zlata hello hi good to see you again good to see you good to be
with you thank you so much for incredible teaching
my question my question is about
the Natural State and the nature of need and desires and I had an experience in meditation
uh where I would close my eyes and I would go in a deep sense of presence and
and it's in your guidance meditation or when I'm listening to the recordings reading sometimes
by myself I can get into the depths of that and it's very peaceful and joyful and I feel a deep
connection and at times I would feel one with the world with the trees picture with people
when I had that experience today and yesterday when I guided meditation but once I start to
walk through life and doing life things and my attention shifts a little bit on
on the external world to do things I need to do I notice a very deep I became aware of a very
deep yearning or need it's very subtle and deep and desire for connection for deep connection
with the people that I may not have or experience
with life but I used to have experience in the past but not part of the present
and I noticed that this feeling it's like a call or this need for connection that's um
accompany me almost through my whole life and I don't have it here in some periods of life and
I wanted to see if that is part of the Natural State because I was not able to find that state
of peace and at the same time I cannot suppress that call yeah because that is the the reason we
we feel that this deep need for connection that you describe is because of a
the the knowledge that lies deep within each of us that that we are one
in other words Oneness or connection is the natural state
if we separate ourselves from the other if we feel separate from the other we are
violating the Natural State and that and as a result we suffer
and that is why that the separate self or the the Apparently separate self longs to to connect
it's why the separate sub loves friendship who loves intimacy seeks intimacy because
of this deep memory in the separate self that at the deepest level it is already connected
to everyone and everything but that connection is not being felt and this this absence of
connection sets up a feeling of nostalgia in the separates of a feeling of longing
I want to find a partner I want a friend I want to be connected this comes from the the foretaste
of uh original Unity which has been veiled by the sense of separation and therefore
it's the one thing the separate self wants what it is really seeking is to
be divested of its sense of separation and returned to its natural condition
so just see that this this connection you don't have to make the connection happen it
it is already the case what Oneness our shared being is already the case it doesn't need to be
generated or created just see if there's anything you do in your attitudes towards other people
that prevents this shared being being fully felt
it's incredible
is already there and I don't have to do anything exactly yeah that the experience
of loss may be not really expressed as a form or direct memory is overpowering of loss of the
connection overpowering and that's comes from the loss of connection or it's not really a loss it's
the veiling of this a natural state of unity is what you experience as the longing for connection
so just be aware if there's anything you do
for instance if you hold um internal judgments about someone else or criticism or that that's
an act of separation and that will prevent you from feeling your shared being with that person
so just see if there's anything that you're doing any of your thoughts or feelings that are arising
from a sense of separation I notice it's a sense of Sorrow that life took us in a
different directions and the connection naturally faded through the time if your
friends are going in a different direction that the outer connection May fade there may not be
you may not have much in common with them anymore because your lives have gone off in
different directions but there's no reason for the inner connection to fade you you still share
your being with them even if they've gone off in a different direction so you may not be able to
celebrate your shared being with them because you no longer go out to dinner with them in the
evenings or whatever it is you used to do so you may no longer be able to express your shared being
in the way you used to but you can still feel it and you can find other ways of expressing it
the words that come to me is like then they stay in connected so surrender in your heart the
connection is always there truth exactly exactly and sometimes some friendships they exist mostly
below the threshold of the Mind we don't I'm sure you have friends like
this I'm sure all of us can relate to this friends that we don't have much day to day
connection with I have friends that sometimes I don't correspond with for a year or two but
when we do sometimes even longer but when we do it's like we last saw each other yesterday
that that the love which is of course the sense of our shared being is not diminished over time
and and through absence of connection uh on the surface it's it's always there just as strong
those are very beautiful friendships I'm sure you know what I'm referring to nice to see you again