- What's your favorite color?
- Either like a burnt orange or like a emerald green.
It's very- - Cheater.
- [Interviewer] Cheater?
- Period. Burnt orange?
(playful music)
- [Interviewer] Have you been a cheater yourself?
- Maybe emotionally?
I've been an emotional cheater.
- No! Never.
- I have. When I was younger, I was a player.
I guess you could call me that.
- [Interviewer] You ever get caught?
- I don't think so. They know now! (chuckles)
If you dated me in my teen years, I apologize.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever been cheated on?
- Yeah. I walked in on my best friend fucking my boyfriend.
- [Interviewer] What'd you do? What was your reaction?
- Joined in.
Psyche, I'm kidding. Could you imagine? (laughs)
- [Interviewer] How are you gonna spot the cheaters
in this group?
- I'm gonna try to get their vibe on like
what they think about rules, see if they're suave,
see what they think
about polyamorous relationships. (laughing)
- [Interviewer] Okay. Are you ready to meet the line?
- I'm ready to meet the line.
- [Interviewer] Okay, let's bring 'em on in.
- What's poppin'?
Hey y'all. Good morning. Afternoon.
What's up? I like your hair, it looks cute.
- Thanks, I appreciate it.
- All right, let's see who these hoes are.
(panelist scoffs)
Where the hoes at?
Come on through.
- I'm number one.
- You are number one.
(panelist giggles)
Seems very nice and humble.
Okay. Smells nice.
A little too nice though.
- Are you poly or anything like that?
- I am poly, yeah.
- Currently? - [Panelist] Yes, currently-
- But have you been for the duration?
- No.
Previously I would consider myself a serial monogamist.
- In a relationship are you good at communication?
- I would say I'm a strong communicator.
I probably overly communicate.
- So I would suggest that when you get into a relationship
you communicate on what you want,
so I don't think that you would cheat.
- The fact that you went from serial monogamy
to now poly is something.
My guess is that you've cheated.
- What's your favorite color?
- Either like a burnt orange or like a emerald green.
It's very- - Cheater.
- [Interviewer] Cheater?
- Period. Burnt orange?
- It's fire!
- [Sebastian] That's a very specific color.
- That's a fire color.
- And that's how you're gonna get the panties dropped off.
- All right. That was easy. - Yes, thank you.
- All right. Can you do me a 360 spin?
Yes. Yes.
I could see that you're a magnetic personality probably
with the platinum hair and the neon earrings.
The pecs, you obviously work out.
I think you care about the way that you look.
- You look like you have fun.
(group laughing)
- Do you think that makes me more likely to cheat?
- I think that makes you more open
(chuckling) for adventures.
So, yeah, just a little bit. Maybe.
- When did you lose your virginity?
- Oh man.
I feel like I was like 17 when I had my first kiss.
Then was also 17 when I lost my virginity.
So it's a great year.
- Hmm. I'm gonna say this one doesn't cheat
- And I think you're a cheater or have cheated at one point.
- [Interviewer] Thank you. - Cool, yeah. (laughing)
- [Interviewer] You can step back in line.
- All right, pink hair. Let's see.
All right. You look fun.
- Thanks.
- Do you get a lot of attention?
- No.
- [Questioner] No? - Not at all.
- And you ain't lying. - I ain't lying.
- Nobody flirts with you? - No.
- You go by a construction site and-
- If only. If only. (sighing) - Okay.
- Have you ever been with a girl before?
- Not in a relationship.
- But all three together? - Yeah. I tried-
- That's my bitch. - Yeah.
- Fucks with it!
I'm gonna say you're not a cheater.
You're giving me like I'm open to anything.
So like why would you cheat if it's open,
you know what I mean?
- I think you've cheated.
The loo, I know you might think
that you might be standoffish or not open
but that's not my perception.
I feel like there might have been one that slipped in there.
No pun intended.
(Meghan laughing)
- [Interviewer] Thank you Meghan.
- What's the longest relationship you've ever been in?
- Five years.
- Five years? Are you in a relationship right now?
- No, sir.
- Is there bad blood from that relationship?
- Oh there used to be. Ooh! - Ooh!
- There used to be. But now, you know, I'm good. I'm Gucci.
- What's your sexual preference?
- I love women.
- All size, body types, races?
- Yeah, all types of races. I'm not picky.
- Okay. What's your current like relationship status now?
- Oh, I'm single.
- But before that have you ever been
in a polyamorous situation?
- I can't do polyamorous.
If I'm with someone, I just couldn't see
or visualize someone else drilling my chick.
You know what I'm saying? (panelists laughing)
- You don't, but that's like in your mind.
You don't gotta think about the hole.
- What do you mean?
- That's your partner,
you're just looking at them like a hole?
- I'm just saying for me, personally,
I can't have another man drilling my chick. No!
- Shaughnessy is, it seems, very principled.
Like very strongly about monogamy.
So my guess is he has not cheated.
- I think you're a cheater.
- I'm gonna have to say cheater on this one. All respect.
(Sebastian's lips smack)
- Hi.
- Hi. How are you?
- Good. A little nervous.
- [Questioner 2] Why are you nervous?
- I guess, who will see this video.
- Ooh, she's nervous 'cause someone's gonna see this video
and it's a cheater video.
This just gives like so much away. So is it an ex?
- Yes. And their friends.
- And their friends.
Oh man, there's so much going through my head right now.
- What's your type?
- Really, really, really tall men. And kind of toxic men.
- So you're definitely not a cheater then.
You're getting cheated on.
- Have you ever been cheated on?
- Yes.
- What do you feel about cheating?
Like is that a deal breaker?
- I didn't know that they cheated until after we broke up.
So had I known, I probably would've ended it.
- Okay. I'll say has not cheated.
- I think that you cheated 'cause you're nervous
about the content of the video and who might see it.
And they are mad and you understand.
- Okay.
- Hello, my love. - Hello.
- You're giving me nasty, already.
Vibrant hair. So it screams charismatic energy.
What's your sexual preference?
- (clicks tongue) Uh, I'm pansexual.
I prefer tall women and short kings.
- (blows a raspberry) Sorry. (panelists laughing)
- What do you think about polyamorous relationships?
- I do prefer polyamorous relationships.
- Is that how you started
or is that something you fell into?
- No, I dated someone from the time I was 17
to when I was 23.
- Were you ever cheated on in that monogamous relationship?
- Yeah, I was.
- Going from monogamous to being poly,
you look back and you're not going,
"man I was dumb for doing" or what,
you know, whatever happened, as a young person?
And you're like, no, I'm gonna actually integrate
what I like into my relationship.
I think that they have cheated.
- I don't think you're a cheater.
- I'm gonna say not cheater.
Because they're poly and it seems like they're very open.
So therefore it's a free for all.
Everyone's just doing everything.
Sounds really exciting. Liberating, if anything.
I might have to hang out with her later.
(clicks tongue)
- I'm not doing anything after this, so.
- [Interviewer] How do you think you did?
- I think I killed it.
- [Interviewer] Show of hands.
Who did Sebastian guess correctly?
(Sebastian humming)
- Okay. Bet.
- [Interviewer] You got four!
- Ah, two. (claps)
Okay. I knew it. I knew- (cackling)
- Hello, my love. Did I get you right?
- You did guess me right. I have cheated before.
- See, finesse. Burnt orange?
What's your pre- - It's a fire color.
- Burnt orange. It is! I agree.
- As far as the cheating goes,
is that something you admitted to or were you caught
or how did that, how did it all come out?
- I admitted to it. I have a terribly guilty conscience.
- I mean you'd had some growth, at least admitting to it.
- Yeah.
In the monogamous culture that we live in,
we haven't been taught to voice our needs.
We've just been taught to be there
and exist in our partners lives.
- Exactly.
- I think non-monogamy has taught me
how to be more vocal about the things that I need.
- Next.
- You got me right.
- I got you right.
- Yep. Not a cheater.
- Knew it. Lover not a fighter.
- So I got you correct?
- Wrong. - Wrong. Okay.
- Yeah. You guessed cheater.
But I have never. - Never?
- I would never.
When I'm entering a relationship
I do just like fundamentally know myself well enough
to know that like eventually
I'm gonna wanna fuck someone else.
- [Questioner] Okay.
- So you communicated so you didn't have to cheat?
- Yeah. Yeah.
- And upfront about what you wanted to do?
- Yeah. Yeah.
- Which is amazing. That's the best thing to do.
Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you too.
- Did I get you right?
- You got me wrong.
You said I wasn't a cheater. - So you were.
And you are. - And I,
one time, one-off thing.
- How did that happen? Why?
- Young and dumb and-
- Full of cum.
- couldn't... (laughing)
Maybe.
- Have you ever been cheated on?
- I have. My ex-husband cheated on me
with two of his best friends' wives.
- Wives? (panelists gasping)
Damn!
How are you hanging in there? You feeling all right?
- I'm a lot better now.
- Did it take take some time?
- I still trust nobody.
- Oh, nobody.
Oh you're fine, huh?
- Give me a hug, sis. That's crazy.
But you shouldn't have cheated on the first one, bitch.
(laughing) I'm kidding.
- I mean, it's fair. It's fair.
- Oh, Shaughnessy.
(panelists laughing) - Yes.
- Good ol' slippery Shaughnessy.
- Yes. You actually were incorrect.
- I was incorrect, but I was going down the one way
and then I just went the other way
because you seemed so principled.
Did you admit to it?
- I did.
- Would you go back and do the same thing?
- No. I wouldn't go back and cheat.
I feel like cheating is wrong.
Don't cheat.
Yeah, I would definitely go back and be like,
"yo I admit that I cheated" because it's something
that she should know.
- Yeah, but you could also just bounce.
- You are a savage. (panelists laughing)
You are cold-hearted.
- I know people wanna know sometimes and all that,
but in the grand scheme of things
I don't think it's necessary to admit to a hurt person
that they were cheated on also. (laughing)
- That makes sense. That makes sense.
- Hello.
- Hi!
- So did I get you right babe?
- Yeah.
- Yay.
- I'm not a cheater but my ex thinks that I did.
- Did you do something that they felt
like was cheating or something?
- They thought that we were on a break.
I thought we were broken up.
I kind of told one of our mutual friends
I think I might be catching feelings
for someone else, I don't know.
The mutual friend told my ex and my ex was like,
oh so you were un-loyal during the relationship.
- See that gets tricky
because I feel like it's not really cheating,
but it is kind of emotional cheating
because if you're not fully there mentally,
then you basically are cheating 'cause you're fuckin' him
while you're thinking about someone else.
- And I understand that.
- [Interviewer] But they were broken up!
- What's broken up mean to you?
- [Interviewer] Oh, boy.
- Yeah, whatever man.
- That's what I said. But I understand why they,
where they're coming from.
If it was the other way around,
I might have seen it the same way.
- But in your mind you did not.
- No.
- And that's fair.
- That was validating. Thank you.
- So you did cheat?
- Yeah.
- You did cheat. (clicks tongue)
- Yeah.
- See those kind eyes fooled me. See.
- When I was younger I was like a serial cheater.
I've cheated on pretty much everybody I've been with.
- Oh I got it wrong. Way wrong.
- Like, I'm still learning. Like I don't get it.
If you're poly, that means you can be
with pretty much whatever you want, gender, whatever.
Can you cheat in a polyamorous relationship?
- Yes. We can.
- What are the rules behind that?
- I mean every relationship is different.
Kind of depends on everyone's boundaries.
- Like what the rules are.
So your boundaries now are just what?
- Well, communicate before anything happens
so that we know what's going on beforehand.
- Well thanks for sharing 'cause that's something
that I really am like curious about.
'Cause I'm just like, wait, this is like,
there's new shit happening every day.
Serial cheater into polyamorous relationship.
Think about it. (dramatic music)
- [Interviewer] How was that?
- That was fun. I feel like I learned so much.
You should tell your partner
that you don't wanna be with them
and don't tell 'em that you cheated on them
because people's feelings are valid
and we really just want a happier America.
(panelists chuckle)
- [Interviewer] Okay, good job.
(panelists clapping)