Greetings guys, gals, and non-binary pals! Welcome back to another video. I hope that you
are well and I hope that you are fighting because there is a lot to be fighting for.
Now today I am pretty much just wearing my pajamas, I look like I've just rolled out of bed,
which I haven't, uh [laughs] and it's the longest I have ever gone without uploading and that is because,
since the last time I have seen you, a lot has happened. Uh, I was finally able to book
flights back home to New Zealand, so that's a big deal, that was fun. That was stressful,
very expensive. I now have a 27h journey that I am going to be going on in 3 weeks, uh, there's
a- one of the planes is 18.5h, it's one plane for 18.5h and I am really not looking forward to that.
A 6.5h plane, a 3h stop over, an 18.5h plane. Really, really exciting, really exciting stuff.
Uh, yeah but as well as that I am moving, I am actually moving tomorrow,
we have to get all of our stuff out our flat and into storage,
to go stay with my auntie for a few weeks before we go back to New Zealand for like 2 months. We
haven't booked a ticket back, uh just one way to figure it out, so a lot going on,
very stressful, but I wanted to come and make a video, partially because I wanted to make a video,
and partially because I need to now make back the money I spent on the flights to New Zealand.
So, here we are! [laughs] Every month for the past pretty much since I created this
channel almost two years ago we have done a check-in on the straights. It used to be
my first video of the month and now it's just changed to being whenever. And this month,
it's going to be the last video of the month. That is what we are doing today,
we are having a little check-in on the straights, let's have a look at how they're going: we've got
some TikToks, some Instagram posts, some Reddit posts, and- I'm gonna make a guess straight up,
before we even get started: no, they are still not okay, and I- I don't know if they ever will be.
But, we're gonna have a check and in the theme of that, today's video is sponsored by Cheex,
and I will tell you a little bit more about them a little bit later on. Let's, let's go,
let's get into it, let's have a look in what some straight people are saying and doing, shall we?
"Babe, take some pictures of me. Him: covering boobs and butt." Your girlfriend is allowed to
exist in her body and wearing clothes and just being a person. That's a thing that people are
allowed to do, I don't know if you are aware of that, but people are people,
and we have bodies and we exist in them, and that is not for you to control, what people do and do
not see. That is my decision, not yours, don't be controlling, don't be like that,
it's really weird, it's really weird. She can wear what she wants, and it's weird, it's just weird, I
don't understand why people would do this. I know people whose like partners have been like angry at
them for like posting photos in their bikinis and stuff and like why? It's just their body.
They're just, litterally just existing. You don't, you don't own their body.
"A normal conversation - Fewer men would've turned to stone if Medusa had bigger boobs"
You know, uh what would've really made less men turn into stone? If men just left her the f***
alone. You know, that was the whole purpose of the "curse" in the first place, Medusa was assaulted,
so she was like given a "curse" or a blessing depending on how you view it,
where if men looked at her they would turn to stone. It was a defense-mechanism, so that she
couldn't be abused again. And men took it as a challenge, to like overcome that. You'd think,
you'd think if a bunch of men started turning into stone cause they were going near her, just don't,
just leave her alone. And then everyone, everyone wins. It's such a, like a man, a toxic male
like trait, you know. It's the like "I have to be in power, I have to win, women can't threaten me,
I will kill them." No, this is the gross, this is so gross, this is so gross.
Medusa [hums] just leave women alone, that's the moral of the story. Instead of just looking
at boobs instead of eyes just don't look at women, just stay away! Sorted, problem solved.
"Boyfriend: You are my drug. Girlfriend: Awe, you can't live without me?
Boyfriend: No, you cost too much and you ruin my life." [laughs]
Then don't date her! It's really not that difficult. If you're- if you think your girlfriend
is ruining your life and costing you too much, either financially, emotionally, physically,
in whatever way, break up with her! Just don't be in a relationship. No one is forcing you to be
there. And if your partner is making you feel that way, like if you are the other person in that,
your partner is making you feel as though you are too much and that you are annoying and that
you are holding them back, or anything like that, leave them. I know that it's difficult,
uh I know sometimes it doesn't feel like you can, but I promise you if that is how you are feeling
in a relationship, you really need to figure out how to leave and I hope that you are able
to find support people and have people in your life that will help you to do that. Because you
deserve so much better than that. Do not make anyone make you feel like that. If you are in a
relationship and both of you are unhappy, end the reletionship, please. It's better for everyone.
I promise that it's better to be alone than to be unhappy in a relationship, I promise you.
"A man is born from in-between a woman's legs. He then grows up and tries
going in-between her legs again. Why? Because there is no place like home."
I really didn't like that. That one was icky. I really don't like that [laughs] ugh,
that's- I just don't like when we bring like talking about like infants
into like sexual conversation. It's really weird, I know that you didn't like directly say,
like baby, but it's like implied and I don't like it, it makes me feel really icky. It also though,
on the flip side, that's amusing to me, implies that all women also love women, and all non-binary
people love women, it just implies that everyone loves women and wants to have sex with women,
um because we all came from between women's thighs, unless you're a C-section baby. Does this
mean that all like gay men and heterosexual women are C-section babies and that's why, that's why
[laughs] they like men? The only reason you like men is if you were not born out of a
vagina. Is that what, is that the implication here? That's what it feels like. [laughs]
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"Interested but, as Geralt, am I allowed to have a choice to kill or betray the woman that narrates
the trailer of this game, the princess or whatever she is? I do not believe in woman being in charge,
feminism, so I would like to put her in her place. That is the key determining factor of
me buying this game. Or am I going to have to play as a beta male sim- simply- simplying" Am I dumb,
is that a word? Am I stupid? "Or am I going to have to play as a beta male simplying
helping a woman taking charge of a kingdom. I heard this game has a lot of choices,
so I'm wondering whether this is a choice in the game to take the kingdom for yourself or whatnot."
Jesus, man. What, what is wrong with you? What's wrong with you? I don't like women being in
charge, can I kill her and take over? I don't wanna be a beta male. F*** off, why don't you.
My good god. Get over it. Women are people. Women can be in charge. You can shut up and
deal with it. I really hope the game said no, I really hope they replied to you and said
"No, f*** off, get a different game." That'd be really great. Uh, it's interesting though
because there is a lot of sexism that happens within the gaming community, right? And like,
we all know this, we all see it, the way that like female Twitch streamers are treated comparatively,
in the way that female gamers like don't feel safe in games a lot of the time. This is why,
cause there are a lot of men, male gamers, just men in general, who are just absolutely,
god awful, f***ing go away, f*** off man. Games aren't just for you, they're for everyone.
And women are people. And you can- you can go away.
"Do women ever sit back and think 'my man sure does know a lot, maybe I should just
be quiet and listen to him.'" No. [laughs] Uh, I mean it depends on the topic, right.
The same as it is for everything. If I'm dating someone who is like, an expert in
something that I know nothing about, if we're talking about something to do with that topic,
I am going to sit back and listen and be like, no yeah you know more about this than I do.
But I would also expect the same in return, if there's something that I am an expert in and
he's not an expert in it, I would expect him to sit back and let me take the lead, because
I know what I am talking about, uh and he doesn't. Everything is circumstantial, sometimes there are
things you don't know about and you have to accept that, you can ask questions and clarify things and
give input, obviously. That works for all genders, you know? That's not- that's not exclusive one way
or the other. Sometimes, there will be a man that knows more than I do about a topic, and sometimes
I will know more than men do about a topic and I would expect them to stop and listen to me,
the way that I would to them, if I knew nothing about the topic, you know? It's really not that
hard to figure out. It's really not, it's not that difficult, just use your brain, you know.
"i want to extract the eggs from your ovaries and take the milk from your
honkers and mix them together to make an omelette"
How did this thought get into your brain and then to you- like can even get to your thumbs onto your
phone and then you actually sent that to a person. How, how do you, how does that process occur?
How does that happen? This is one of the weirdest comments I ever read. That's so
strange. Are you okay? No. That's the whole point of this video, are the straights okay? This one,
this one comment answered that question, and it is: absolutely the f*** not,
we got a long way to go, guys, got a long way to go. What did i just read?
"If you think an 18 year old is too young to make the consensual choice to date someone older,
then you should also have a problem with them being able to join the military. If somebody is
old enough to operate military equipment and be shipped overseas and die in a war,
then I'm pretty sure they can make the choice to f*** a 30-year-old. So please
stop infantalizing young adults. Note: Age of consent in most countries is 16-17. Americans
need to understand that equating adolescence with childhood is really something only Americans do.
In most other places, a teenager is not treated like a little kid with no autonomy.
So whether you like it or not, people who are in a 16-18 age range can date who they want."
There's a few things. Firstly, uh I don't think 18-year-olds should be going to war and dying,
you're right, I don't think they should be doing that. I don't really think anyone
should be doing that, um, but you're right, no I don't think they should. And secondly, right,
okay. I'm not saying an 18-year-old can't make the decision to have sex with a 30-year-old,
the problem is that there is a power-imbalance, right. A 30-year-old is much more likely to be
able to manipulate an 18-year-old, especially if this 30-year-old has known them for a long time,
like if they haven't just met, and have known them before they are 18 [breathes in] there's a big
power-play in that, that's them having known them as a child and being someone that they like look
up to and trust, you know? It's never on the younger person's like fault, it's not their
fault for like getting into a relationship with older people, it is entirely on the older people,
it is their responsibility. And you can, you know it's f***ed up, and there's like,
a power-imbalance when you look at how these relationships function.
I'm re-watching Glee at the moment, right. I'm just past the part where Shelby and Puck were dating,
and you can see it, even in this like television like relationship, you know,
where like you can clearly see it's like an adult and a teenager. And there is such a big
difference in how they handle problems and situations. And like with Puck saying s***
thinking that, you know, "he's in charge" and "he's like a man" and then her reaction and him thinking he's like,
he said something good, but you're just like, oh my god,
no he's just such a f***ing child, that did not make the point that he thought it did. Because,
they have experience on that, they have gone through all of that, they know what it's like
to be a teenager and be in that situation, therefore they can take advantage of that.
You know what I mean? So it's this thing, and I've talked about this before: I'm 22, right? But
I would never date an 18-year-old, I absolutely would not date an 18-year-old, they're like
in high school, or their first year out of school. I have been out of school for over 5 years, I've
graduated uni, I moved across the world without my family and like, work for myself and have my own
flat and things, I'm not dating an 18-year-old who is like still in high school and living
with their family, you know, because that's such a huge difference in life experience. We
don't have that much in common, we are in very different places in our lifes. Why would I
connect with that, why would I want to be in a relationship with someone in such a
different place in their life. You know what I mean? Like if you are 30 and you
feel like you are in the same place in your life as an 18-year-old, I just don't think,
I don't think that's true. The 18-year-old might want to be in the life position of a 30-year-old
and believe that they have their life as together as that [something falls down] the truth is:
they don't. And you are very aware of that. You know? It's all about life ecxperience.
Next up we have a TikTok: [festive music playing, then mute]
Odd. That was just, just why? Why? Stop sexualizing Santa. He is a- he is a- he is for
children. He is for children. To like, encourage them to be good, can we stop sexualizing Santa?
Leave him alone. Leave- leave the kids to have Santa, please. Please, leave him alone.
He doesn't, he doesn't deserve this. He is a bit of a creep. I'll absolutely give it to you,
he is a bit of a f***ing creep. But, just let kids have 'em, alright? Just let 'em have it.
Um, anyway. This is where I am gonna end my video. It's been a bit of a mess, I'm sorry,
I'm so scatterbrained at the moment, life as I've said is a lot, there's a lot going on,
I've got a lot to do. Moving tomorrow, have not finished packing, aargh. My videos for the next
several months are going to be in different locations, um, I'm gonna have like different
equipment and stuff as well, so it's gonna take a while to get used to for myself and
like setting up and getting a new shedule down and everything, it's a journey. Let's do it together!
Follow me on my second channel, I'll probably be doing some like, uh updates on my trip and
seeing my family, I will introduce you to my pets at home, including my dog Biscuit,
my cat Choc-Chip, I'm going to be there for her 13th birthday, uh it's actually my dog's birthday
today, so happy 4th birthday Biscuit, I love you, I will see you so soon, argh.
A massive thank you to my kiwi fruit and kiwi bird channel members whose names are up on the screen
right now, I love and appreciate you so so much, thank you so much for joining. I should actually
have a Patreon up now, if you would like to join. I've got a whole bunch of different
tiers, uh and different perks including getting my videos a day early, getting extra videos,
I'll be doing a few extra like, travel vlogs and stuff on there, whole bunch of different stuff,
if you wanted to check that out, uh then you can go to patreon.com/savvycat, um it'll be
for the podcast as well once we get that back up and running, there will be like bonus podcast
episodes and stuff there as well. So check that out, um, thank you so much for coming along.
I hope that you enjoy the rest of your day, stay safe, keep fighting, I love you.
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