- What do you do?
- I'm a dominatrix.
- Oh, how do you like start like a clientele?
- [Interviewer] Why? Are you interested?
- I mean...
- You certainly look interested.
(laughs)
- That obvious?
- Yeah it is.
- Hi.
- [Interviewer] What's your name,
and what's your profession?
- I'm Ruby, and I'm a dominatrix.
- [Interviewer] With that profession,
would you classify it under the sex industry?
- Yeah, I'd classify a lot of things under the sex industry.
- [Interviewer] Like what?
- Anything that has to do with people's sex lives really.
- [Interviewer] Why would someone want to work with you?
- To relax and to escape the stresses of reality, really.
- [Interviewer] You're gonna guess who's a virgin or not.
Do you think you're gonna be good at this game?
- I have no idea.
- [Interviewer] Do you want to get them all right?
- I mean, I want to learn about other people.
- [Interviewer] Are you ready to meet some people?
- Absolutely.
- Hi.
- I'm Colin. - Hi Colin.
- Care to tell me about yourself?
- I'm a student, that's pretty much all I do.
- What are you studying?
- Psychology and Swedish.
What do you do for a living?
- I'm a dominatrix.
- I have a vague idea of what that is,
but can you tell me more?
- I dominate people.
Hence, in the name.
- Well.
- Based on you being a student,
I'm gonna say you might be a virgin.
- Really?
- Yeah.
- Why that?
- Because being a student is really busy.
Are you a virgin?
- No.
I'm not.
- When did you lose your virginity?
- A few months ago.
- Was it fun?
- Yeah, it was fun actually.
(laughs)
I mean, it was like a roller coaster is kind of fun,
but kind of terrifying at the same time.
Where do you think I should go from here?
- I would really focus on listening to your partner,
and asking them what they like.
- Okay.
- And if they don't know what they like,
exploring with them.
Also, if you haven't gotten an HPV shot, get it.
- I have.
- Awesome, high five.
Cause, you can get cancer in your mouth and your butt.
- At the same time?
- Maybe.
- Oh, okay,
- Have fun, on your sexual adventure.
- I will, you too.
- Will do.
- I'm Ruby.
- I'm Akira.
- Nice to meet you.
- It's nice to meet you too.
- What do you do?
- I'm a dancer, a stripper, what about you?
- I'm a dominatrix.
- Do you like it?
- I love it.
- How long have you been doing like sex work for?
- Well I've been doing it for a long time.
- Have you ever been a stripper?
- I tried one night only, and I was not good at it.
- Why?
- I twisted my ankle and fell off the stage.
- Oh damn, that sucks, I'm sorry.
So what do you think?
Do you think I'm a virgin?
- I am gonna go with maybe not.
I almost feel like it's hypocritical to say,
because I know many people who are in the sex industry
who are virgins.
- [Interviewer] What's you're answer?
- I'm a virgin.
(laughs)
- I generalized, of my own people. It's terrible.
- It's okay, I mean it makes sense.
Most strippers aren't virgins.
I'm a virgin because intimacy
is pretty uncomfortable for me.
And at the very last second, I'll just be like,
"I don't want to do this anymore."
That's probably a bad thing, but because of that I've
never really had like a full on lasting relationship.
- I think sex work is a really good way of having
similar levels of intimacy that you get in relationships.
I think it's really common
for people who have intimacy issues
to gravitate towards that.
Because it's a way to fill that hole.
- Yeah.
- But I think it gets a lot of bad press.
Because of that.
- Yeah, it was nice to meet you.
- It was nice meeting you too, I wanted to give you a hug.
- Hi.
Care to tell me about yourself?
- Sure, yeah,
I'm 22 I am a senior at Seattle Pacific University.
What do you do?
- I'm a dominatrix.
- Oh, really.
When did you sort of know
you wanted to do something like that?
- When I was really young.
When you're tying up barbies with string,
it's kind of a dead give away.
- It's telling.
- Yeah.
- How do you like start like a clientele?
- You, just do.
- Okay, fair enough.
- [Interviewer] Why are you interested?
- You certainly look interested.
- That obvious?
- Yeah it is.
- It's not something you meet that much
at a private Christian University, I'll be honest.
- Yeah, that's fair.
- What's your radar sayin?
- Guess I'm gonna go with no, not a virgin.
- I'm not a virgin?
- Yeah, I mean you have some knowledge of something, right?
I mean either that you are
browsing the internet quite a bit.
- I am actually a virgin.
- So you're browsing the internet?
- A little bit, don't tell my mom.
(laughs)
- Does sex scare you?
- The act isn't the scary part, it's the repercussions.
- I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18,
because I was concerned about repercussions.
Like the whole you could have a baby kind of deal,
and I was not gonna sign up for that.
- Right.
- So I can kind of understand where you're coming from.
- It was nice meetin' you.
- It was nice meeting you too.
- Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you too.
Tell me about you.
- I work in the software industry.
- Nice.
- And I like doing theater.
- You like doing theater? Awesome.
- Yeah.
Do I look like a virgin?
- I don't know what a virgin looks like.
I very clearly don't know what a virgin looks like.
I honestly think I might be better at guessing that
if I were just like snap guessing.
- Am I a virgin?
- Yes?
- No, I'm not a virgin.
- See, I suck at this.
- But I have not had sex for a long time.
- Gotcha.
- Like seven years.
I've had like, I forgot how to date.
So.
- Oh, the dating scene is weird now.
- Strange, do you have any advice for me?
- The best advice I can give you for meeting people is,
just go talk to people, cause, you're charming.
- Thank you.
Nice to meet you Ruby.
- It was nice to meeting you too.
- Hi.
- Hey.
- How would you define your sexual orientation.
- I like women, but, to make people comfortable with
trying to understand me,
just lesbian or they want to call me queer,
I don't care.
As long as you know I like girls not boys.
Does knowing my sexual orientation help you?
- Embarrassingly enough, I could not guess whatever
orientation you were.
- Really?
- Really.
- Surprised!
I always assumed that it's blatant.
- I grew up in a school where we were taught to ask
like what your preferred pronouns are
and what your preferred orientation is.
- You know, I guess the environment I grew up in,
was a little more, closed.
It was kind of like your black and white,
you're either or.
- [Interviewer] I hate to make this so black and white,
but has Lovesea had sex or not?
- Yes, you're not a virgin.
- Okay, why?
- You seem very confident and comfortable with me.
- [Interviewer] All right, go ahead and reveal the answer.
- I am virgin.
- Oh.
- It just kind of worked out that way.
Like I wanted to do it.
I want to get out here and you know what I mean,
bang bang, but it just didn't happen to work out that way.
Now I'm like taking my time, I'm not as in a rush.
But I definitely do, at some point.
- Thank you for sharing with me.
- Thank you.
- Tell me about you.
- I like to dance, have fun, I'm in school.
That's boring.
- Do you date?
- Not currently, I have before, but I don't right now.
- [Interviewer] Ruby, does she look like she has sex?
(laughter)
- Do I look like I have sex?
- You look like you have sex.
(laughter)
It's your like persona, you're very like,
"Oh, well hello."
- [Interviewer] Do you think you give off those vibes?
- I don't.
I'm very awkward, so, I don't know.
- I wouldn't describe you as awkward,
I would describe you as maybe the opposite side of my coin.
I'm a dominatrix.
- Do you actually have sex when you're doing that?
- I do not.
- Why is that?
- Cause I don't want to.
- Oh.
I like that.
Do you think you know?
- Say you're maybe not a virgin
cause you said you dated before.
- I'm a virgin.
- Gotcha.
- Yes, big virgin.
- I think I've gotten every single one of these wrong.
Why are you a virgin?
- Well at first, growing up it was a religious thing.
Now that I'm older I just came to the understanding
that I physically can't get anywhere with anybody
if I don't have a strong connection with them.
- It's important to you.
- Yeah, it's important to me.
It was really good getting to know you.
- Likewise.
How old are you?
- I'm 18.
- [Interviewer] What do you think? Has she had sex?
- No?
- [Interviewer] Oh! You're just gonna go right off?
- Yeah.
- [Interviewer] Oh!
- Are you sure about that?
- I'm not sure about any of these,
cause I don't know what virgins look like.
I don't think anybody does.
- [Interviewer] I know, but you said "no" for a reason.
- I mean, you are very innocent looking.
- That's maybe fair.
- Are you a virgin?
- No, I am not.
- Are people surprised that you're not a virgin?
- I think, yes.
My dad is from Yemen, and like I did grow up with
his perception of sex and age requirements
and all of this other stuff.
So I did have that pressure,
but I recently have come to the terms
that I think it's a social construct.
I can do whatever the fuck I want.
- Just be safe.
- Exactly. As long as you are safe and it's consensual,
then why not?
- There you go.
Tell me about you.
- Oh, I am 32.
- What's your sexual orientation?
- I am gay.
- Do you own any sex toys?
- No.
- Really?
- Why are you shocked by that?
- I don't know. I'm always surprised
when people don't own sex toys, it's weird.
- Why is that weird?
- Cause I own so many.
- Oh, okay. All right.
- Do people proposition you a lot?
- Not at all.
- Are you implying that you don't date?
- I'm attempting to date.
- How are you going about that?
- I'm on the apps.
- That's a terrible way to date.
- I know, Tinder, Hinge.
- [Interviewer] Why not Grinder?
- I feel like that is an app that is focused
towards one thing and one thing only.
And I want the whole thing.
- That's hook ups.
- I'm more interested in companionship.
- Yeah I'm gonna go maybe you are a virgin.
- You are correct.
- [Interviewer] You got one right Ruby!
- Confetti!
- Congratulations.
- [Interviewer] Why? Is it a choice?
- I was raised Christian, I'm also gay.
So that was kind of an interesting thing to compromise.
I started trying to date at 28, and it's a little difficult.
- It does, from what I hear
get harder to date as you get older.
But you're handsome, you'll be fine.
- Awe thanks.
- [Interviewer] Raise your hand if Ruby got you right.
(laughter)
- [Interviewer] Yay! Ruby got one person!
(applause)
- [Interviewer] Did you learn anything today?
- That religious background plays sort of more of a role
than I would have anticipated.
But I don't really have a lot of experience with religion.
Personally.
- [Interviewer] Is sex important?
- I think intimacy is important, and for a lot people
that means sex.
- [Interviewer] Thank you for being so honest with us,
and yeah, good job!
(applause)
- Okay.