Reverse racism has been thrown out. I can you
describe that or describe
what they think that is
that I I've never had anyone
accurately describe what what
that is. What is that? I'll
tell you exactly what it is.
Reverse racism is white people
getting their feelings hurt.
Because when you're used to being
privileged and things become equitable,
it feels like you've lost something.
That's all that is.
White people all up in their feelings
because they're no longer privileged.
Now they have to share that privilege
with everybody else and it feels like.
They're being
harmed. You need to have
power in order to be racist.
And brown, black, indigenous,
Asian, Latino people do not
have power over white people.
It is not possible.
It's intellectually dishonest,
which is a euphemism for a lie.
So race reverse racism is a lie.
It's a white lie.
What? What's a what's a?
Karen, from your perspective,
all white women are Carens.
So what does that mean?
All white women have white power
and white privilege and the way you.
Choose to wield your white power is the
kind of caring you are O what we see
all the time is the the Karen video.
So are you are you?
Most, most white women, I think,
are not the parents who are calling the cops
on black men bird watching in Central Park,
or black people sitting, you know,
in Starbucks having a coffee.
Most Karens are in the boardroom, silent.
Most Karens are in schools,
silent as their other white women are calling
out critical race theory, banning books.
They're just sitting silently, you know.
So Karen and White power being weaponized
shows up typically in whispers and hushes.
So it's not so dramatic.
But that's why white women love
sharing these viral care and videos.
It's to distance themselves.
Look at that. Not me.
Not me.
It is.
Here's my challenge to every white
woman watching this the next time
you see a Karen video go viral,
why don't you take a second and
see how you're more like her rather
than how you're less like her?
That's my challenge to white women.
And my challenge to white women is speak up.
Use your voice. You know.
Do not ever let your feelings
be more important than someone
else's pain and sub suffering.
They're not synonymous.
Your feelings are not synonymous with
other people's pain and suffering.
Your feelings are message
to you from the universe to
look inside beautifully, son.
I would imagine. I know it.
It's been written about Cyrus
specifically the threats that
you've received and I would imagine
they're you know, similar to you.
Regina talk about having to navigate
those spaces has or you know been
fear for your family yet you still
persist and do this necessary
work. Yes of course there's lots of fear.
But remaining silent won't save my family.
This is it's a historical to think that
being silent is going to save you so random.
Black people, indigenous people,
Latino people, Asian people are
getting beaten and murdered every day.
So whether or not you stay silent
doesn't save you. So I challenge
everybody to start speaking up.
Regina talks about this all the time.
Silent, silent silence.
Start speaking up.
Nobody is safe. Nobody is safe.
Nobody is free until we're
all safe and all free.
And right now we are very far from it.
So speak up, use your voice.
And yes, I'm afraid for my family,
but I'm also I would be afraid for my
family if I wasn't doing this work.
What kind
of threats? Like what
things have have happened,
you know, drowning my kids in the Ganges,
using my family as target practice.
I mean, the amount of epithets
that we get is just, you know,
it would make your head.
You can, you can understand this.
You, I'm sure, have gotten threats for
just doing a moderating panel. I mean,
this is how fragile these white people are.
White fragility is also white supremacy.
That's another touchy,
feely word for white supremacy.
But it's it's just violent. Like what?
The violent things that they're
envisioning doing sometimes with images.
One time I got a picture,
a picture of a beheaded Ilhan Omar.
And, you know, you're next,
like that kind of thing.
Just regular DMS.
You know what everyone gets.
Yeah. Well, I'll tell you a story.
My adult children, we were up in the
mountains this weekend and my son says,
how come you didn't tell us
about this book signing?
And I had to fess up?
I said, actually, I did not want you guys.
To be targets.
Because of your relationship with me,
I did not want that to happen.
But that's heartbreaking.
This is a joyous moment for you,
all of a celebratory time.
You're here in Denver,
where it all started, and to think
that you can't have your family
there, that's that's terrible.
Well, they're going to remain anonymous,
but her family can't even be safe walking
around anyway, you know,
whether or not they have a relationship
with Regina, that's the whole point.
Black people are not safe in this country.
Brown people are not safe in this country.
You've said you do this work
because your lives depend on it.
Your children and your
grandchildren's lives depend on that.
Your life depends on it.
White women's lives,
their children's lives depend on it.
We have got to stop.
Making everything in this
country about money and profit,
we've got to stop it. White
women are more afraid of not getting
invited to a cocktail party than
they are about their own racism
and the future of their kids.
If that wasn't the case,
we would have shut down guns in this
country after Columbine, and instead
we have more guns now than people.
So as, as, as, you know,
as long as you're concerned about what?
People think of you and
being invited to parties,
then you are about oppression and violence.
It will continue.
And right now we're in a position
where Roe versus Wade is over
and white women are still like,
why didn't I get invited
to that holiday party?
That's what they're worried about.
Stop. Just stop.
Wake up.
What's wrong with you?
Talk
to me. Talk to black and brown women who?
I mean snap fingers to every syllable
that comes out of your mouths.
But. It's scary to do this,
to jump in that space.
What does this mean for me at work?
What does this mean for me at
my child's school? If I'm vocal?
How do we as women of color get into this?
Well, you know, I believe you just do it.
You do it and you do it,
especially if you're a mother.
And I came out of corporate America.
So I know, you know,
I know what it was like in corporate America.
But, you know, have a voice.
The reason you have a voice
is so that you can use it.
OK, use your voice.
And what I found so important
to me individually was having
very powerful mentors, you know?
People, and usually they
were men who protected you,
who made opportunities for you,
who you know helped you,
and that's important.
Look, just like women
can't dismantle misogyny,
men have to dismantle misogyny.
Men created misogyny.
Men benefit from misogyny,
misogyny until they don't.
They have to dismantle misogyny.
So too white people created white
supremacy and benefit from white
supremacy until they don't anymore.
And we're seeing that now.
White people have to dismantle
white supremacy, period.
Effectively, that's that's the deal.
I do not blame black, indigenous and
brown women for not doing this work.
I do not blame our own people for not
doing this work because it is scary.
It is dangerous.
It's 1000 times more dangerous for
us than it is for white people and.
I am calling on all white people
to step up and do this work.
The the weight of the world cannot
be on our shoulders all the time,
and we don't have the power
to overturn it anyway.
I'm tired of white people
wearing their BLM shirts,
wearing their end Asian hate shirts,
right?
And then when it comes time to
speaking up for a black woman
at work or an Asian woman at
work or a Latina woman at work.
Silent, silent, silent.
So keep your shirts at home.
Keep your lemonade stands at home.
And start showing up at work.
That's what we would like you to do.
Yeah. And, you know,
in all my years in corporate,
almost 30 years, I never had a woman mentor.
It was always men who would mentor me.
And there were and and white women
will say to us, it's our turn.
You guys can wait.
When I know that they got where they
got on the back of black people on
the backs of people who look like me.
That's how white women got ahead.
So, you know, stop saying wait
our turn and help us mentor US,
support us, open doors for us.
You know, it's funny.
Haha, not really, is it?
Every one of these dinners,
a white woman will give away that
she doesn't see us as women.
So at least one of them will
say something to the effect of,
well, you don't understand, like,
what it's like for us to be a woman.
And we're like, well, kind of,
do you have a pretty good idea?
And we're like,
we deal with sexism from our own. Then.
We deal with sexism from white men,
and we deal with your nonsense.
You're racist nonsense and
your white men's nonsense.
We have layers and layers of this nonsense.
But we had. We had a dinner.
Shame on us.
Three days after January 6 happened.
And it was with the crew,
white ladies in Denver,
like, really, you know,
CEO's and heads of nonprofits.
And we were talking about how the
19th amendment, you know this,
we're supposed to celebrate
the woman's right to vote.
We couldn't have voted back then.
No, it wasn't until the vote.
It wasn't until the Voting
Rights Act that you know.
Black and brown women could vote.
And she said, well, I mean, first it's our.
She literally said,
well first it's our turn and then it's
yours and and that's what's amazing.
And here's why I think people feel safe.
We never you can scour our social media.
We will never talk about a white
woman specifically from a dinner.
Nobody has ever been outed.
There is no shaming.
If you feel shame, that's on you.
That's your.
There's no I mean if you feel shame
from white history, that's on you.
Um, but even in the book, you know,
we've changed the names of the white women,
not just to protect them,
but also it's not personal.
They're all the same.
They're all karens.
So it doesn't matter if you're Karen or
Becky or Anna or Anne or Megan or Maggie,
it's all the same.
You're it's it's white womanhood.
That's what it is.
Stop taking everything so personally.
I can. I always talk about how I
can't remember in my adult life
ever having a black woman say to
me that I hurt their feelings.
That's all we ever hear
from white women is you
hurt my feelings go sit out.
Back when I was still a white woman,
I used to be a white woman
trapped in a brown body.
And I said to Regina, are you mad at me?
And she goes, she goes,
if I was going to talk about you,
I I don't need your back to talk about you.
I talk about you to your face.
But yeah, white women love to talk about
how they're trying to lose weight, right?
Someone said famously,
if white women focused on eradicating
racism like they did losing weight,
we would have been done with this.
Years ago, right.
Then they also like to talk about each other.
So if one person gets up to
go to the bathroom, I mean,
I feel bad for that woman who's got to go,
gotten to get gotten up to go the bathroom
because they're talking nonsense.
But, but that's it, right?
Like that's that's their relationship is,
is being caddy.
Because everyone is fighting
to be the most perfect.
And if you're fighting to be the most
perfect, you're in constant competition.
So what we always say is love each other,
love yourselves.
And love each other and then
you can worry about us,
but you can't even get to this until
you stop competing with each other.
And that's all white women do,
is compete, compete, compete.
Aren't you tired of competing?
Aren't you tired of trying to be perfect?
And that's white supremacy culture.
White women being super nice.
Being nice means being silent
in the face of oppression.
That's what being nice is.
Not talking about politics
at the dinner table.
Being perfect is, is you have to compete.
That is the whole definitionally.
What. And perfect is.
And enough of that.
Stop that,
stop that in your own lives and you can
worry about everyone else afterwards.
Put your your own oxygen mask on 1st.