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- Hey everybody.
I am sitting down with Jason Nash,
YouTuber, fellow YouTuber.
- Hi! (laughing)
- Tell my audience what you do on your channel.
- Um, I do vlogs on my channel.
I do comedy, some comedy, some lifestyle stuff,
some drama stuff, and yeah.
- Yeah I really like I honestly, you are a comedian right,
like you've done standup and stuff.
- Mmm hmm, yep, I was a stand up for a long time.
- It definitely comes through in his content
and I really enjoy some stories that you tell
and do different voices.
I find that really funny,
especially when he talks about your children and stuff,
sometimes.
The voices you use for your son--
- Oh yeah. - I really enjoy.
- My son, he goes, oh, my son likes, he tells really long
stories in that voice.
- Yeah.
- Yeah, we, um, we went, we went out, to the um, the um
we were at the park and there was a, a, a bench so, um,
um, so my friend, my friend dared me to um, to.
- And you're like.
(laughter)
- Jump over the bench and um, and so um. I jumped over
the bench.
- And you're like oh, really, that awesome, awesome job
buddy.
(laughing)
No but I love it, that stuff just cracks me up because
it's like, it's relatable.
- Kids stuff cracks me up the most.
- Yeah.
- That's my favorite stuff, is anything with, with kids.
I remember one time, um, one of the funniest things,
I was driving with all of these kids in the back of my
car, like all of my sons friends and my daughters friends.
And one goes, my son goes, just out of nowhere he goes,
in my, when I go to sleep I dream about guitar.
(laughing)
And then the other kid goes, this other kid goes, he goes,
I dream about football. And then this girl in the back,
she wasn't my kid, she just goes, sometimes I think
about death.
(laughter)
- And you're like, maybe you want to see somebody.
(laughter)
- I think that's why kids say the darnest things, which I
know it ages me but that show was hilarious if you guys,
I mean Bill Cosby's kind of like, ruined now but it was
a really funny...
- Oh, kids say the darnest things, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
- 'Cause they do, they do but that's kind of what I want
to talk about today because I have a lot of viewers that
are definitely more of our age group than a like, you know,
a younger age group. Can you imagine, on youtube?
- I know, I know, there are some older people that
watch youtube.
- Yeah, like us.
- Yes because, yeah, there really are and I love that,
I love that, it's really fun.
- Me too, you can learn anything on youtube.
But I know you've been through a divorce, you talked
about it online already.
- Yeah and wrote a book.
- Yeah, and that's what I, I love about it because that's
what's great about his content too is, you can, I find it
really relatable and it's interesting to watch along as
you grow and change.
So going through a divorce and co-parenting, because you're
still very active in your child's life, how difficult was
that or how did you manage that?
- How did I manage like to stay in their life?
- Yeah, like, making a point to.
- I mean, I was like, when I got divorced I felt really
bad and then I just, I just made it like a total priority
to like, live like five minutes away from, to take them to
school every single day no matter how tired I was, to,
like on the weekends, like, pretty much block out the
entire weekend you know, and yeah, and then, and certainly
like, when we got divorced I would still be there at like,
seven o'clock at night at my ex wife's house, just like,
being there, just like, oh dinner and blah, blah, blah.
- And she was fine with that?
- Yeah, she was really great about it. I mean, you know,
I'm sure it was hard for her, she was very nice about it,
I'm sure she didn't want me there some days.
- Well yeah, that's what I was thinking because like,
a lot of my viewers even grew children un-divorced who are
now adults but like, yeah, it was really shitty 'cause
they would fight in front of us still and it was hard
and how did you guys manage your relationship, like.
- Well we never fought in front of them which was
probably, made it even more offal when we got divorced,
they were probably like whoa.
- Yeah, where did this come from?
- Right, right, but yeah. Wait, what was the question?
- Oh, I was just saying like.
- Um what, I'm sorry, what did you say? I don't understand.
(laughter)
- No like, you, if you did fight in front of them or how
did you manage your relationship, you know when you were
divorced, like being over there, she was just, it was all
about the kids.
- Oh, oh, yeah, I mean, like, you know, I would just go
over there and, you know what I would do, I would always
bring something, I would always make up an excuse to be
there, something.
- It's like, leave your hat so you have to come back.
(laughter)
You're like, leaving a shoe under the couch, you're like
see you later.
(laughter)
- I would always call and be like oh, I'm at Jones on third,
how hungry are you and everyone's always hungry.
- Everyone loves Jones.
- Yeah, yeah, and lots of unnecessary things that I would
bring over, um, you know, sometimes they're good gifts,
sometimes they're not, like, oh, your headband's in
my car, got to get it to you.
- Got to bring it, you might need it tomorrow. No but that's
awesome and I think with your children being like, their
age I think it's important that they still see you
frequently as well as their mom.
- I tried to see them every single day and then some,
you know, some days I don't but..........
I also went out and got them used iphones, so it's like,
they would always, I could always, they're always in touch
with me, whenever they wanted to call me I knew where they
were, um, what else, what else, what else. I mean yeah,
and just, 'cause I remember when my parents got divorced
it wasn't, it wasn't like the, it didn't affect me
that much.
- I don't think it always has to, I think it's like, how we,
how we manage it, you might have had like, enough friends
you could talk to about it or ways to cope I guess.
- Yeah, I remember, because my, my, my father was, he, he,
he was like, not the best Dad and I love him now, he's
awesome but I remember at the time being like, it's probably
best that, you know, you go do what you got to do 'cause
I'm fine and then when he was around he was like, in a much
better mood when I did see him, I would see him like,
I would probably see him like three days a week or something
or something like that.
- Oh so that's still quite a bit.
- And I had the same kind of relationship, they had the same
kind of set up too where it was like they were amicable
and, but I never understand that when people don't get
along after a divorce, it seems so silly. And the other
big thing that I think is really important is if you're
going through a divorce, like this is advice that I feel
comfortable giving is like, don't get a lawyer at all.
Like just work it out yourselves and honestly like,
even if the other person is like... you know what I mean,
the best thing, I swear to god, the best thing is just to
go, is just to give them whatever they want, that's what I
did, I was like, oh yeah, whatever you want its done, like,
whatever and then it just, I think it pays off more in
the long run, you can get more out of it.
- Well I think so too, well otherwise I feel like, it's
about the things versus like, the children or moving on
because I know, like I've had patients that I've seen have
been like, divorcing for like 10 years.
- Yeah, yeah.
- Fighting over stuff and like, their children are in the
middle and like, you know what I mean? You could've made it
easier, you could've been just like, you want the house,
take the house, I'll take this.
- Right, sure.
Yeah.
My, my ex, she has the house and I gave her that and then
I got some lawn chairs.
(laughing)
- Are they here, are they here?
Life is never about the things.
- I remember when I put them in my truck.
- Oh really?
- Yeah, my neighbor was helping me.
- Oh you're being serious.
- My neighbor was helping me with these lawn chairs and
he goes, so this is what you got in the divorce.
(laughing)
- So you would be be like, at least I have somewhere to sit.
(laughing)
- Anyway, so that's that.
- Yeah, but like, I think that a lot of people worry
about the things when it's really about the people.
And like, by not arguing over the things you got to keep
your relationship with your children.
- Yeah.
- And, somewhat of a amicable relationship with your wife.
- Yeah.
- Is it hard with, because you do still have somewhat of
a relationship with your wife, your ex-wife and now Trisha,
like did any of your girlfriends have an issue with that?
- Um, with me having kids and my relationship, yeah, I guess
so, I guess anybody that would come into my life, Trisha
included would be like, oh, you're so close with them, maybe
they would be threatened by that, yeah, I mean, I could
totally see that and like, you know, I've heard a lot of
opinions on this and then it's just the sort of thing where
it's just like, well, you know, that's just the way it does.
- Yeah, you either trust me or you don't.
- Yeah, yeah and it um, and it wouldn't, it's not going to
be that way for ever either, they're going to grow up,
you know what I mean. The thing about, um, that I always
forgot, that I never realized about being a parent, it
just goes by really fast.
- Well life goes by fast.
- Life goes by fast and also, they, even by the time they
are like 15 and stuff, you know my son's 12 now, like,
I mean, they're already like.
- Yeah, they're already self sufficient, yeah.
- He wanted to go to Encino yesterday and he was like,
can I take an uber to Encino and I was like, no, I guess,
no you can't, but I mean like, you could. But no, I
wouldn't let him do that but then like, but, but I,
you know, they're just, I just know they're not going
to be here much longer, you know what I mean, they're going
to be doing they're own thing, they already are.
- Yeah, 'cause once you're 18, or at least for me when I was
18 I moved out to go to college and essentially never came
back, and not that I don't go back and visit, I love my
family very much, but like, I'm an adult and you know,
you don't have the time you have right now.
- Right, right.
- Like, I miss that time right to 'cause like, it's the
small conversations I think that make the relationships
closer, like the random morning conversations where it's
like, so what'd you dream about?
- Those are the best. I'll tell, you, you're asking me
how my weekend was? The best moment of the weekend was,
my daughter got in this cardboard box and made up a whole
routine where.
- Girls love routines, I used to create all sorts
of routines.
- My son got complemented on some song that he did,
so everyone was talking about this song over the weekend
and it was good, it was really good, he did a good job,
well she got really jealous, so she.
- Oh, had to make her own.
- Yeah, yeah so she just developed this comedy routine
with this box where she was singing this song and, but like,
those are the best moments, when she's just falling around
and, but yeah, yeah, that's so funny, you never have fun
when you go to six flags.
- No, its always the, the nothing days.
- The nothing days, yeah, yeah, I mean six flags is fun too
but it's always so, I always find myself just like trying to
create moments too which is, never goes well, you know what
I mean?
- Yeah, I feel like those places like generate that kind of
feeling where you're like, this is supposed to be the
happiest day of our life or this is supposed to be the best
place to be. It's like when you're at home and you're just
like, let's just hang out and then you actually have
a good time.
- Right, right, yeah.
- So any other advice to people out there maybe going
through a divorce or for kids that are in the midst of it.
- Tinder's great.
(laughing)
Um no, tinder's not great, it's a joke. It just depends,
I don't know.
Hm
Oh, I would say probably like, um, like as bad as it is,
just let, time, time will really make everything go away,
like it makes, it just changes everyone, so now like,
my ex-wife was here the other day at my house and she was
like, this is great, I'm so happy for you and blah, blah,
and I could've never imagined, you know, her saying that
about my house, you know I remember when we were together
it was like.
- Yeah, fight, fight, fight.
- Yeah, and like, you need to do this and I need to do
this, blah, blah, blah.
And so, its um, yeah so just let time.
- Yeah, and I think the amicable thing, being a little bit
more reasonable versus fighting out everything when you are
divorcing, I think that is great advice.
- Yeah, being really reasonable.
- And getting lawyers makes everything worse, really.
- Yeah.
- Unless you have a bunch of shit to protect to protect
which I totally get but at the end it doesn't really
benefit.
- Right, yeah.
- Yeah, I get it, I get it, if you have a lot of stuff
I guess.
- I don't have a lot of stuff so what are going to take?
- I don't have a lot of stuff either.
- Yeah, just lawn chairs.
(laughing)
- Just those two lawn chairs, rusted lawn chairs.
- Exactly.
- No but thanks for sharing your story and thanks for
being so open mine in general .
- Well thanks for.. let me put that down.. no, thanks for
having me and, yeah, I love your channel and I love to
talking about stuff and if I can help people that's amazing.
- And everybody can I think, with experience so check out,
I'll link all of his socials and his channel in the
description down below and we also did a video over
there so you have to click and check that out and we'll see
you next time.
- Bye.
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