hey there this is clay with modern love dot life and this is relationship in her
game this is a series of videos on the topic
of why your ex may not be responding to you and there's a couple of different
reasons why your ex might not respond to you in this video we're going to be
talking about one of the most common reasons why your ex doesn't respond and
that is the wall of text now what is the wall of text well when you're texting
with your ex what I've noticed is that lots of people tend to just pour out
their heart and soul into the you know phone or into the email if they're
sending an email or on the on the page if they're writing a letter or whatever
and they'll just they'll just just write and write and write and write and write
and write and write and then they'll send it off but what actually happens is
what they create is what we call a wall of text now here's an example of a wall
of text now what you'll see is that it's essentially just one giant mono
paragraph and this is actually very difficult for somebody to read and you
know trust me I get all of your emails and messages where you guys send me a
wall of text and it's very difficult for me to read and I am not emotionally
invested in your breakup I'm not emotionally invested in your
relationship the way that your ex is you know I wasn't there I don't really know
if you lied or they lied or who cheated or what I don't know that stuff but they
have a very strong opinion about that let's just say and when your ex is
receiving a wall of text like this it is very difficult for two main reasons
number one notice how there is no space for your eye to rest it looks like a lot
of work to read okay and so that makes it very difficult for your ex to want to
read it so they might put off reading it they might say oh I'll read it tomorrow
I'll read it the next week I'll read it whatever and eventually they did you
start to feel guilty for putting it off for so long but they just don't read it
right and so they don't respond now the second reason why the wall of text is
difficult for your ex to respond to or want to respond to is because it also is
filled with very heavy very dramatic very intense kinds of language and and
writing you know you're pouring your emotions into this
and that's very difficult for your ex to really respond to you know if they're
just kind of out and about doing whatever they do in the middle of the
day and they get the wall of text message from you they might be in the
middle of something they might be in the middle of something and they don't have
the emotional capacity to stop and really go over this intense message in
the middle of the supermarket in the middle of you know riding the bus to
wherever they're going or whatever and so they might just put it off and so
again then they get in the habit of putting it off they get in the habit of
putting off they get in the habit of putting off and I tell eventually they
just don't want to really respond to it because out of guilt or out of you know
whatever it might be and so the thing that you want to do is to not send the
wall of text you want to make your message that you send to your ex much
more manageable easier for them to read and that's going to help you out a lot
okay oh and in case you're wondering that wall of text that's not a real wall
of text that I got from anybody that's just something that I made up you know
I've read enough of these that I can kind of put them together I've written
maybe one or two back in the the old days when I was going through my breakup
but it's totally made up so don't worry that's nobody's private information or
private story or anything like that anyway if you want to learn how to
bypass the wall of text what you need to do is to learn how to actually connect
with your ex now obviously things like learning not to do the wall of text are
important but simply just not doing the wrong things isn't going to get your ex
back you have to actually do the right things and in addition to not sending
your ex a wall of text you want to be able to create a strong emotional
connection with your ex something that is going to actually bring the two of
you closer together and if you'd like to learn more about how to do that here's
what I'd like you to do if you are watching this video on our website
modern love dot life just head down below and click on the link directly
below this video what that'll do is that'll take you to a page on our
website where you'll learn more about how to create great solid high-quality
emotional connections with your ex over text over a Facebook message over email
over phone over video chat maybe in face-to-face interactions on dates all
of that stuff it doesn't matter where you can use these advanced relational
skills that are going to teach you anywhere and you can actually form great
emotional connections with your ex if on the other hand you are
watching this video on YouTube you can also go down below and click in the
description box and you'll see a link that will take you instead to a website
called relationship inner game.com and over at relationship inner game you can
fill out a short painless thirty second survey just letting me know a little bit
more about your breakup your ex and all of that stuff just some of the more
specifics and once I know exactly what's going on between you and your ex I can
actually send you some tips advice and strategies that will specifically help
you based off of what you've told me okay again whether you're on our website
modern without life or over on YouTube the place to go is down below and before
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to see me make in the future anyway this has been clay with modern love dot life
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