that's right in this video I'm gonna be getting some unsolicited advice to Tana
mongeau about being cheated on by Brad Sousa but on the off chance that she doesn't see this video this video is
actually for you now what are my qualifications not much except for the
fact that I've been in there a lot a lot of messed up relationships what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewind so when we talk about the problem but
focus on the solution and if you did to my channel sometimes what I like to do
is take different topics from the YouTube community and try to see what
lessons we can learn from them so if any of that stuff makes you subscribe and
ring that notification tone so a little bit of a disclaimer I don't know Tana
mongeau I don't know the fake Justin Bieber (Brad Sousa) either so this is based on the video
that tenon mojo just released about her breakup and yes sometimes I dive into
some YouTube commentary but the goal of these videos is I want all of us to take
the content we're consuming and see what we can learn so this video is not only
for Tana if she ever sees this but for anybody out there who's not just
somebody who's been cheated on but anybody who's gone through a breakup all
right the first thing is is that we we judge ourselves way too harshly for our
emotions after after just about any kind of life-changing event whether it's a
breakup whether it's been cheated on whether it's the loss of somebody and
Tana mongeau goes through these emotions that she talks about going through those
emotions and she talks about how she feels she should be like stronger and
harder and everything like that but sometimes she talks about throughout
this video is you know she's a person but she's a human being and that's
something that we all need to remind ourselves up through any of these
difficult situations maybe just even losing a job and I know a lot of people
struggle with this especially if you're like the the head of the household maybe
or maybe you're a single parent or maybe you're just somebody like Tana mojo who
has a platform and a lot of people are looking up to you like I know I felt
that pressure as well but what we need to realize is that we
human and we have emotions and one of the reasons I'm always preaching about
meditation and mindfulness is it helps us quit judging our emotions so so so
much we just sit with them and we accept them and we let them be like any type of
kind of massive event in our lives there's going to be ups and downs I
could definitely relate to what Tana is talking about with those ups and downs
during this whole situation just one just being heartbroken by what happened
being taken off guard and you know giving her all to this relationship and
then on the other hand that voice in her head that saying it's gonna be okay it's
going to be fine it is completely normal for us as humans to have a myriad of
emotions during a time like this the next thing I want to say is yes yes yes
yes girl so this is awesome tena mojo talked about having to be a role model
for her younger audience and I am just so proud of Tana mongeau for acknowledging that
she talks about later in her video I'm about like never wanting to be a role
model but like accepting that she is one and yeah like that is so awesome and
just self-aware and we have to think about that as parents too right like if
you're a parent let's say you're a single parent or maybe you're you know
in the relationship with the other parent like what example are you setting
for your child right like when when I was single after my son's mom and I
broke up I was very careful about who I dated because if I got into a crazy
terrible like verbally abusive or emotionally abusive relationship what
kind of example is that setting for my son it is showing my son that this is
okay so like I'm so impressed and proud of Tana mojo for acknowledging her
audience and and knowing that part of like what she has to do is because she
is an influence on them and that is that is very very grown-up of her and I know
I've been critical of Tana in the past but this is like a huge huge like
accomplishment and just showing some real personal growth in my opinion but
the yes - and something that I'm learning on
my journey as a youtuber is is that it's also a great form of accountability
right well I just haven't you know having my son that's a form of
accountability but being on this platform is a form of accountability so
Tana now before making some decisions she's acknowledging that she has to
think about what's gonna be public what's the audience gonna think how are
they going to be influenced and everything like that and that is just
look superb so tan if you're watching this killing a girl another thing I
wanna touch on is Tana is so compassionate towards Brad or aka fake
Justin Bieber she's very compassionate towards him and that's that's huge that
is HUGE and she talks about forgiveness and you guys I can't express how
important forgiveness is after any type of relationship whether it was you know
your your boyfriend or girlfriend or you know whoever it was but like in a
broader context anybody who's hurt you all right they saved that holding on to
that type of resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies
like a lot of us think that forgiveness is letting the other person off the hook
but in my experience forgiveness is letting ourselves off the hook you see
what I mean and she's very empathetic towards Brad just just knowing that you
know he's not in a great place the last video I made about this talking about
people who cheat is that they have a lot of insecurities a lot of insecurities
that's why they do what they do you know what I mean and for Tana to be grown up
about that and acknowledge that that is a huge huge deal something that was very
interesting about tannaz video is that she brought up the relationship between
Khloe Kardashian and that dude who cheated on him on her and like she got
back with him and tennis saw all of that and what happened and she took that
right but she was very empathetic towards Khloe because what Taylor was
talking about was during that situations like oh girl you crazy why are you gonna
get back with that guy right but now that she's been in that situation she
was a whole different perspective a whole different outlook a
whole different opinion on the situation because now she's going through it and
like this is something that all of us do and all of us should do right we get put
into someone else's shoes and were like oh my god like I think I mentioned this
in a video a few weeks ago but how many of you out there are parents and before
you are a parent you judged other parents and then all of a sudden you
have kids or whatever it is and you're like oh my god oh now I make sense or
maybe maybe you just became an adult remember all the things you took for
granted that your parents did right and then now that you're an adult and you're
paying your own bills you gotta you know you gotta pay you gotta pay electricity
you got a car you got a car payment you got insurance you got to pay gas you got
to buy groceries everything you are doing mom and dad you guys are putting
in work and it's awesome that she she is acknowledging that and taking that in
and turning that into wisdom I can say personally that like this is something
that I personally dealt with like doing YouTube commentary and then having all
the stuff happen to me in the last couple months like it is given me a
whole new perspective on this whole youtuber thing right like and and yeah
I've been trying to be a lot more compassionate empathetic when I work
things when I talk about other youtubers because for the first time in my life
I've actually experienced some of what they've been through and Tana mojo has
millions of followers if you combined all of their social media platforms so
many people following her so like what I got was like basically like a pinch you
know what I mean it was a little yeah and right and like Tana mojo or any
other big youtuber or celebrity when this kind of stuff happens like a public
breakup or whatever it is or any kind of controversy it's like a punch in the
face it's not a light little pinch so I have much more empathy even though I
haven't even dealt with this to the extreme that somebody like Tana mojo has
I talk about this a bit in the video I made the other day about James falls and
why he's blocking people on Twitter the last thing
want to talk about is the wisdom that Tana has gained from this relationship
and I may or may not do another video to try to see what lessons we can learn
from this and just the things she explained about the relationship and how
much he gave but anyways like for right now just what I want to touch on if she
talks about what she learned and how she like you know is looking back in like
retracing the breadcrumbs and saying what was my part in this and she talks
about rushing into the relationship you know bringing Brad out there and you
know all these other things that she's gained wisdom I was actually just doing
a life coaching session earlier one of my practice sessions because I'll be
certified sometime in the next month anyways I was talking to somebody about
their relationship that they were just in and like the question that I always
ask anybody whether it's you know a client that I've worked with or just a
friend it's like what did you learn like what did you learn from this
relationship what did this relationship teach you right because wisdom is taking
knowledge and putting that into action right if nothing changes nothing changes
so if we don't acknowledge where we made missteps maybe it was in the choosing
process of who our partner was gonna be or maybe it was during the relationship
if we don't learn from that history then we're doomed to repeat it
so so that's awesome that tenet acknowledges that and now she could take
that and use that information when moving forward into our next
relationship so so again by Tana for some reason you're watching it my heart
goes out to your girl you're killing it you're doing great and anybody out there
who has gone through a recent breakup or you've been cheated on or anything of
the sort I just remember feel your feelings they're completely normal if
you need to go to therapy but if you if you're not going to therapy rely on your
support group rely on the people in your life who love you and care about you
unconditionally your friends your family members whoever it is rely on those
people they will be there to hold you and hold space for you while you're
overcoming the break-up that you just went through like that's what they're
there for we few mins and we need connection and
sometimes we need a little break from like romantic relationships but we
maintain our connections with the other people in our lives all right anyways
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