The reality is that a lot of men
desire support, love,
feminine energy, female companionship,
someone they can talk to.
They do want these other things
but they don't want it with every woman.
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So, the big question of today.
Do men only want sex?
Now, before I tell you my answer
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And I want you to take the poll below,
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Do you generally believe
that men just want sex?
All right.
So, now this is a topic that comes up a lot
and to be honest with you
a lot of women ask me this.
They really question
is this the only motivation for men?
Is this all they're concerned about?
Or why are men so fixated on sex?
Now, let me make it very clear.
Men do not only want sex.
Men do want sex, all right,
in a general sense, all right.
Most people do at some point
but is that all they want? No.
But let me go deeper into
what you're seeing and why it looks like
men only want sex.
First, let me start with this reality.
There are a lot of men
whether you realize it or not,
who embrace abstinence in their life.
Some of you may be gasping right now
saying no, no, that can't be real.
No, it's very real.
There are a lot of men
who embrace abstinence
or even understand
the power of abstinence.
However, men are not allowed to
feel comfortable announcing
or speaking on that
because unfortunately,
a lot of women don't believe them
or a lot of women question their sexuality.
They get some kind of backlash
or even other guys
looking down, at them
clowning them, you know I’m saying?
Not respecting their position,
not respecting their path
and so they keep quiet about it.
So, you don't hear men
speaking on it much
out loud to the general public
but a lot more than you realize
are abstinent or
are willing to embrace abstinence
or willing to embrace waiting on sex.
However, it's with the right woman
for some of those guys.
Some guys in general are going to do it
and some guys
it's going to take the right woman
for them to be willing to embrace that.
But again, that's not something
they are announcing.
Also, the other
issue to consider when we talk about
do men only want sex
or why does it seem like
men only want sex?
Is that here's what
happens in a lot of situations.
There are some scenarios where
a man meets a woman,
really thinks there's
some kind of potential here,
really things okay we can
become something serious.
And their focus with her
is not sex initially.
Again, doesn't mean they wouldn't want to have it,
doesn't mean they wouldn't enjoy getting it,
but they're not focused on that.
However, somewhere in the interaction
or trying to get to know her
that man may determine
she's not what I thought
and I no longer see a future with her,
I no longer desire anything more serious.
Now, the unfortunate reality
at that point
for a lot of men, not all men
is that even if he determines
he no longer wants you
as something serious,
he will still want the consolation prize
of getting sex from you, all right.
And so now, his focus becomes sex.
And so now, to the woman
in that scenario
you may assume or think
this is all he ever wanted.
This is all he was ever coming after me for.
But in reality no,
he actually wanted more at one point
but he pivoted
and now he only wants the sex.
Now, I am not saying that
to validate it or
make it okay or whatever.
I’m explaining to you
what's actually happening
and why or how this contributes
to the perception that
men only want sex
when that is not the case.
The reality is that
a lot of men desire support,
love, feminine energy,
female companionship,
someone they can talk to.
They do want these other things
but they don't want it with
every woman, all right.
And so, if a man now meets
ten women tomorrow,
as I say in other videos
you can meet 100 people tomorrow,
99 of them ain't for you.
And so, with that 99
some men will still try to entertain
enjoying her in other ways,
in sexual ways, even though
he no longer sees a future with her.
And so, it just adds to the perception
that's all the man want,
but no he desires more.
And I would also argue that
as the man gets older
or as he's dealt with
more and more women,
his focus of sex diminishes, all right.
He will still have a desire for it in general
but his focus on it,
him being all about that
and chasing after it, no.
He wants stability,
he wants that one person he can turn to.
So, I say all this to say
don't get discouraged
or don't be disillusioned by
the men that you've experienced
who seem to be fixated on sex.
They don't represent
the reality of what's going on out there
and they don't represent
what the man who's truly for you
is going to be focused on.
Now, do not confuse that
with me saying
he's not going to still care about sex.
That sex won't still be important to him
in the overall relationship.
However, his willingness to
look past that at least, initially
his willingness to focus on other things,
his willingness to focus on
the substance of the relationship
is going to be there.
And for a lot of men
they're not complaining about
can't find a woman to sleep with.
A lot of men are complaining about
can't find a woman to build with,
can't find a woman they can truly trust,
can't find a woman they can really embrace
and truly love,
because that's what they really desire
but that is what is harder to find.
And so, they default to
just going after the sex
and to sometimes numb the pain,
sometimes distract them,
sometimes make themselves
feel better about themselves
but it doesn't really
speak to what they truly desire.
So, ultimately,
do men only want sex?
No, a lot of men... All men...
There's more to it than that,
but I understand why it looks like that.
But don't get caught up in that lie
it's not what you think it is.
Every... Mostly everyone
wants a real relationship,
wants love, wants someone
they can share life with.
And so, I just want to shed
some light on that topic.
Again, be sure to subscribe to the channel,
like the video,
and again, leave your comment below.
Do you think men only want sex?
I'll see you in the next video.
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