hell this Robert Smith I'm here in deal
and over to the left of me is the
English Channel and so I've had people
ask me about guilt you know how do you
deal with guilt what is guilt and how
does guilt work well um you know as
you're growing up as a child you may
have parents who rais you and then of
course you did something wrong they
would punish you and also throw a little
bit of guilt on you and the reason why
they use guilt is to motivate you not to
do something stupid or harmful to others
or yourself and so unfortunately when we
grow up you know we all make mistakes we
all do things that we probably shouldn't
have done or wish we hadn't have done
and then all of a sudden you start
guilting yourself now the problem with
guilt is that first of all it doesn't
undo anything you've already done
secondly it's a self- tormenting process
basically you're using a guilt of
something you wish you hadn't done and
to torment yourself and also not only to
torment yourself but to punish yourself
and if you keep punishing yourself and
tormenting yourself it keeps you in what
you call a nested Loop you go over and
over again and the weird thing is the
more you practice feeling bad rehearsing
of what you did watching it in your mind
playing it over and over again you're
also affirming something it means what
what I always said a fear or a worry is
an affirmation so the more you practice
something the better you get at it and
if you guilt yourself so much you could
not only share it with your children
share it with other people but you're
self- tormenting and take you into the
the depths of Hell or the depths of
Torment basically you're pissing on
yourself that means you're you're you're
you're dissing yourself and keeping
yourself in a bad place so one of the
things I suggest is first of
all notice what you did and of course
inside your mind you probably have a
memory and what I suggest step out the
emotions in it secondly forgive yourself
because at that point in time you did
what you thought was best based on your
emotional references and then the next
thing is is change the memory to where
what you probably should do and that is
not I should do now but also in your
future so go back and rewrite your story
forgive yourself for give everybody else
involved if other people are hurt that's
just what happens you know we all do
stupid things but what you don't want to
do is keep doing a stupid thing which
means tormenting yourself and if you
torment yourself you're adding more to
your misery and it doesn't change
anything just makes your life worse and
then you'll start sharing that with
other people like family members your
kids and others so first of all forgive
yourself change what you hold within
yourself change it to what you should
have done and would like to do in your
future because if you keep replaying
what you had done guilting yourself
feeling bad you're also projecting it in
your future because you're rehearsing
it's a rehearsal for your future so
change your memories change what you do
inside your head forgive yourself love
yourself like yourself and just move on
guilt it's a selft tormenting process
it's pissing on yourself it's making
your life miserable so stop it stop
doing it to other people anyway this
Robert Smith here and deal and always
love yourself like yourself be nice
inside yourself change the bad memories
and do well and tap and
peace hello this Robert Smith I'm here
in um do UK and behind over here to the
to the left is the um English Channel
you're not in Dober I'm not in Dober all
right s love again oh this Robert Smith
I'm here in
Deal again oh this Robert Smith I'm here
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