why do we fear being naked well i'm sure that most people would say that they feel vulnerable exposed
and they fear being laughed at or ridiculed for their lack of perfection i'm also convinced that
most people see themselves as just not good enough when comparing themselves to others
and they would rather curl up and die than have all eyes on them and be the center of attention
so what's my point here well you don't need to be naked to experience all of those emotions because
lack of self-confidence evokes all the exact same insecurities fears and self-criticism but what
makes the difference between going outside naked and going outside with low self-confidence lies
in your ability to find a solution if you're new to my channel a huge welcome i'm sue blackhurst
and if you're at a stage in your life where you're tired of feeling foolish and you're tired of
feeling that you're simply not good enough click on the link in the description box below or the
link up here because i'd love you to join me on my free training where i will show you how to break
that destructive cycle of self-doubt i will show you how to turn that negative voice inside your
head into positive self belief and while you're at it please do help me by subscribing and don't
forget hit that notification bell so being naked in public now i'm going to make a pretty broad
statement here but i do think it's pretty safe to say that it is something that we all fear but the
fear of being naked in public doesn't stop any of us from ever going out or joining in and that's
because we've all learned how to solve it from a very early age we're taught how to armor ourselves
and it's not only for personal comfort and safety it's also to prevent us from feeling vulnerable
embarrassed and even foolish i think it's safe to say we instinctively know how to adapt to
and deal with the different external influences in our lives we know whether to add or remove
clothing if the temperature changes and when it's raining to protect ourselves from getting wet
we put on a waterproof or use an umbrella if it's sunny we protect our eyes by wearing sunglasses
and to protect our skin we apply a barrier of sun cream and if it's deep snow outside we wear
insulated thermal snow boots that prevent our feet from getting frostbite and also give us
enough grip to enable us to keep moving forwards without the fear of falling flat on our face
we grow up with a wardrobe full of resources to use to protect ourselves from all sorts
of external elements but when we're faced with the external elements such as criticism failure
or negativity there isn't a stalker but we can go to full of supplies you see we don't ever buy the
item we only ever buy the solution to a problem no one buys a coat they buy warmth when it's cold or
they buy safety or security to do a certain job or even maybe increase status or image factor
no one buys an umbrella because they're buying dryness but when you don't feel good enough you
can't go onto amazon and you can't go and search for something that you can instantly
put on a reply to get the confidence that you need to go outside and deal with the unknown
so why is it that some people find it so easy yet for others it creates so much internal anxiety
well we grow up in a world of comparisons from a very early age it's how soon your child can walk
or talk compared to all the babies in the play group but it then moves through you know as we've
grown to adult life through exam grades career progression and even appearance and lifestyle
and no matter how well we do in life there will always be somebody and it could be a parent a
sibling a partner a neighbor a friend or somebody that we instinctively compare ourselves to
and if we don't have the resources to protect ourselves from that self-doubt it leads to a
life of low self-confidence and this constant fear of just never been good enough and when you feel
foolish you don't have the words or skills to respond to negativity or criticism and this is
when it evokes this same fears as being naked you become vulnerable and you feel being looked at or
been highlighted in the crowd and when you believe that you have no voice or nothing of value to say
to either engage with other people or respond to a simple question you feel unprotected and therefore
you don't feel safe or secure and it's those same feelings that lead people with low self-confidence
to run away and hide so learning how to armor yourself to external influences not only gives
you the confidence to deal with external stresses it also provides protection as it stops the mind
being damaged and prevents our emotions from being constantly hammered learning the skills to
overcome low self-confidence literally opens doors and it enables you to go back outside knowing
that you have the skills and the resources to deal with whatever outside elements are thrown at you
confidence isn't a personality trait it's a skill
and just like learning the skill of say riding a bike you can learn the skills to be most confident
but the thing about being able to ride a bike lies in the simple fact that you have to get
on the bike when you have absolutely no idea what to do you have to have a go and you have
to keep on trying knowing that you're going to make mistakes you're going to fall off but the
difference between people who believe they can and those who believe that they can't lies in how
many times you get back on and try again and again and again no matter how many times you fall over
first of all you start with stabilizers then we carry on wobbling a little bit someone's
holding that back seat until eventually you go on your own and when you've cycled those first few
meters without any supporting you that is the moment you feel the first waves of confidence
it's not something you have or something you need to get on the bike it's what you gain when
you have a tiny amount of belief that actually you can do something that you couldn't do before
confidence isn't about being the loudest in the room it's not walking in and going ta-da
i'm here and it isn't about never feeling anxious it's about the willingness to get up
and have a go it's about the ability to try again and again with that self belief that
just like learning to ride a bike we all start off not being able to do it but if you stop trying the
first time you fall over you will never improve through practice and you'll never truly know what
you're capable of achieving in life underneath we're all naked and we are all vulnerable
and we've all found a solution that enables us to live our lives without this constant fear
that somebody else is going to see our imperfections
but only a handful of people have sought access and utilized the solutions to low self-confidence
you will have no doubt heard me talking about my confidence program before but even though i say
it myself it really does work and it really can provide you with all the resources tools
tips and tricks to protect you from all these external elements that are holding you back
i've been delivering the program now gosh for well over two years and i even came off youtube for the
past six months to build the online version so it's now accessible to even more women who
are just like you membership of the program gives you access to all the modules and a whole host of
additional resources the results are incredible and i even speak with you every single week to
make sure you keep on track and you keep getting back on that bike if you ever start to wobble and
don't just take my word for it this is what kay said sue is a perceptive empathic and motivational
person and i really enjoyed her profound insights into human behavior i had hit a really low point
in my life that was escalating out of control and this program was exactly what i needed
i quickly discovered that it's never too late to change and i started to feel so much better from
day one the whole program was a very powerful and enlightening experience sue gave me so many
tools to overcome my self-doubt and increase my self-respect and confidence the content
was so easy to grasp and it honestly changed my life i can completely recommend the course
and here is what louise said i absolutely loved working with sue i was at a place
in my life when my children had left home and for the first time i had space and time for me
which to be honest was quite scary i didn't know what i wanted or was able to do i'd lost all my
confidence and i couldn't see a way out what i really loved was how everything covered was backed
up with practical tasks i don't work and i'd lost my role and purpose so having an easy step-by-step
process to build both my confidence and resilience was exactly what i needed i no longer have a void
in my life thanks to sue so if you're tired of feeling naked and you're ready to turn your life
around you can also be part of this very special group of ladies all you need to do now is go
and click on the link in the description box below and you can join me on my free training
or if you want to fast track and go straight to book a call with me my calendar link is also there
and i would love to have a chat and tell you more about what's involved it would also really help me
and my channel if you subscribe before you go and don't forget to hit that notification bell thank
you so much for watching i've got new videos out every week do take care and i will see you soon