- All right, welcome back to the channel.
Max Tornow here.
Today, we're in Finland, enjoying a little bit of off time.
And in this video, I wanted to take a second to talk about
why the idea of believing in yourself
can actually do much more harm than good,
and obviously, how to fix it.
So this is usually important for two kinds of people,
and I bet you're one of those.
Number one, if you think the idea of being successful
and becoming wealthy and free is only connected
to how much self-belief you have,
you think you have to be really sure in yourself
in order to make it,
pay attention now because you'll be surprised.
And also, on the other hand,
if you falsely believe in yourself
and you're thinking you're well on the way
on becoming successful
but actually results haven't really shown themselves
for you yet, pay attention now also, because yeah,
this can call you out a little bit on your own BS,
and most importantly, it will tell you how to fix it.
So pay attention, let's get started.
Have you ever wondered whether there is more to life
than a boring, dead-end, nine-to-five job?
Have you ever dreamed about breaking free,
traveling the world, making good money,
and just enjoying life?
No more office dress code, no morning commute, no boss,
this channel is for you, so here's to your freedom.
And first of all,
I wanna call you out a little bit on your BS
by saying the following.
If you already knew how to make a million dollars,
you would already have it.
It kinda goes along with the false belief of people saying,
oh, I already know.
I already know.
And this is crazy, sometimes,
when people jump on our free consultation calls
and we tell 'em what to do,
they're like, oh, I already know that.
Well, then why haven't you done it yet?
It's such an ego belief to say I already know that,
I already know, but I'm just not doing it yet
because of xyz excuse.
I gotta finish school first.
I gotta wait till my children moved out.
I gotta do the thing first.
I gotta wait till summer, till winter,
till what goddamn season do you have to wait?
The truth is you probably know the rough steps
on how to make a million dollars.
Let me guess: position yourself in a niche market,
start an online coaching, online consulting business,
and then just kinda try around.
Well, the thing is maybe you know the rough steps,
but at the end of the day,
you don't know how you exactly in your specific situation
can make it happen.
And that's not a bad thing.
I'm not saying that you're a loser
because you don't know that.
It's natural.
There's a lot of things people don't know.
There's a lot of things I don't know
and for every little bit that I don't know,
I have a mentor who tells me what to do.
It's not a bad thing.
What you gotta understand though
is that you have to accept it that you may suck.
This is the next thing,
sometimes people say, keep it real, be yourself.
Well, being yourself is great and all that
but if yourself is being
an unsuccessful, broke loser, it sucks.
And again, here, I used to be very, very broke
and I used to be a big loser,
and probably, I'm still a loser in many other aspects
but I'm not going to accept myself now and say,
oh, I'm fine the way I am.
No, because the moment you say,
oh, I'm fine the way I am and I'm being myself,
you're setting yourself up for being stagnant
instead of setting yourself up for being successful.
Which brings me to the next point
and that is that most people have a very wrong idea
on how business marketing
and actually making money is supposed to work
and are justifying it by believing in themselves.
And that is a very, very, very dangerous idea
so here's how it usually works.
People, they follow a bunch of gurus on YouTube.
They're guilty as charged,
you're watching this YouTube video, or Instagram,
and then they accumulate pieces of information
from reading some Instagram posts,
from following some business gurus
for two, three years or something like that,
and they're piecing together very irrelevant information,
very incomplete information.
They usually misinterpret things.
They don't know how exactly it's supposed to work
in their specific situation,
and then they justify that by believing in themselves.
So they have a very false idea,
a very romantic idea of how business is supposed to work,
that is not based on reality.
Again, they justify that by believing in themselves.
The problem here is, again,
people don't accept that they know nothing.
They have their ego involved saying,
oh, I've been consuming business cards
and I've read some books.
I have people, they know nothing about business,
they've read 200 books about business,
which is 195 more books than I've ever read,
and they think now they have all this knowledge,
and in fact, that stuns their growth.
It stuns their success much more than the other person
who hasn't read anything,
who's completely empty vessel,
who's completely open to every new idea
that someone who already
is where they would want to be gives them.
So you gotta understand
that you have to admit to yourself literally,
you gotta get off your ego horse
and admit to yourself that you, in fact, know nothing.
And that's not a bad thing.
It's not like you're being judged here.
It's just a necessary thing
for you to step out of your impartial information
that doesn't do anything in your specific situation
and open yourself up to the idea of actually succeeding.
Because if you don't do that,
if you continuously tell yourself,
oh, I know, I know, I know, and you believe yourself,
then what happens is you'll be caught
in an endless limbo of I will.
Oh, I will succeed.
I will succeed.
I'm so believing in myself!
I'm on my right path.
Well, let's look at it objectively.
Look at the past couple of months.
Look at the past 12 months.
What exact tangible results have you got?
And I'm not talking about feel-good results
meaning I'm a lot more confident or I know much more
or I've built my brand, I have my podcast now,
I have a couple first subscribers on YouTube,
it's going well.
No, that is feel-good BS.
It's what we call vanity metrics.
I'm talking about real tangible results.
A business is there to make you money,
not because you wanna hoard a lot of money
or something like that.
No, but because that money enables you to do as you please,
to be free, to be reliant on yourself, to be self-employed,
to travel the world and stuff like that,
so how much have you actually made over the last 12 months?
Are you close to your goal?
Have you made anything
or are you just accumulating feel-good stuff?
Well, the answer is actually quite simple
and that is instead of believing in yourself,
believe in a proven process.
And I'm not saying trust the process
because that's another feel-good BS that people say,
like I'm trusting the process.
What kind of process?
Where does the process lead you?
Instead, trust in a proven process.
Follow a proven process, follow a proven path,
a path that other people
have walked successfully before you,
a path that at least somebody has followed
to get exactly where you want to be and follow that path.
Now, that is really, really good for all those,
maybe you're watching this right now thinking,
oh, I don't believe in myself.
I don't think I deserve it,
I don't think I'm good enough for people to pay me money,
I don't believe I can do it.
If that is you, don't worry.
It's actually good news
because you don't have to believe in yourself.
Instead of believing in yourself, believe in the process.
You've seen many more people succeed through that process
so why wouldn't you be able to?
Believe in the process.
And that leads to the other very, very good thing,
you can literally turn your brain off
and just bluntly execute the exact process.
You don't have to come up with your own ideas,
you don't have to come up with your own strategies.
If there's a process that is already laid out to you,
you just have to follow it.
It's really nice.
Put on some music,
put your shoes on, and go follow that process.
You don't have to navigate,
you don't need a map and a compass,
just follow the proven path.
It's almost when you play a video game,
you play Death Stranding or something like that
and you can literally pre-plan the route.
It's telling you go here, go there, go here, go there.
That is when you follow a proven path.
That makes things much simpler for you.
And then slowly but steadily, as you're getting results,
as you're getting your first clients,
as you're making your first money,
you start believing in yourself
and that's where you get
this healthy, natural self-confidence
that actually means something
instead of the naive, fake confidence
of believing in yourself even though you suck.
So that is how you fix it.
That is why believing in yourself is actually a bad idea
and why it is not necessary.
If you don't believe in yourself right now,
don't worry too much about that.
Follow a proven path, get those results, excuse me,
and then slowly but steadily
start believing in your actual self.
That is how my clients are doing it,
that is how I've been doing it ever since I started,
that is how people make money.
That is how things work.
It's very, very simple stuff.
So if you say you're ready to get started,
when you say you're ready
to build your own freedom business as an online coach
and online service provider,
then you can now literally jump on a free consultation call,
either with me directly or with an expert from my team.
And on that call, we'll basically be giving you
the step-by-step instructions.
We'll help you to get on that proven path to success.
And the cool thing is, it's always customized.
We're looking at your situation,
we'll be looking at your goals.
It's not just a book that says here are these five steps.
No, we'll be working those out together with you
on that free consulting call.
No, you do not need
to have any prior business experience yet,
you don't even need to know what exactly it is
that you want to be offering people.
We'll figure that out together with you on that call.
All you have to do is you click that link
in the description below,
and the link brings you to an application page.
Read what's on that page and at the bottom of that page,
you fill out the application.
You can book the exact date and time
where you want us to call you.
The call is entirely for free.
We do have very, very limited spots
so it could be that we've already closed access.
If the link still works,
that means we still have a spot open so I really hope
there is at least one more spot left for you
so you can go make that happen.
Now, that being said, you will have to be taking action.
This is definitely not a magic pill.
This is only for people who are taking it seriously,
only for people who actually wanna have results,
and for people who are willing to get off their ego horse
and say yes, I do wanna make that happen.
So if you already have a skill
and you wanna learn how to monetize it,
that call is for you.
If you like the idea of being free,
but you don't know what it is that you could be doing,
again, like I said, that call is for you.
We'll figure it out together with you.
We know the market, we know what model fits to you.
If you're already making some money
but you wanna make it more legit and better,
that call is for you as well.
So again, clink that link down in the description below,
and book your call, and maybe talk to you very, very soon.
Signing off, it's getting cold.
Thank you so much for watching, and GG.
- Joining the calls with Max, Joseph, Nikita
completely changed my mindset about money.
I got super good at sales.
I basically achieved something
that I thought it was impossible,
that was having a $10,000 a month.
In fact, on my second month, I made $13,000.
Just the fact that I got that amount of money in a month
just blew my mind.
I now hired a photographer,
a videographer, and a writer for me.
I owe a lot of it to the guys at FBM,
to the coaches and the mentors.
So super grateful to be in the program,
super grateful for the community,
super grateful for you guys and yeah, I'm really pumped.