How can I get my wife to trust me again? My name is Paul Friedman, I founded The
Marriage Foundation and I am going to be really
candid with you and so I would urge you to really pay attention
to this. Because it's human nature
to look for the shortcut. There's a reason why your wife doesn't
trust you. Maybe it's because of infidelity, maybe
it's because you're over spending the money, maybe because she's
caught you in a bunch of lies and so she doesn't
trust you. So, let's put you in
her shoes. Let's pretend that she had lied to you
or she was unfaithful, or she wasn't good with the budget.
What happens? How are you going to trust her?
I'm going to give you the answer because this is what you need to do.
Again, going back to this, no matter what she would say to you
no matter what she might do, no matter how she pleaded with you
she's not going to trust you unless you saw that she began to make some huge
changes to herself and you saw some essential things about her
change. How would she do that? You can't just will that
reality of change into existence. It requires
a tremendous amount of effort. It does and it also requires a plan
and knowledge of how to put together such a plan
and then how to execute it. So here's the reality, by the way, this
whole thing was not a pitch. I'm just sharing with you the reality.
I used to be a divorce mediator and now we've been healing marriages for 20
years and this is a big deal. And
in every case where it's like really bad, the person has to basically
do and women too has to do this self
analysis. I call it dispassionate introspection
and then they need a process and I created a tool
called the SEW technique so that you could change yourself.
Dramatically, change yourself and now you might ask well,
"How is she going to know I'm doing this?" Trust me,
the results of once you start this are so obvious. Not just your wife but
other people go, "Wow, you've really changed. Wow!"
So that's how you do it. You want your wife to trust you again.
Basically simple, you have to become a trustworthy person.
How do you do that? You have to convert all of these habits
and you know the habit of let's just say lying.
The habit of lying is it really obvious. It's up at the top
but it is based on a string of habits just underneath it.
And that string of habits is based on another string of habits
so you have to have a good tool. It's like a screw. Screw is not that hard
to turn if you have a screwdriver. Without one it's really hard that's why
I created the SEW technique. So look into the course for men that we
have and also look at some of the other
videos so you get a feel for how we approach marriages which is very
different from traditional psychological approach
which frankly, doesn't work. I'm going to leave
you with this. Hopefully, it was useful.
God bless you and good luck with this. God bless your wife
and God bless your family! Take care!