- A lot of boys are trash and
I stand by that statement.
My name's Fat Tony, I'm a Nigerian American originally
from Houston, Texas, I'm an artist,
rapper, host, DJ, all sorts of shit.
- I'm Tasbeeh Herwees and if you have a romantic conundrum,
we have a rapper here to answer those questions for you.
- Talk to me.
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- What's the worst date you've ever been on?
- The worst date I ever been on?
I once went out with this girl
and we were just talking about like people
that I knew who are other artists and stuff,
and she figured out I was friends
with this one guy that she was a big fan of,
and she would not stop talking about him all night
for like the rest of the night.
She would only talk about this fool,
she pulled up this fool's Instagram.
I'm just like, man I'm here looking like a sucker.
(laughing)
- Do you find that apps like Instagram
or even Twitter work better
than formalized dating apps like Tinder or?
- I'd say as far as dating goes, I prefer Instagram,
because you can really see a person's style.
I can see your sense of humor from your social media.
It just shows a lot more about the person
than I think swiping through endless faces.
- Right.
Do you have any tips for people who have a habit
of dating musicians?
Asking for a friend.
- You know what, I think that music people like myself
tend to have a bad rep, and I don't think
that it's entirely true.
Some of it is based on a little truth,
just to keep it real with you.
- Some of us have experience that would dispute that fact.
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- Don't count them out, though.
Don't count us artists out, 'cause we ain't all bad,
and you know, even when we are bad,
we ain't bad all the time, you know?
You gotta take the good
with the bad sometime, man, we cool, man.
- Not all musicians.
- Oh man, not all of us.
Some of these people who are like,
these like entertainer types,
these people who are kinda full
of themselves a little bit,
at least they can offer you a little bit of fun.
You know what I mean?
They ain't gonna like give you
the same old, boring, you know.
- I have no money, I'm not funny,
I live in a studio apartment with two other guys.
(audience laughing)
- And now Tony is gonna answer some
anonymously submitted questions from the audience.
We have a question from someone
who calls herself Missenthrope,
and her problem is that she is not in a relationship.
"How do I learn to be more comfortable
being #foreveralone, especially around the holidays
when it's impossible to avoid offensive questions
like, why aren't you dating?
And why don't you have a boyfriend?
And are you a lesbian?"
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- Well I think all those questions
are rude as (dog barking),
you need to slap whoever said them to you,
because it's none of their business
about your relationship status,
your sexuality, or any of that,
that's completely up to you and you alone.
Now far as getting comfortable
with being forever alone, I feel like
that's kind of a dangerous thought process
and a dangerous space to be in emotionally.
I don't think you should view it as like this negative,
terrible thing, because being
in a relationship isn't everything,
and I doubt anybody that really cares
about your well-being is gonna ask you,
"Why don't you have a boyfriend?"
And "Are you a lesbian?"
- We have a question from someone named Romcomlover.
"Single and now resorting to dating apps
'cause the guys at bars are too young.
What's a good opening line to use on dating apps?"
- I'd be direct, just say hey, what up?
You know?
If there's something on their profile
that you're a fan of or can relate to,
maybe lead in with that, just don't come off
with any of that cheesy, rom-com shit
that you're a fan of.
(laughing)
- We have a question from someone named Scrawny and Slutty.
- Oh, hold up, hold up, yo, salute on that name.
You a wild boy.
- Scrawny and Slutty would like to know,
"Should I be friends with my ex?"
- I think it all depends on the circumstances
of how your relationship ended
and on the personality of your ex.
If you're ex is trash,
toxic, bad for your life, get rid of them.
My best advice is that you trust your gut.
Trust your instincts.
If you feel funny about a situation, listen to that.
If you feel good about a situation, listen to that,
and don't play yourself.
- Are you friends with a lot of your exes?
- I am not.
(laughing)
- "My partner never helps with dishes,
cleaning bathrooms, daily housing upkeep.
I've spoken with her about this issue
on several different occasions.
One time I was mean, several times I was nice about it.
She still doesn't help keep the space clean.
How do I get her to help out around the apartment
more without constantly nagging her?"
Oh, the thing is, if you're living together,
you're not helping out, you're living there.
- Mhmm.
- That means you should do that thing, right?
- I think that you need to have a serious talk
with your partner and let her know
that she has to contribute.
And I know you might feel like you're nagging them.
I feel like the goal of most relationships is
that you want them to grow.
You want to stay with this person
and keep going like different levels, you know?
You live in this home now,
maybe you wanna get a bigger home later.
Maybe you wanna start a family later, who knows,
with all those homes comes a shit-load of dishes
and a bunch of dust, and a bunch of dirt,
and you gotta clean it up, bottom line.
So nag 'em, nag her ass.
Tell her to step her (dog barking) up.
- What's the best romantic advice you've ever gotten?
And don't be stingy.
- The best romantic advice I've ever gotten is
to be honest with myself and the people that you deal with.
You know, be straight up about what you're looking for,
about what your situation is, if you're in a relationship,
if you're getting out of one,
if you're in an open relationship
or closed relationship, whatever your situation is,
be forthright about it, 'cause the other person needs
to know, and they should give you the same respect.
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