How to detach from the wrong person! In this video I'll give you excellent tips to help
you completely detach from the wrong person and people in your life! Welcome to The SCG Show! This
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Detachment refers to creating emotional distance and reducing the level of attachment or dependency
on a person... it involves consciously disengaging from their influence no matter who it is
Unfortunately I have vast experience when it comes to detachment
and in the last few years I've had to cut and sever ties with many different
people close and dear to me... from exes to friends and the hardest of them all family
Detachment involves setting boundaries and creating space for personal growth and self-care...
it means letting go of the need of validation and approval and control from another person... you must
accept that you can't change or fix these people and should only focus on yourself moving forward.
Let me show you some ways you can detach from the wrong person in your life!
That is obviously whoever you deem that to be that! Assess the impact the person has on your life
and determine if the relationship is healthy and beneficial... when I decided to detach from
a toxic family member years ago... I did exactly that and evaluated the relationship and as much
as blood is thicker than water, how we've grown up together, been through so much.... their behavior was
unacceptable and they'd crossed a line! I came to the harsh and only conclusion that they were
behaving wrong and family is just the title... it was during the lockdowns that I assessed their
behavior and it was also around exactly the same time that I was dealing with a personal tragedy
I was at my Wit's End and I couldn't take it any longer there, and then I completely emotionally
detached from that individual and I was right to do so. Years later other people cut ties too, as
they were on the receiving end of bullying, neglect, abuse and disrespect just like me
Assess their impact and try figuring out if it's worth having them in your life! Guys please share
your thoughts! Feel free to share your experiences and opinions in the comments section below!
Anybody telling you or insisting the attachment is simple and
straightforward is a liar... it takes bravery, guts, strength and resilience
Bradley had been dating his partner for years and was unsatisfied and miserable... his girlfriend was
superficial and bought nothing healthy or positive to the relationship... he endured more stress putting
up with her, they argued daily and they always clashed.... she was never going to leave him though
because she had it good! She received all the attention and validation she needed from Bradley
On his own one night he evaluated the relationship and concluded his partner no matter how hard he
tried to get through to her was never going to change, nor was she gonna meet his needs or willing
to make an effort. After much internal deliberation he realized he had to detach from his partner,
most likely walk away... he checked out mentally. At that moment emotionally as well and he was done
The arguments stopped because he was no longer having the energy to fight back
The communication died entirely as he would go silent and distant with her... the intimacy was dead
too as he would never want to connect at all or even touch her... slowly but surely he concluded he
had to walk away now, which he eventually did after the last mother of all arguments. I know it may
seem obvious, but nobody else can make these adult difficult mature decisions other than yourself
Trust me they are extremely difficult, it can feel very daunting and so uncomfortable as well...
but by making the difficult decision to detach it will ensure you are cutting
out the wrong person from your life entirely.... for a better future
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Reflect why you want to detach and evaluate the impact the person has on your well-being. We have short
memories as humans, especially when we're in high stake relationships.... we can park our emotions,
feelings all the time... we've been hurt and our fears and insecurities will sit there trying
to reframe the situation and the person in our mind for how they've been treating us. We'll say
"Well she's going through a rough time... He's been really stressed with work....We're family we've
got to stick together... I'm sure things will work out some way... Better the devil you know!"
Sadly with the wrong person you could only park your feelings and emotions for so long
until the big horrible incidents will occur! Take Amy for example who discovered 24 hours
before her birthday that her boyfriend of several years had been cheating on her
On top of that he was very lazy, disrespectful, he'd always lied to her and was inconsiderate
In her case there were multiple serious and valid reasons for her to detach from this guy
which she eventually did.... "The main reason above all else was this guy pushed me to
my limit" she said "regularly let me down, upset me and hurt me.... I am past the point of caring."
I experienced something very similar to Amy in a former relationship. I tried everything, I begged
and pleaded, I did everything to make things better, but this person was wrong for me... once I saw that
and after having a big situation be revealed where she lied as well... that was it... I was done. Assess
your reasons as to why you wanted attach from the wrong person.... don't feel guilty for your reasons as
well, you feel the way you do for a valid reason.... that's important to you and your well-being!
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Clearly communicate your boundaries and expectations to this person ensuring they understand
and must respect them! By this point you've done a lot of soul-searching and evaluating, so the
next step is to set those clear boundaries... No means no! Enough's enough! You're in charge now!
When I walked away from the wrong person a few years back, in the relationship there
were no boundaries, no space, insults were flying, arguments really bad, disagreements escalating
As much as I tried to calm her down and myself nothing worked, therefore after detaching and
walking away the boundaries came into place. When you deal with a difficult person it's
very hard to communicate healthily, they don't listen, they're unpredictable and unpleasant
So after I ended the relationship I had no choice but to do the following
To block her number, social media, delete her information and move on entirely and swiftly
The boundary was set and was simple for me... it was this = The relationship is over, there's no more
talking to you either, it's done, leave me alone .... I never want to see or speak to you ever again
There was no way for her to contact me, see me and even if she did... I would not allow it
The clear boundary was in place and no matter how hard she tried to manipulate the situation
in her favor, I was never going to back down! Out of sight... out of mind... out of contact... out of mind
This is exactly what I did when I also used to be addicted to gambling to become and remain
sober I just had to detach and set the boundary of never stepping foot into a casino again, never
being tempted to do so even.... cutting ties with friends that like to gamble as well! Set your
clear boundaries, this is how you detach from the wrong person in my case even a nasty addiction!
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Once you've practiced radical acceptance that the only way forward is to detach from the
wrong person you'll do a lot of healing and you'll eventually recover... but then once typically you'll
have a lot of energy ,because you're no longer dealing with an energy draining vampire! There's
no more arguments, no more fighting, disagreements, and feeling drained and upset! Now you can use that
energy to something healthier more productive , something that can make you successful even
After I detach from the wrong person, I had the inspiration and confidence to start this
YouTube channel.... one of the best projects and decisions I've ever made in my life!
It was therapeutic as I'd share my thoughts feelings emotions and experiences with
like-minded people from around the world, who would have gone through similar experiences and
been inspired themselves to make a positive change and turn their lives around redirect that built up
energy into anything worthwhile and productive... just not the person you're trying to detach
from! That ship has sailed... it's over... it's time to move on and finally hopefully live your best life!