Most of the places outside are closed so I've been unable to take my girlfriend out on any
dates.
So for the past month – all we've been doing is watching Netflix together at night over
at my place.
And to my surprise I think it's really helped further our relationship – physically and
also mentally.
Even more so than before.
And after spending so many nights doing this - I've noticed that there are certain rules
that one should follow when it comes to this particular form of dating.
So today I'm going to teach you about The Art Of Netflix And Chill.
How to further your relationships with the person you like while watching things together.
And this can be applied to any streaming service platform out there – so it's not just Netflix.
And I suggest you stay and watch to the very end of this video – because I'll even tell
you about what I consider to be the best series to binge watch on Netflix with your special
someone.
Now there are 5 rules that one must adhere to if they wish to master The Art of Netflix
and Chill.
The first three are in regards to selecting the right things to watch.
And the final two are about what you should be doing while watching these selections.
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First of all you want to watch something that takes advantage of the passage of time.
What do I mean by this?
Well it's better to watch series as compared to movies because series literally take longer
to watch.
And this is a good thing – because it means that you and the person you're with will be
sucked into this world together for a longer period of time.
And the longer two people experience things together – the closer they will feel with
each other.
That's just human nature.
You also want to make sure that you select a series where there is a clear story line.
Where there is a feeling that things are moving forward in time.
Because when there is a clear story line there is more immersion.
It's easier to be completely focused on whats happening in front of you on the screen.
The experience is more enhanced.
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Which actually brings us to our second rule.
You want to watch a series that can trigger a wide range of strong emotions.
See - attraction and love are for the most part fueled by our emotions.
You don't look at someone and think to yourself “Ok - on paper this person is perfect for
me so I will chose to love them.”
Right?
It's more like “Wow – he makes me feel so many things...i must love him.
We always end up falling for the one that makes us feel strong emotions.
And you can take advantage of this fact by carefully selecting series that are emotional
roller coasters.
Where there are twists and turns.
Ups and downs.
Highs and lows.
Because the more emotions you experience when you're with someone else - the more you'll
be attracted to each other.
And it doesn't matter if the emotions are good or bad.
A famous 1974 study published in the Journal Of Personality And Social Psychology (Dutton).
Had subjects walk across a very shaky bridge perched high up in the mountains.
Needless to say walking across the bridge caused a lot of anxiety and fear.
Waiting for the subjects at the end of the bridge was someone of the opposite sex.
The researchers discovered that subjects who walked across the bridge were more attracted
to whoever was waiting for them at the end of the bridge as compared to people who did
not have to walk across a bridge at all.
This psychological phenomenon is called the miss-attribution of arousal.
Basically a wide range of strong emotions both positive and negative will often be interpreted
as attraction.
Knowing this - you want make sure to select a series that has a wide range of emotions.
For example it might not be the best idea to watch comedies because they usually only
make you laugh.
As compared to dramas – where there are always tons of twists and turns with a lot
of emotional moments.
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And finally you want to watch a series that has relatable characters.
See when you spend a significant amount of time watching characters on the screen mingling
with each other it's almost like you and the person you're with are hanging out with a
new group of friends.
You grow along with this group – the problems that the group faces become your problems.
Their victories become your victories.
The inside jokes that only those within the group understand become inside jokes that
you and your special someone share.
The list goes on.
The point is - this is extremely powerful.
Because it creates a sense of family.
Almost like you and your special someone are now part of a tribe together – living life
together in another world.
Going on a journey together.
And this again relates back to why the first rule is so effective.
When you experience things with someone else you will feel closer and more comfortable
with that person.
On the other hand series with charterers that have extremely exaggerated personalities will
not have this same effect.
For example – as much as I love anime – you have to admit there are some characters that
are just too out of this world.
They have unrealistic personalities and it's hard to relate to them.
Of course this doesn't apply to all anime – you just got to be careful.
And these are the 3 rules you need to keep in mind when selecting what to watch.
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Now back to the topic at hand.
There are 2 things you should be doing whenever you are watching a series with your special
someone.
Rule number 4 is to make sure that you are reacting to whatever's happening on screen.
A couple of years ago there was a very popular trend on YouTube.
Reaction channels were doing very well.
These channels garnered millions of views because of one thing – we all yearn for
human interaction.
Like I mentioned before – when you watch a series with relatable characters it almost
feels like you are invited into a new friend group.
The only problem is that they can't interact with you.
You're hanging out with a bunch of really cool people and doing cool things but no one
is talking to you.
It doesn't matter how great the adventure is – there's always going to be something
missing.
A little pinch of human interaction.
And it doesn't matter if you're an introvert or an extrovert – some experiences are simply
more enjoyable when there's at least one other person you can share it with.
Which is why you want to make sure that you are reacting to whatever happens on screen.
And this can be done in 3 different ways:
You can have an emotional reaction – where you simply allow yourself to be animated and
respond to whatever just happened with facial expressions and body language.
You can critique – where you share your opinion about an event or a character or even
an easter egg you noticed in the background.
And finally you can roleplay.
Where you pretend to be one of the characters or pretend to interact with one of them and
act it out.
Use these 3 however you like whenever you're watching something on Netflix in order to
enhance the experience with your partner.
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And finally we have - rule number five – which is to - make sure you are touching.
If you think about it the difference between two people who are friends and two people
who have a strong romantic relationship is the fact that friends rarely touch each other.
And if they do it's only for very short periods of time.
In order to deepen your romantic relationship with someone you must increase the amount
of physical contact you have with them.
Which is why you want to make sure that you're touching your significant other while watching
Netflix as much as possible – even if it's in very subtle ways.
Such as simply sitting closer to them so that your thighs are touching.
If you've only recently started dating start small with things like putting your arm around
their shoulder or hugging them during commercial breaks.
And over time slowly try and escalate things – such as tickling, teasing, and eventually
kissing.
It might take a while to warm someone up to the idea of touch – as it varies depending
on what type of household they were raised in – so use your best judgment and escalate
things at a pace that they feel comfortable with.
And that's it – these are the 5 rules you need to keep in mind if you wish to master
the art of Netflix and chill.
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And as promised let me tell you about what I consider to be the best series to binge
watch on Netflix with your special someone.
American Horror Story.
I've watched dozens of series with my girlfriend on Netflix and this is hands down what I consider
to be the best choice.
For a couple of reasons:
First of all it follows all of the rules we just mentioned when it comes to selecting
a series.
There is a clear timeline in every season.
There is plenty of drama and plot twists.
It's a horror series so there are some scary moments.
But there are also some very touching and beautiful moments as well.
And many of the characters are extremely relatable.
But its the way the show is made that makes it such a unique choice – see every season
is different – there's a completely different story with different characters - but the
actors playing these characters are sometimes the same.
So there's this odd sense that you've connected with a past version of them.
An alternate universe version of them.
Which leads to very interesting reactions and conversations.
I definitely recommend you to check it the next time you watch Netflix with your special
someone – and besides that guys stay tuned!