Hi, friends, it's me Niharika and you're watching me on Skillopedia, the place to learn skills
for the real world. Have you ever wondered that there are so many people around us who
really want to change our appearance? Well, they constantly criticize our body or our
body weight or about the food choices that we make. well, your friends or your family
members end up passing negative comments such as, well with those huge thighs, I wonder
if you're ever gonna get a date for yourself? Wow, that's hurtful. Or do they end up saying,
that, hey you need to start watching some videos on how to lose weight? Ouch! That’s
hurtful as well. Probably you are in a restaurant with your friends and you're ordering your
favorite food, maybe a pizza or probably a delicious cheesecake and here goes your friend,
by saying, huh, are you gonna eat all of that? Well, that's gonna be too much of fat around
your waistline. Now, these comments can be really hurtful. So how do you deal with such
people, who pass negative comments? Well, such people are called as body shamers and
body shaming can be really annoying. So how to deal with such body shamers, how to rise
above such negative comments that people end up passing? About your body, about your body
weight or about your food choices. Well in this session, I'm gonna help you out with
some tips. So watch me on Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world.
Well, the first tip that I have for you is, don't take things personally. Well I know
it's really easy to say but I truly believe that one should not take things personally.
When people end up making negative comments about you, well are their words really gonna
come and stick on your body? Well, are they gonna be like tattooed all over your body?
Well, definitely not. So why do you take it personally? Well, it's time to ignore, need
not be angry or don't get really emotional or upset about such comments. Well, people
who are extremely happy in their lives, they would never do something to bring others down.
They would always motivate you or lift you up. They do not have the negative feelings
like jealousy or they're gonna miss out on something well they are happy people. So they
are always gonna be nice to others as well. Negative people, the people who are not happy
about themselves. Well, they are not really leading a happy life, they are the ones who
are gonna give or pass negative comments. So why take them seriously? Well, it's time
to ignore such people because the people who talk about you, well it just shows more about
them. So stop taking things personally.
Well, the second tip that I have for you is, express how you feel. Well, in all honesty,
there's no point of upsetting yourself, especially when you do not voice out your feelings. Well,
there are people around us like our good friends, our family members who probably comment on
your body, about your weight or about your food habits. But in their mind, they think
that they are doing this in order to help you out. Probably, you will start working
on it. But hey guess what, that's not really helping you out, that's making you angry.
It’s definitely affecting you emotionally. So you can't really ignore it. Well if they
are your good friends and if they are your family members, well it's time to talk but
it. Well, we always teach people on how to treat us, right? So it's time for you to go
ahead and talk to them and make them realize that their comments are not really helping
you out. Well instead, it's upsetting you. For example, your family, the member comes
and tells you that, hey I think you should really cut down on junk food. Too much of
cheese, uh, that's so much fat. Well look you are gaining a lot of weight and you don't
look good. Well, that's painful, right? So just go ahead and tell that person that, hey
I don't really like you commenting on my body or about the kind of food that I eat. I would
really appreciate if you stopped doing that. Okay. so just be direct, a voice out your
feelings and that should really work. So make sure that you express on how you feel.
So what's the third thing that you can do? Well, start appreciating the things that you
like about your body. Well, yes many of us are going through a lot of body image struggles
but there are so many things that are really nice about your body too. We spend a lot of
time watching commercials which show that how to get whiter teeth or how to get longer
hair, beautiful luscious hair or how to have clear skin? But hey guess what? Probably these
are the things that you already have. Amazing set of white teeth, beautiful, gorgeous, luscious
hair or probably an amazing skin. Well, aren't these things to be appreciated? Well, of course,
there are so many who people who die to have such things. So why constantly keep complain
or cribbing about our body weight. Well stop doing that and start appreciating the things
that you really, really like about yourself and voice it too. Like it's important for
you to tell it to yourself and as well as to your friends. Because in this way, it just
motivates you and helps you to come out as a confident and a stronger person. So start
liking the things that you really have.
So here is my last advice for all you out there. Well, you need to break through your
body jail and come and start live a beautiful life. Well, the reason because, you live only
once and it's time for you to celebrate your life. Well, there are times when negative
comments really make you feel bad about yourself. Well, you don't feel confident to face the
world. There are times when you feel that you're not lovable or good enough for others.
So stop hiding. Stop fearing such things. Well, it's time for you to come out and live
the life that you totally deserve. Such negative comments should not really affect you and
especially if you follow the tips that I have shared with you today. Well trust me; it will
help you to build inner confidence. So just love yourself, live happily, eat healthy food
and exercise well and that should be all good. So start living your life.
So friends body shaming is something that we all face. Well, it's not just about your
or me. Well, there are so many celebrities who have also fought back body shaming and
I would love to share these few examples with you. Well, here we have Demi Lovato who has
also fought back body shaming. We have Selena Gomez, well an Instagram user had made an
offensive comment about her body weight. Now, this did not upset her. Well instead what
she did was she posted her picture in a bathing suit and this is what she commented, “well
I love being happy with me." an upbeat response to an obnoxious bullying, am I right? and
then we also have some more celebrities like Sonakshi Sinha. well, she's absolutely a stunning
beauty but she has also fought back body shaming and look at her now like she looks just amazing
and all these negative comments have not really affected her. so, people, it's time for you
to celebrate your body and let not these negative comments affect you. it's time to rise above
such negative comments.
so this brings me to the end of this session today and hopes this was really enjoyed by
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