So if your ex is in a rebound relationship, it might feel hopeless. It might feel as if
there's no chance of getting back together, and as if you should just give up. However,
um, you know, we've helped people to get back together with their partners who
have been in rebound relationships for, you know, many, many, many years. Now,
what I want to do is let you know that first of all, there is a way that you can do this,
but you have to understand certain things that are in play. First, you have to understand how to
break the rebound spell. That's what we're gonna be talking about in this video. So please stay
tuned through to the end because we're gonna be covering a lot of things as well here in
this video. Plus, at the end of this video, I'm gonna show you how you can go ahead and actually
convince your ex to break up with their rebound. So please watch through all the way to the end.
Hey, there, it's clay with modernlove life. Now, uh, once again, you can't just go ahead and just
have one conversation with your partner, one phone call, one meetup or something like that and say,
Hey, that rebound is a bad person. You should just break up with them, right? , you
can't just do that. Unfortunately, I would make things so much more easier if you could,
but that's just unfortunately not how it works. You know, like 999 times out of a
thousand if it's not gonna work for you, what actually will work? This is going to all take
place within the understanding that you have done something to drop the romantic pressure and to get
on the same team. These are things we've talked about in the past. Longtime subscribers of this
channel already know that these are huge topics when it comes to saving a relationship, but, uh,
we'll go ahead and, and kind of assume that that's in place before we go ahead and proceed here.
So if you're able to create this space, if you're able to create this, um, context between you and
your partner where you're able to connect and at least interact and talk more often, then
you actually have the perfect setup for building that connection between the two of you and for
convincing them that you are the better choice between them and the rebound. And so in order to,
um, really make this work, you have to demonstrate to them a couple of things here. Number one,
you have to demonstrate to them that they're not walking back into the same relationship
that they walked out of in the first place. They wouldn't even consider feeling anything
romantically towards you or getting back together with you or anything like that if
they thought it was just going to be the same relationship with the same problems that was
going to end in the same breakup all over again. If you need to look back at your time together,
look back at what didn't work and say, okay, what is it I need to change here? Do I need to
reprioritize certain things in my life? Do I need to, um, take a certain area of my life in a more
positive direction, et cetera? I don't, again, I don't know. I don't know if you need to work
on your patience, your career, if you need to, you know, whatever I but you, you probably have
a better sense than I do. The second thing that you really want to do is demonstrate to them that
you can connect with one another on an emotional level in a strong sort of way. If you're to build
up this emotional connection through things that we call advanced relational skills, then uh, this
is going to really help demonstrate to them that the two of you are really having a lot in common
and the, the two of you should really consider what it might be possible between the two of you.
This actually causes a huge psychological thing to happen between,
um, you and them. Before we go ahead and get into that though, if you do like these videos
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give us. As you do this, something very important psychologically happens with your ex. Instead
of comparing you to the rebound, they now start to focus in on you and they start to say, look at
that. I thought I broke up with someone who had a temper. But what I'm seeing when we interact with
one another is someone who's calm and peaceful. I thought I broke up with someone who only
prioritized work, but what I'm seeing is someone who is rich in is living a rich and full life.
I thought I broke up with someone who was self-absorbed, but now I'm seeing someone who's
generous and kind and compassionate. And what happens is they start to focus in solely on the
differences between the version of you that they broke up with versus the version of you that they
see when the two of you are interacting with one another. And this pulls their attention away from
the rebound entirely. Now, this is all happening because of a psychological effect called the decoy
strategy or the Decoy Effect. And this was first really popularized by someone named Dan Arieli,
who wrote a book called Predictably Irrational, I think probably something like about 10 years
or so ago now, in which he basically did this similar experiment with a New York Times, uh,
digital versus print subscription options. He says he found, he discovered that human
beings have a hard time comparing two very different things to one another.
They have a hard time saying like, you know, Hey, is my rebound better than my ex my ex better than
my rebound is? I don't know, it's hard to say they're different people. If given that sort
of difficult situation. And a third option is introduced where there's two similar things,
they tend to take their focus off of the different thing and put it onto the two similar things,
which then causes them to say, okay, well I don't know if these two different people are.
I don't know which one is better or worse, this person who I broke up with versus this person I'm
seeing who's gotten all the problems taken care of. I'm actually more inclined to choose to be
with the person who's got the problems taken care of. Right? He then goes on to, um, elaborate in
the book about how this applies to dating and, uh, relationships and things like that as well too.
This is going to stand out. So it's really, really important that you walk the walk and that
you talk the talk. This isn't just about having a couple clever one-liners or something like that,
and then just going back into your old ways that got you in trouble in the first place because you
have to really leverage their opinion of you by demonstrating to that they're not walking
back into the same relationship and the two of you are connecting in a much better way. Again,
we've talked for so much on this channel about how the emotional connection is absolutely
critical in terms of, uh, being the main thing that you wanna focus on, you know, more so than
what are they doing with the rebound, more so than how close are they getting? More so than,
oh my goodness, how long has it been more so than what their attachment style is,
more so than what their personality style is, more so than what their love language is, et cetera.
If you can just stay focused in on the emotional connection, you've got this, and
this is one illustration of how this definitely plays out between you and your partner. Now,
what you may need to do as you start to go down this road is you may start to notice that,
um, they do like connecting with you, but they're starting to become increasingly more
uncomfortable. And the reason why this is, is because they obviously do enjoy connecting with
you, but there's this decision that they are feeling looming on the horizon. Even if you
have reduced the romantic pressure, there's this decision that they're feeling is sort of out there
that says, Hey, are we gonna get back together? Is there something going on?
Do I still have feelings for you? And the more that the two of you connect and the more they
start to choose you by you leveraging the decoy strategy, is this decision is going to start to
seem as if it's coming closer and closer. And this is gonna make them uncomfortable
because this is not necessarily going to be an easy choice for them to make. And so what you
might need to really know how to do next is to learn how to encourage them to choose to
end things with a rebound relationship, making a path for the two of you to get back together. And
if that's something that you want to learn how to do, check out this video right over here where we
go into exactly how to do that. This is absolutely critical. This is absolutely pivotal, and I don't
want you to o overlook this because this is one of the most important strategies that you can
know when it comes to clearing that path for the two of you to get back together and getting them
to end that rebound relationship. Watch this video next and I'll talk to you over there.