the post-millennial just released an article showing that Zoe Quinn may not
have been telling the entire truth about what happened with Alec Holowka so not
only will we be talking about the problems with its situation I think a
lot of people are missing the main aspect of this story when it comes to
the tragic loss of Alec Holowka what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired
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going on all right so yeah a new article just came out from the post millennial
I'm not gonna go through the whole thing you can check it out down in the
description below but basically for those of you who aren't caught up to
speed I've done some other videos about this but Zoe Quinn made some serious
allegations against Alec Aloka when they were dating years ago this resulted in
him being fired from his job and he unfortunately took his own life within
the next week and the internet has been in an uproar about that it's been this
divisive state of people saying you know believe victims or you know we need
proof and you know due process and all that kind of stuff and like I said I've
talked about that in depth in other videos all right cancel culture is an
awful thing the court of public opinion is brutal hate mobs are terrible and I
don't think anybody out there is saying that Alec was completely innocent but
mob justice is not the way to go well anyway some of Zoe Quinn's main
allegations were you know emotional abuse she said that
he kept her isolated from everybody else wouldn't let her leave and there was a
story about a plane ticket he was supposed to buy her so she can leave and
all sorts of things but anyways the post-millennial went back and found
tweets from zoe quinn around that time and things aren't
adding up alright and I have no problem playing devil's advocate for both sides
of this story but basically what the article was showing was this doesn't
seem like somebody who was in distress and trying to escape the situation she
did interviews with Alec it seemed like you know she was in a very loving
relationship and everything like that like I as somebody who has worked with
many many people who struggle with trauma and everything like it's not it's
not a good barometer to be like well look they acted like they were fine like
there are plenty of people who are in abusive relationships who act like
everything's fine but I understand especially based on Zoe Quinn's history
why people feel that she's lying and she might be we don't know all right but
like I said I just don't think that's strong enough evidence to be like look
she seemed fine all right but anyways like the main aspect of this
story that I think people are really losing in all the anger over the loss of
Alec and Zoe Quinn coming back up in you know recent talks and everything like
everybody is just so furious and everything like man whenever whenever a
life is lost due to mental illness like we got to talk about it and man like I
just I don't want any of these tragic losses to be in vain like the other day
I made a video about Mac Miller you know they arrested his drug dealer
and like there's things that we need to learn from these situations and when it
comes to the story about Alec coloca like we need to be talking about
subjects such as like forgiveness Redemption
remorse growth like all of these things because here's the thing at the end of
the day I don't think that there's anybody out there who's logical that
thinks that alec was completely innocent you know worst case scenario zoe quinn
did lie and she exaggerated things right but alec by his own admission and even
the admission of his sister alex struggled with mental illness he
struggled with personality disorders and I talked about this before alright and I
made a video about that awful medium post that his former partner Scott
Benson made and everything but I think again like the main point of this is
we're all we're all getting so lost in this like who to be angry at and who to
blame because when I think about I think of the thousands upon thousands upon
thousands of people who are watching this story unfold waiting for updates
and everything like you guys there are people in your life who are just like
Alec Aloka all right where they were struggling with mental illness they did
terrible awful things that might have been verbally or emotionally abusive and
things like that and you refuse to forgive them right and I get it it's
hard but man like I've had to go through this process myself like I grew up with
an alcoholic mom she did not get sober until I was 20 years old and she is
coming up on 14 years sober okay like I don't continue to bring up her pass and
that is one of the primary issues that people have with what Zoe Quinn did but
the problem is is it's so easy to sit on mine be behind your computer screen or
behind your cellphone screen or whatever it is and just write all this outrage
but like what's going on in your own life who are the people who were
struggling with mental illness that hurt you in the past that you're still
holding resentments against right like this is happening to all of
us and we need to look at it and we need to address it and no I'm not saying that
you should go make up with everybody who's hurt you but I think it's an
important conversation to have that hurt people hurt people like when Alec Aloka
sister came out she talked about how Alec was a victim of abuse himself and
there are so so many mental illnesses so many mental illnesses that stem from
trauma like something I've been very vocal about is I absolutely hate the
stigma around borderline personality disorder all right like I get it I get
that people with borderline personality disorder hurt a lot of people in their
path and I think they need to take responsibility and go get treatment go
get help it shouldn't just get a free pass to just treat everybody like
garbage but I do feel that there needs to be some level of empathy because most
people most people with borderline personality disorder and even other
personality disorders they were a victim of some kind of abuse growing up all
right and when I bring this up this is also a message to anybody out there who
is a parent like I am or if you're younger and you're going to be a parent
like understand this like this is this is why we need to have our parenting
game in check all right this is why we can't just have kids for
the sake of having kids and all these like it is our responsibility to protect
these kids because if we don't they become messed-up adults like those of
you who don't know me I ended up becoming a drug addict an alcoholic I
have struggled with mental illness and yes being the son of an alcoholic mom
and experiencing all of that and the traumatic things that I've witnessed
that was a very big factor in how I spent almost a decade
ruining my life right but I then got to a point where I took responsibility for
this thing so I'm not saying to let everybody off the hook that is not what
I'm saying at all but I just wish that when we talk about these stories about
what happened with zoe quinn and alec Aloka that we just have a little bit
more empathy and understand that these people have gone through something and
they need help like if you're in an abusive relationship leave like you you
are not there to fix them you are not there to save them they need to get help
on their own if if you're sitting around waiting for them to get help you might
wait around forever but what's incredibly sad about the story of Alec
coloca is he was working on it man like he was
working on getting better and people who knew him recently knew that he was going
to therapy and trying to get you know his emotions in check so he wasn't that
awful person and like one of the reasons that I talk about this aspect of it is I
used to be a really terrible person man a really awful person and I've worked
really hard the last seven years to become a better person and not make
those mistakes that I used to and we we need to ask ourselves that you know at
some point like would I want somebody to forgive me for what I've done
if I'm working this hard to improve myself you know what I mean it's it's
just a messed-up story all around but I I feel obligated to cover this story
because I just I just think that people are watching this story unfold just so
they can be angry at people like Zoe Quinn and every part everybody who is
part of the gamergate movement but I want you to look at your own lives and
see how this might be affecting your relationships with people you know you
know what I mean anyways that's all I got for this video
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