- Hey Playa.
For the last two years I've been giving
you guys advice and all this time I've
been curious to see what
you guys think about me.
So I headed on over to Instagram and asked this.
Hey Playa, I finally caved in.
This week I'm gonna do the assumptions
challenge video that you see
making its way around Youtube.
So leave your assumptions down there below
and I will anonymously feature them
in this weeks video.
I can't wait to hear what
you guys think about me.
So let's see what you guys had to say.
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Let's go all the way to the beginning
and the first one here is
That's true.
I am married.
I made a video all about it which
I'll link up over here.
You can go check that out.
Talk about how I met my wife,
how we got married,
what the ceremony was like.
All that fun stuff.
Well I'm not really rich or anything like that.
I mean, I have a day job.
I have my Youtube stuff.
So I have different sources of income coming in
and I think I'm doing okay
but I wouldn't say I have money as in
I'm rich or anything like that.
That is true.
A lot of people think I'm a full time Youtuber
because I make five videos a week
but the truth of the matter is
that I have a full time day job that I do.
I'm a digital marketer.
I work in marketing for an education company.
And I do Youtube on the side.
I make these videos cause I
really want to help people.
Sooner or later you guys are going to see
me doing this full time.
Travel like to schools, writing books,
making more videos.
All that stuff.
Stay tuned.
It's gonna happen.
I would say that's probably true.
Growing up I was pretty shy.
I was pretty scared to say what I thought
or to ask out my crush and
once you really got to know me
that's kind of when I started to open up.
I'm sure it's the same for a lot of you guys
too that feel like you're shy.
You know, once someone really gets to know
who you are, it's easy to be yourself.
But until then, you just keep yourself quiet.
That, I would say, is true.
Confidence is something that I have
built over time which I what I'm always
trying to explain to you guys too.
It's not something you're
just inherently born with,
it happens through your experiences,
through your mindful practices
looking over your actions and seeing
where you can make changes in your life.
Confidence is something that I built and
you know, looking at my own insecurities
and the things I struggle with
and the things I dealt with,
I look back on it and I realize that
they were learning steps for me.
They were opportunities for me to
review my behavior and to see where
you can make changes.
That's probably true.
I mean, have you seen all the toys
in my background here.
I'm no Alpha M.
I'm no God like Besus.
I'm just an average guy.
An average guy who really is
trying to work on improving himself.
Yeah, I like collecting toys
and I like reading comics
and I like watching Marvel movies
and all these different things,
but I don't think that that should affect
the type of advice I give.
A lot of times people think that you can
only take advice from people who look cool
or have it all together,
but the truth of the matter is is that
everyone has a story to share
and I'm just sharing mine.
Now I'm going to assume you mean
one of two things here.
Smash as in have lots of sex and
I'm just out there doing things like a pro
which is totally not true.
I've talked a lot about that in the past
That I was an awkward person growing up.
I didn't have sex till much later when I
was in college.
So I'm not an expert by any means,
but if you mean smash like Smash Brothers,
man, pick any character you want,
I'll bring my gaming watching
and I will take you to town.
This is an interesting one.
This is totally not true at all.
Being single is the default state.
You don't start in a relationship
and not everyone does find a person
they can deeply connect with.
I think being single doesn't mean that you're
failing at something.
It doesn't mean that
you're not doing something right.
It simply means you haven't really found
the person you can deeply build a bond with
and that's okay.
It takes learning and growing.
It takes putting yourself out there,
talking to more people
and really just kind of expanding your horizons
of what you're hoping for
and letting of of those expectations.
Six three is pretty tall to begin with.
I'm actually six one.
So that's still tall anyway,
but yes, I am shorter than six three.
And I think most people are, right?
No guys, I'm no Jesus figure.
I'm pretty sure it's sacreligous to do that.
Isn't it?
And either way, I think a lot of times
people hold me up on this high pedestal
and think, "Wow, Josh is the
person I aspire to be.
He's super positive and happy
and he always knows how to handle every situation."
But the truth is, I'm no different from you guys.
I'm a person who deals with feelings of being
overwhelmed and sadness and hurt and anger
and I'm just trying to figure out how to
process my feeling, learn from them,
and carry forward in a way where I'm displaying
my best self
whatever I choose to make that to be.
Here my words and live by them my child.
And then there were tons of responses like this.
That last one was is a little much
but I get what you guys are saying
and I'm truly grateful for your kind words.
I'm so happy and so inspired by the fact that
I'm helping you guys in some kind of way
and you're carrying that forward
and really making progress
and just good decisions in your life.
Keep moving forward guys.
It really means a lot to me.
Honestly, this assumptions challenge
didn't really work out like I thought it would.
I thought would write negative things
or mean things or just flat out criticize me
but the truth of the matter is this,
if you work toward building a community
that's caring, loving and kind
then people will recognize that.
If you carry those behaviors forward in your life
then people are gonna see that
and I'm so grateful for the fact that you guys
see that in me.
You see that I truly care
and I want to helps others
and you recognize that.
So your assumptions seem overall pretty good
and overall pretty true.
So thank you guys for being
a part of this challenge.
What I'm gonna do here is move over
so you guys can see the
video I'm gonna link up
but I'm gonna link up another video over here
where I answer questions that you guys asked me.
It's a Q and A video.
So go check it out and go see what I had to say.
On that note guys, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.