning, it was really,
learning how to make sure all the bills were paid on time,
and actually being a head of household,
for other than just a 23 year old girl,
with an apartment that I pay rent, electricity, and gas.
Now there's budgeting for food,
and budgeting to make sure they have clothes on their backs,
and random school projects that come up,
and just making sure that all of your ducks are in a row,
before you need them to be in a row, which is daunting.
- What about this one Char?
- [Charlotte] That's the one where Isabel's upset
that I was being born.
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- [Isabel] Well, do we have to keep her? (laughs)
- [Jasper] You can do this one, this one's funny.
- My dad was the best dad,
he didn't love anyone in the world, more than he loved us.
No matter where he was,
he was telling people about his kids,
and what they were up to,
even when they didn't want to listen.
- At his funeral, everyone was telling stories,
the one person was like, 'I just remember this one time,
that we had a party bus, (laughs)
and Harvey was passing wine out to the people,
on the street.'
He knew how to walk into the room, and own it,
and how to talk to everybody,
and how to make everyone feel better about themselves.
He was a cool dude, he was really fun, I miss him. (laughs)
- There's the thought of what life should be,
verse what life is, but that's not a way to live a life.
I just try to do as good as a job as he did for us,
with the twins, which is a pretty high bar. (laughs)
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