♪ (ragtime music) ♪
- What did you do?
- (man) I did everything.
- (woman) Like what?
- (man) I had sex with other girls. I did everything.
- Uh-uh, that's not a good thing.
- Oh, boy. So a guy just admitted to cheating.
♪ (solemn music) ♪
- Aw, "Broken." Yeah, broken heart.
- (man) Yeah, we spend a lot of time together.
- (woman) Like, every day.
- (man) I would say that you are my best friend.
- (woman) Yeah. - Wow.
- (woman) Me too. - Oh, it's so sad.
- I'm sorry, I'm not buying it. I'm really not buying any of it.
- She's crying.
- Oh, she is sad.
- (woman) I would go through his phone.
And I would see text messages or, like, pictures...
- Uh-oh.
- (woman) ...of girls, and then I would ask him about it.
- Man. Phones have changed relationships.
- (woman) And sometimes you would lie.
And you said, like, "Oh, I'll stop." But then you didn't.
- And you bought it!
- (woman) One time, I went to his room.
And he had someone else in his room.
And he told me to leave. - Damn.
- Okay, this guy's a schmuck.
- (woman) And I went back to my room.
And I just cried, like, the whole night.
- Oh, dear, dear, dear, dear, dear.
- (woman) And I just cried, like, the whole night.
- Well, she should've gotten up and left.
- Why would you even stay with him for one second?
- (woman) How many times did you cheat on me?
- One would be too many. One other woman would be too many!
- (man) I-- I-- I don't know. - Oh, that's so sad.
- (woman) If you had to say.
- (man) I-- I wasn't counting. - Bad. Bad, bad, bad.
- Good, she left. I'm really glad.
- (sighs softly) I'm just not believing this.
- Is it worth it? You lose your best friend?
- (man) It had more to do...
with me just not being able to commit. - (annoyed sigh)
What a typical line for cheaters.
- That is the oldest reason-- I won't use "excuse"-- in the book.
- (woman) I don't think you're a bad guy because you cheated.
I'm-- (sniffles)
I... forgave you. - Why are you even talking to this guy?
- (man) I apologize for hurting you. And...
I hope in the future, we can remain good friends.
- Yeah right. That never happens, remaining good friends.
- (man) ...and I get a chance to see you grow
into the woman that you're becoming.
- Don't give him that opportunity
to see what a wonderful woman you are. He blew it.
- Ooh, her eyes are angry. Her eyes are angry.
- That's sad.
- She still communicates with the guy. Unbelievable.
- Why would she continue talking to him?
- I don't know why they would put themselves through that.
It seems like a private matter.
- That's awful.
How can people not learn anything?
And still guys are saying the same thing they said
back when I was in my 20s.
- It's a hard thing when you're not mature
to pass up on temptation.
I've been there, done that with girls that cheated,
and I forgave them.
But in the long run, it just did not work out for me.
- (FBE) So after this was released online, it went viral,
in part for people feeling bad for the girl.
And they started calling her "HurtBae."
- They called her what? (chuckles)
- "HurtBae." Okay.
- (FBE) So we're gonna show you
some of the posts that people made in response to the video.
- Okay.
- Okay, because I was upset too just watching it.
- "How many girls you cheat on me with? I didn't keep count."
Oh, brother.
- I agree with that one.
I would've slapped him.
- She's choking him up in the air.
That's what I wanted to see when I saw the first video.
- I think that's a little overreaction.
- That's what you'd think would be the reaction.
- Yeah, see, that girl's just like me.
When he said, "I hope we can stay friends,"
she wanted to throw up. She had to walk away from the screen.
- You tell 'em, sista! (chuckling) Oh, man.
- Right. Yes. I agree.
If I could kick this table, that's what I would've done.
- That was my reaction too with that line
about the, "Hope we can be friends."
- (woman) How many times did you cheat on me?
- (man) I-- I-- I-- I don't know.
- (woman) If you had to say.
- (man) I-- I wasn't counting.
- ♪ So what you want? ♪
♪ There was Brenda, LaTisha ♪ - Oh god.
- ♪ Felicia (Okay) ♪
♪ Dawn, LeShaun ♪ - Heh. That's clever.
- (chuckling) Oh.
- ♪ Karen, Vicky (Damn) ♪
♪ Tonya, Diane, Lori, and Carla ♪
- That's selective memory, it's called.
"I wasn't counting until my friends asked me.
Then I give them the exact number."
- Here's what she should've done.
(chuckling)
- (laughs) God.
♪ (snazzy music) ♪
- There you go.
- (gasps) Oh boy. No, let's not do that.
- Oh my-- (chuckles) Ow, ow, ow, ow.
- (laughing) Oh my gosh!
Whoever her boyfriends are, they'd better be very careful.
- Well, that's painful to watch as a guy.
But... oh, he definitely deserved that.
- When you have a breakup,
it isn't really something that needs to go public.
It's kind of a private thing, isn't it? I think it is.
But I guess nothing's private anymore.
(movie reel clicks)
- (FBE) So what do you think about how each of the people
in that relationship handled that conversation?
- I thought she handled it better than he did.
- I think that Kourtney handled it beautifully.
She kept her dignity.
I hope he learned a lesson, 'cause he did lose his best friend.
And I hope that-- I'm sure he's thinking about that.
I hope he feels guilty. I hope he feels awful.
- Like a scumbag that he is.
Like a guy that has no respect for women.
- He was being honest.
- He obviously wasn't attached to her at all.
And she wanted him to be attached to her.
And you know, you have to move on.
- I think she was stellar.
I think he was a dog for what he did,
but he was good to be honest about it.
I got to give him some credit,
because at least he felt guilty enough to go ahead and be honest.
- They handled the conversation just fine.
I just felt like a voyeur.
This is not something that the whole world needs to be seeing.
- (FBE) So why do you think that this resonated
so much with people that it became so viral,
when it's kind of a more serious type of video?
- Because I think it happens a lot.
- Betrayal is-- it strikes the heart of everyone.
You know, we've all been-- we've all been there.
- If you've ever been in a relationship, which most of us have,
you can relate to this.
And even if you've never been cheated on,
you can see the damage.
- It's people not reacting the way you'd expect them to,
'cause you expect her to be upset.
And she just seems sad and not standing up for herself.
- It's no sweat off of our brow to watch that.
You see that, and it's kind of-- can be amusing.
- People really wanted to say the things that she didn't say.
She never told him what a creep he was.
She never said, "What's wrong with you?"
- (FBE) So in your life, have you ever been in a relationship
where someone has cheated or really hurt you?
- I haven't. I haven't. I've been very fortunate.
I never cheated on a woman.
- We broke up with each other, but not anything that dramatic.
- Are you kidding? At my age, of course.
I would never have dreamt of asking any of those questions.
It was like, "Oh, you got to be kidding. We're done."
- Yes. It was in college.
We'd been dating about a year and a half,
and she hooked up with the manager of the restaurant
she was a waitress at.
I just called her out on it, but I was in tears.
- Oh yeah.
One point, I lost everything that I had,
short of a few tiny material things.
And it was just simply because I got cheated on.
Your whole world shatters. Everything that you're doing shatters.
You don't feel like doing anything. You can't get anything right.
- (FBE) Finally, if the woman in this video is watching
or anyone who has experienced a relationship
where someone has cheated or really wronged you is watching,
what would be your advice to them moving forward
with the experiences that you've had in your life?
- You know what? Don't take it personally. You're fine.
Be strong, and be honest.
- Work on yourself. Make sure that you're not in the relationship
for someone else to make you happy.
- I advise the cold-turkey method.
Just, "It's done. It's over."
Don't try and be friends right away.
- The best revenge is a happy success.
Go forward, be happy, and just, pbbt, forget about that one.
- Hey, everybody.
Thanks for watching this episode of Elders React.
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- Let us know in the comments what you think about HurtBae.
- Thanks for watching. Bye.
- Hey, guys. Kyle here, a producer at FBE.
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