the next uppers will talk about the need it
too dull d
that she was on the today show
the adopted an infant that was found on the side of the road then does she
decarava's in fit for eighteen months was the adoptive mother uh... and she
has recently decided to give the baby back and terminate the adoption
yet we have the about this and i have a very strong thoughts about this woman so
or let's watch for with thirty thousand children are adopted but what happens if
the child does not bond with the family
needed to tell the recently blogged about her family's heart-breaking
experience when it talk to her in a moment
but first today's national correspondent natalie morales has any the story and by
the way and he asked us to protect the identity of dvd and her husband
who serves in the military
first considered giving up
d i was lying in the u_k_
i meant to be broom afraid that he was already gone
but he was dead
from
addresses chief let your fingers thanks a lot
tell me about the very first day you've got that phone call
and told you
we have a child we would just
overjoyed we have pictures and i remember i would look at the picture
with my kids
activity adoption anita and her family were thoroughly screens and they went
through counseling to help make d
yet part of their family
he had been found by the side of the road
but the doctor estimated that he was younger than manya
deduct strength in his legs and had a completely flat head from lying in the
crib so many hours a day
but the physical or developmental issues where in the real problem
five or six months after his arrival and you know that dean was in attaching i've
tried very hard maybe even harder that i would be fine
biological children to find a connection
feel that we were established in that connection after eighteen months of
trying to bond with the anita came to a heartbreak
creation
my thoughts and emotions were disjointed and came in waves
one woman i was determined to keep the because i'm not going
and instead later i realized that i was an independent and we could be
and that's a place team with a better family
with a better and that she chose to terminate the adoption and she began
looking for his new family
alex later he would
he'd been joining his new family and that we loved him very much
he had done nothing wrong
in our last moments together ice stared into his eyes and told them that i had
not been intact practical impact
do you feel like you failed him
not sure that that i feel tame
i loved him and i've tried my best in that respect and didn't feel ham
he deserves the best like he could possibly have
i wish i could get into one
to give me the right i'd like to appear on the road
uh... kingpin
you know what that report
almost made a right to be here
bullshit
no
you're right
it made out to be a hero and i i created that's bullshit
first i had a very negative perception of this moment i thought she was selfish
i thought that she was just a terrible person for adopting a child and then
just giving her giving him away it's an issue was uncomfortable taking care of
right but at the same time it's the worst possible environment for the child
to grow up in
because if she doesn't feel the same connection with this child as she does
with her five other daughters her five other biological daughters that's one of
them realize that and he's gonna grow up or here she's gonna krupa psychological
issues
so not
buying it and i
it is the worst thing it's for child to grow up in environment
which he or she doesn't know how it works
there's a whole lot of really bad things and diverted by visiting rothman
but i am used to feel
his or her parents loved
and if this woman was not able to love this child she claims she loved him but
did for his state refusing to give away my ass therefore before you get to your
point
this you would say
she was in the taxes that he was in a tax returns that we think that what she
said that she did not feel bond with the child whatever capers is that the other
thing he wasn't actually u
at jeans
at what that means you there but uh...
my perception of that entire story is that she didn't feel any type of bond or
any type of attach herewith the shop the same way that she did with her five
other biological daughters here's my perception of the story prefer what
would you african conflict i'm not really attacking
no it's her decision
curfew spread and she claims she loved them and they want a minute better vibe
now if you don't give kids
day they're not police the date you can do that and a quick question this
eyewitness what happens
if you've got to someone util
what happens is it's a sad day for you birthday and you keep the kid and you
try your best you try to give them the best possible atmosphere to grow up in
and and you move on with your life you don't give kids back look i had a friend
who give attack back after promising eight hundred times that he would right
and our rights people
let out over that roundup it's an animal it's different either send the putting a
okay so when he gives a cap back ideally with mccabe but you can give a kid back
and don't give me this bs excuse about
i wanted something better for him and i'm sure is next and later
but i don't even know where the kid when did he go to a foster home did he go to
a any agency i don't know where he went
uh... it idon't
it seems to be a really weak excuse to be like order no he's going to be in a
better situation where he's got a bond was someone else magically
know that kids liked to have years old
you're abdomen way from the only family he knows they're getting to other family
hope the bonds but what that was a magical way
purely selfish
and it's covered up by piano music something during paying
as issue nice in cause a little camera action lisa look pleasant
slipped away prime and on the middle
and in the middle with the story okay little extreme in judging
but at the same time
i don't know i mean she found another family he he's already with the
different family and and he's not a foster home be adopted him
i'm just feel like i wouldn't that's better i'll give you that again that's
better but i just i wouldn't want to know that a child is going up
with a family that does not
feel any type of attachment to bond with him like he's kind of way you use that
as an excuse to get rid of all your dot the kids are out other things figure
reason is terrible twos it's kind of pain and that's gotta flathead
uh... let somebody else bond with his ass
and etc she said you know i'm told them you've done nothing wrong yeah that'll
really work out you're frightened your excused you relieved of duty to tell you
no longer ted but don't worry
and explainer to admiral you've done nothing wrong and i see what you're
saying i mean that rejection is going to have psychological impact on of hearts
and is that that growing up and so he's eighteen years old enough possible that
doesn't
love him that doesn't see him as a real family member that has even worse impact
on him
i don't know
and you're going to so you're saying okay just keep them in the house and try
try your best indicates a hardship is is a lifelong commitment you don't docked
and say hey you know what this one out of batteries i'm gonna give it back
the is it's not acceptable i realized that i say no it's a lifelong commitment
and you do the best you can
did as a means to be perfect
doesn't mean that all you know idea until you all have our have incredible
mongering relationship but center
as part of resonance for doctors
will eat up and that's why thinks courageous people to do it and i a
admire them tremendously
i'm sorry i i can't have you given the kids back to scan have