Hey there, it's Clay, and Valentine's Day is getting dangerously close. Now, if you
want to get back together with your ex, we're going to be talking about Valentine's Day
strategies and things to keep in mind and all of that moving into of course, this weekend
and even beyond. But once again, of course, my name is Clay
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This will help you if you are not in a place where you want to get back together with your
ex any longer. Totally okay. I get it. Getting back together with your ex isn't for everyone.
And you might've started wanting to get back together with your ex and maybe you've decided
you don't want that for any number of reasons, and if that is where you're at and you want
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So yeah, Valentine's Day is coming up. We have talked about this before. If you have
been following us during December and the whole holiday season, you know about the holiday
expectation effect, you know about how it's a weird time of year because of expectations,
because of people having thoughts about what it's supposed to be like during the holidays
and all of that. And you know that it's probably a collapsed mini version of that from about
the first day of February up through Valentine's Day. So the first two weeks of February.
And again, that's because people have expectations about Valentine's Day. People have expectations
about what it's supposed to be like. They have expectations about breaking up with a
rebound. Nobody wants to be the jerk that dumped someone on like February 13th or something.
Does it happen? Yes. Is it common? No. Oftentimes people will try to force something to work,
to stay together, even if it's not great and get through Valentine's Day and then 15th,
16th, 17th onward, that's when you might see a relationship that was just held together
with sticks and glue come falling apart because it's like, "Okay, great. Now I don't have
to worry about being the jerk that dumped someone right before Valentine's Day."
But with all that being said, I want to remind you that I don't want you to get hung up on
the specific date of Valentine's Day. I don't want you to be hung up on getting some sort
of Valentine's Day miracle, some sort of special reconciliation on Valentine's Day or anything
like that. I know that you're smart enough to know that that might not happen intellectually,
but still a lot of us have this emotional part of us that's like, "Yeah, it'd be a great
time to work things out. It would be a great time to get back together. You know, I've
seen enough movies that this happens. I'm going to just sit quietly, just enjoy myself,
and then hopefully I'll see if they text me on Valentine's Day. We'll have a nice conversation.
They'll admit they love me. I'll admit I love them. And then we'll be together. It'll be
a great time," or something like that. But don't get hung up on the actual date of Valentine's
Day. Again, if your ex is in a rebound relationship,
that rebound relationship is probably going to stick together through Valentine's Day,
unless it's just really bad because no one wants to be the jerk that dumped someone on
February 13th or February 14th or February 12th or anything like that. They're probably
just going to at least white knuckle it through Valentine's Day. They're probably going to
try and force it to look and seem a certain way just to get through Valentine's Day and
then after Valentine's Day, the true colors will come out.
Additionally, I want you to take it slow. Again, we don't want to be hung up on a specific
date here. If you and your ex don't have some sort of great romantic interaction or anything
like that on Valentine's Day, it's okay. It doesn't mean it's not going to happen. First
of all, if it does happen, great. Cool. Awesome. But if it doesn't happen, that's okay. Again,
we're not trying to force it to look or seem a certain way. We're not trying to make these
covert contracts like, "Well, if you really cared about me, you'd confess your undying
love on Valentine's Day." We don't want to get caught up in that game because that's
not going to allow us to authentically express what we're feeling or authentically process
what we are feeling. What we want to do is we want to just say,
okay, Valentine's Day is admittedly just a day out of the year. It is a day out of the
year that for some reason we have decided is some sort of day of romance. If my understanding
is correct, Saint Valentine was just someone who would marry common people, would actually
perform weddings for common people. Because I guess back in ye olden days, regular non
Nobles couldn't get married or something like that. I don't know. I'm not familiar with
the history, but somehow we've twisted it into that means you need to buy flowers and
chocolate and rings and jewelry and romance and stuff like that.
It's really just an arbitrary day that we have for some reason decided to make it about
romance. If something happens, cool. If it doesn't happen, don't worry about it. Again,
the same factors are all still in play here, just like they were back in December and the
holiday season. We're not trying to force it to happen within a certain timeframe that's
artificial, that's trying to force it to happen in a time that might not be emotionally ready
for it. We want to just simply keep the progress moving forward. Okay? And if you can just
remind yourself about that, not get hung up in the Valentine's expectation effect, but
just realize, "Okay, let's just ride this out. Let's see how this happens. Let's see
what unfolds as we move forward," you're going to be in a much better place.
Again, don't forget about rebound relationships. Your ex is probably going to try to keep that
relationship at least together for cosmetic superficial purposes through Valentine's Day.
Afterwards, all bets are off. But as we start to go back into normal, regular time from
February 15th up through December, expect that relationship's true colors to start to
be revealed. And also don't fall prey to scarcity. I know there's a lot of people out there that
might feel some degree of scarcity around Valentine's Day, whether that's like, "Okay,
we need to have some sort of romantic conversation on Valentine's Day. If they really cared about
me, they'd message me on Valentine's Day," or like, "Oh my goodness, I can't be single
on Valentine's Day. I need to hook up with someone, anyone, before then," or something
like that. Don't fall prey to that. It's going to probably cause you to make some poor choices,
things that might not really be in alignment with what you really want.
It's okay to take it slow. Like I said before, it's okay to not have it look or seem some
sort of postcard perfect or Instagram perfect sort of life for you on Valentine's Day. It's
100% okay. Once again, it is just one day out of the year. One day. Just because you
might happen to be single on this particular Valentine's Day or just because your life
or your love life might not happen to look exactly the way you want it to on this one
day out of the year, it doesn't mean that you're a failure. It doesn't mean that no
one loves you. It doesn't mean that no one will ever love you. It's just one day out
of the year. And just remind yourself that because a lot can happen in a year as you
know. We all can see looking back on the previous
12 months. Oh my goodness. I think a year ago, we were starting to hear the rumblings
of this whole pandemic, but most of us I think were like, "Whatever." And then 2020 happened.
So, weird times. But yeah, just because a lot can happen in a year, remind yourself
that a lot of good can happen in a year to. Just because pandemics and lockdowns and social
unrest and bizarro presidential elections and everything else that happens, bad things
that happen here. Open yourself up to the possibility that just
because you're not where you're at right now, doesn't mean that this next year opening up
for you might not be full of amazing, wonderful, great surprises, miracles, and wonderful love
coming into your life. Okay? So I hope this helps you out. Once again,
if you do want to check out our new dating course called Authentic Dating, it is on discount
up through Monday the 15th. You can check it out right down below in the link. Feel
free to sign up if it's right for you, if not, no worries, but that price is going up
on Monday the 15th. Anyway. Thank you so much for watching this.
If you do want to learn more about Valentine's Day and the holidays, we do have this whole
playlist over here on all of that stuff. Or if you do want to check out this video right
here, that YouTube will automatically generate and suggest for you, please check that out
as well. But thank you so much. Once again, my name is Clay and this has been
modernlove.life.