One of the biggest things that I get asked by viewers, readers,
clients, when they're still in the relationship with a narcissist and when they're out of the relationship
and they're still dealing with the narcissist because of a child or a divorce or whatever. People ask me
"How do I deal with the gaslighting?
What's the best thing I can do?" Well of course, there are lots of different ways you can do that and today at queenbeing.com,
Kim Saeed and I are going to tell you about one way that you might not have thought of. So let's get started.
My name is Angie Atkinson and on this channel, I offer free daily video coaching to help you discover, understand and overcome
narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships.
I like to call it toxic relationship rehab. So if that sounds good to you, hit that subscribe button and
We'll get going. I've talked about this before, but when you're going through gaslighting, it feels as though you're going
crazy. If you don't know what gaslighting is, it's a manipulation tactics that narcissists use against you.
I'm not gonna go into all that during this video
but I will leave a link for you about gaslighting above. With that being said, today
Kim and I are gonna talk about how you can change
gaslighting. Now again, I've discussed this before a little bit
but it's always interesting to hear new perspectives. Like I've said a bazillion times like I wrote into my blog back in 2006,
it's all about making the 'write' choice pun intended.
What does that mean? Well you put your pen to paper or your fingers to the keyboard and you kind of just let it all
out. The problem is actually plaguing you, bothering you,
sometimes just putting it out on paper will actually help you to kind of work through it. At least enough to understand it and move
forward. Plus, if you're actively dealing with gaslighting from a narcissist, chances
are they're trying to confuse your reality so if you journal, you'll have a much better chance of actually keeping a grip on reality.
You'll have a written record of what happened in your life. For me personally,
journaling, writing all of these things, blogging even these have been my go-to personal development tools.
I like to call it free therapy.
Anytime you can take the time to put down your thoughts on paper or even on a computer screen although personally for journaling,
I really like the handwriting on paper. If you can do that,
I think it's more therapeutic.
But I've also had plenty of success with blogging therapy.
So when I call it therapy. For example back when I lost 100 pounds, I
did that by
vlogging through this site that you stay exists called buddy slim and so a bunch of people were on the site.
They were vlogging and they were going around and reading and commenting on other people's blogs and that helped with community.
But it also helps with staying focused and working out our issues as to why we were struggling with our weight at the time.
So the same thing applies to
narcissistic abuse of recovery. Let me let you hear what Kim said about that. I find this so fascinating that we had such a similar
journey in this area, so I thought maybe it would help you too. Take a listen. I
personally started a journal and the reason I started one to begin with was because I wanted to be a writer.
You know that was my big dream for myself was to publish a book, but I wanted to write fiction
And I had actually joined a writers group and had some very good stories, and I have gotten positive feedback
and that's one of the things that writers do is they journal all the time.
But I found myself journaling about my experiences in my relationship, and then in my marriage
so that I could go back and and say this happened on this day and this happened
and you know I got the silent treatment for two weeks.
So those are it's really important to write these things down because once we start forming
PTSD
responses, the trauma responses and triggers, we literally do block out a lot of these episodes of abuse.
So it's really important to start journaling whether you write it down in a book or do it online.
Just start documenting. I totally agree. Yeah in fact. I have of course all around that.
That's great.
That's how I literally saved my own life
I think was journaling and then later blogging about it without even knowing what I was doing at first. Right. Yeah. Now
I'm gonna link out to some other videos put it in the description below about journaling and blogging and things like that.
And if you want to go to queenbeing.com and search the term you'll see plenty of good stuff
there as well. For now though,
I'm gonna ask you the question of the day and the question of the day is: Do you blog? Do you journal?
How do you work through that stuff? Let me know what you think,
what your experiences are, what your thoughts are about that and whether or not you do that in the comments section below
and let's talk about that.
One last thing, check out the link in the description below for my journaling course over at
Life Makeover Academy that includes printable journals. That's all I've got for you today. As always,
thank you so much for being a part of my day and a part of my life, and hey, thanks
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