I think that's what I do I wait for something bad to happen which like what
kind of life is that I don't know if any of this is making any sense disgusting
SWOOP aka Spankie Valentine still struggling with her mental illness but she actually has some great
tips for overcoming depression and anxiety this is Chris from the rewired
soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new
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swoop amazing guy amazing amazing woman tell you the chance to meet her at this
summit a couple months ago when I was in LA look that's us right there
actually won an award at buffer fest you know talking about her anxiety and like
it was really powerful and amazing and I did a reaction video to it
but anyway she just did a follow-up to it talking about how she's still
struggling so what I want to do is kind of break that thing down and discuss
like different things that I still deal with and how I overcome down some great
points that swoop brought up and hopefully you can learn some things to
help overcome your depression and anxiety and the reality is my brain did
its thing got the better of me and literally the very next day after
winning that award I went into one of my dark moments and my brain was like well
yeah you won something you got acknowledged for something that's great
that's cool finally but like you'll probably never live up to it again or
you may never do anything that good again or maybe they made a mistake won
this award like when you when I watched it like there were so many people who
were touched by her film but there's something in our brain that tells us
that we're not good enough and this is something that I do I struggle with
right now is I try to find a balance between humility and confidence right
because there's this very very fine line between my confidence and cockiness and
I never want to get to this point where I'm like oh even some of the attention I
get just because my channel is growing like makes me uncomfortable because my
ego wants me to think that I am just I don't know the bee's knees if you will
but at the same time like talking about we can't just beat ourselves up so we
got to find this kind of balance where we're confident in what we're doing we
need to know that we do deserve these successes without becoming a joke about
it but would you just if you're comfortable leave a comment right now
and tell me something that you have been struggling with
actually commented on the video about this like something that I've been
struggling with is just everything's been going really well and let's just
talk about the YouTube channel specifically like my channel has pretty
much doubled in size in the last month month and a half and I'm just waiting
for it I'm just waiting for it to all stop and go away like something that
smooth talked about was you know I'm just always okay when's this gonna stop
when's this gonna slow down like sometimes I actually just want it to
stop just so I could be like okay good it's over with it's kind of like it's
kind of like jump scares in a scary movie I'm not a huge fan of scary movies
but just want them to just come out just get over with it's very easy at least
for me to hold on to the dark stuff the dark side of things because that's where
I've lived for so much of my life and that's where I feel I'm only worthy of
the bad things and so when the good things happen I don't allow myself I
just don't allow it for me it's like I mentally I'm like yeah but I'm not
deserving somehow just talk about right there I don't know if you can - my life
was always just pure chaos chaos you know mom and my dad was constantly
working and I never knew money to pay the bills and just so many things like
my life was constantly chaotic and I talked about this as some of my
relationship videos like I used to date women who would make my life chaotic
right and something that I found was six and a half years ago when I started
working on my mental health I got really uncomfortable I would actually start to
get anxiety when everything was fine like when everything was good I would
start to freak out like my brain would like it tries to find something to freak
out about and it can't and it's this really weird feeling and if you want to
help me not feel crazy let me know if you've ever experienced that as well but
anyways the one way that I overcame this was just like reminding myself over and
over and over all right you see a lot of people say it's okay to not be okay it's
also okay to be okay all right like remember that remind yourself that like
it's okay because sometimes like you know I cover a lot of youtubers and talk
about their crazy hectic lives or whatever it is and some of people stay
stay that way because they're comfortable in it they don't know how to
live another way so something I had to do to start fixing my mental health was
learning how to be comfortable with everything just being chill but I have
learned at this point that I have a level of just work-related PTSD from
what happened with my last channel in all of the years that I put into that
and the just terrible thing that happened there this is for a variety of
different reasons like remember you know 2008 with the economy when I was working
in the car dealership industry car dealerships were getting shut down left
and right people are getting laid off but even more so like I was a drug
addict alcoholic for near a decade I got fired so many times so many times so now
today that I'm like clean sober a good employee a hard worker I still have that
that part of my brain that thinks I'm always gonna be in trouble so whenever I
get like an email from my boss or a tax or my boss is calling me my brain goes a
million miles a minute like what did I do what I do like the worst thing ever
is like hey can we talk you know and like the worst thing is like beyond that
is like when they're like hey can we meet tomorrow and now I have like 24
hours to stress and freak out about this so something that I have to do is kind
of like what I've talked about with relationships I think I mentioned in the
same in my love video I can't bring that baggage from my past
work situations into the new one I can't do that or it's gonna drive me
absolutely nuts and sometimes what I have to do is sit
down and either write it down on paper just go through in my head and separate
the truth on the false like where my boss wants to see me Chris you've been
working really hard you've been you haven't screwed anything up so I have to
remind myself the truth of the situation because my brain likes to think of all
sorts of crazy stuff when I get anxious I've been learning so much more about
mental health lately and just how mine has just not been in a good place for a
very very long time and I was neglecting it for so long it's it's been rough it's
been really rough I'm also learning just how much I wear myself down with
self-hate and I wonder if you guys can relate to that as well so swoop has been
you know on this kind of journey of like self-discovery and learning more about
mental health and the importance of it for me I can relate to this when it
comes to mindfulness and the way I often explain this is mindfulness meditation
when I was about three years sober so on a scale of one to ten on a scale of one
to ten things are going really good but when I found mindfulness meditation and
actually started practicing it what I realized was my life wasn't out of date
actually at like six because it was still pretty hectic I had a lot of
difficulty managing my emotions but then once I started practicing it went up to
a nine okay so like this is something like some of us we think everything's
fine we think everything's okay one of the reasons I have this channel is to
explain that mental health is a lot more than just not having a mental disorder
right like we need to learn like no we don't have to be angry all that
no we don't have to be nervous all the time no we don't have to have our
emotions fly all over the place all the time but yeah some of this is normal but
there's always room for improving our mental health and I didn't even realize
that until just a few years ago and that's one of the reasons I started this
channel to teach you that there's always room to grow when it comes to your
mental health I'm learning now that when I have these like great moments and
things that happen to just really allow myself to live in that great moment and
not beat myself up so much or start anticipating when the Bad's gonna happen
again what I was explaining earlier when I
answered that question like I'm waiting for all this stuff to just stop I'm
waiting for my videos to quit getting views I'm waiting for subscribers to
quit going up I'm waiting for people to quit liking my videos whatever it is
right so what swoop is talking about is
mindfulness mindfulness is a practice of being in the present moment okay
I cannot constantly worry about what has not happened yet if things are good
right now I need to embrace it and that's what you need to do too if things
are going good right now maybe it's today or just in this moment if just in
this moment things are going good for you
like just bathing at-bats gonna be like okay things are good right now like just
enjoy it while it's there all right but we can't constantly keep future tripping
and saying when's this gonna fail when's it's gonna fail because this is
something that you know if you're somebody like me who used to
self-sabotage a lot what happens is is that we create this self-fulfilling
prophecy right we expect something terrible to happen and on a subconscious
level we're actually setting ourselves up to fail so what I want you to start
working on is being okay with things being good right now and just enjoying
it one minute let me say this while I know that so much of my life has been
just living in that darkness has been lost in darkness I'm just I'm ready for
a change and I want to finally step into that
light and to just take life for all that it has to offer that sounds pretty good
all of you it's time for a change it is time for a change right we talked about
the problem but focus on the solution how long have you been sitting in the
problem maybe as you're watching this right now you've been sitting in the
problem for hours or maybe days now it's time to get into the solution okay so
what I want you to do down in the comments below let me know how today you
are gonna get into the solution all right anyways I'm gonna link over to
swoops video she is amazing and next time I'm in LA hopefully her and I get
to collab she is such an awesome woman go subscribe to her channel she's doing
amazing things she's suck is such an awesome film creator I am so jealous
anyways go check out her channel that's all I got for you with this video if you
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