- So today, I want to discuss the topic
of not feeling good enough,
and how to believe in yourself a little more.
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So today, I want to discuss the topic
of not feeling good enough
and how to believe in yourself a little more.
You've heard the phrase that,
"God doesn't call the qualified, he qualifies the called."
Well, I shared recently how, just a couple months ago,
I was looking over my goals for this year
and nothing was checked off.
And I was talking about how my daughter had done six
of her 10 goals, and I was so proud of her, but I was like,
"What is my problem?"
I honestly thought, maybe I need to reduce my goals,
maybe I'm dreaming a little too big,
I'm setting my goals too high.
You know financial goals, my house goals,
conference goals, growth goals,
none of them were being achieved.
Well all of a sudden in prayer, on July 26th,
this is it what I heard in my prayer time,
and I put it in my journal.
I head the Lord say,
"Don't shrink your dream, enlarge your faith."
I'm gonna repeat that,
"Don't shrink your dream, enlarge your faith to achieve it."
I don't know what your dream is,
it could be major weight loss and it looks like
nothing's changing, you're still the same
as you were six months ago.
Don't shrink your dream, enlarge your faith.
Maybe it's starting your own business,
or your own ministry, or YouTube channel.
Don't shrink your dream, enlarge your faith.
It could be getting married,
you've been believing to get married
and you haven't even met the potential spouse yet.
Don't shrink your dream, enlarge your faith.
See the dream is never the problem, it's the dreamer.
The Bible says, "Be it unto you according to your faith."
So if you can believe for it, God can do it.
Well, just to give you a report,
in 30 days I literally checked off most
of my goals and now every single one
of them are on target for this year.
And I received the largest breakthrough
I've ever received in my life, in my personal finances.
A dream I've had for five years came to pass.
Five years, it's been on my vision board.
So when I was praying about what
to share today for this podcast,
the Lord told me to just teach from experience.
And I just want you to know what a difference one month
of enlarged faith, believing in yourself, can produce.
See, when you do what I'm gonna share with you today,
I believe it's gonna be like a domino effect in your life.
Did you know that when you stack dominoes,
it could be four or 4000, all you have
to do is gently push one, just one domino down,
and it sets in motion a chain reaction
of all the other dominoes falling down.
I read where the world record of dominoes falling down
is 4.4 million on Domino Day in the Netherlands.
And it all began with one push.
So what is the first domino in your life and my life
that if you were to just knock it down
it would cause a chain reaction
and all other obstacles would come crashing down?
Doors of opportunity would open.
New relationships would be formed.
Divine connections would be made.
Promotions given.
Increase favor on your career,
your business, your dreams achieved.
But to be honest with you, it's your identity.
You know, it's the way you see yourself.
See if you're gonna achieve the dreams in your heart,
you have to change the way you see yourself.
You have to believe in yourself a little more.
This one thing affects everything you become.
Your career, your relationships, your salary,
your body, your relationship with God.
I mean, everything.
See you are good enough, but you have to believe it.
Now here's a major point I'm gonna help you with,
and I've shared this on a recent podcast,
but I wanna say it again,
"The life you currently live is the life
"you think you're worth!"
I don't know about you, but that hit
me right between the eyes.
The life you currently live is the life
you think you're worth.
I remember hearing this phrase that,
"You behave in a manner consistent with
"how you see yourself."
See, you'll stay in a low-paying job
because of what you think you're worth.
You'll settle for a lousy relationship,
maybe even an abusive relationship
because of what you think you're worth.
You'll even maintain an out of shape body
because of what you think you're worth.
You won't expect much from God because
of what you think you're worth.
You'll dream little dreams based on your worth.
What your self-worth.
So how do you increase your self-worth?
How do you enlarge your faith to believe for bigger things
and believe that you're good enough
to achieve these big dreams.
Well, you may remember me sharing this,
but I'll repeat it, we value what's rare.
See that's why a diamond is more valuable than a rock.
Diamonds are rare, rocks are everywhere.
You see them in the grocery store parking lot.
You see them in the street.
Rocks are everywhere.
But diamonds are very rare.
See when you become rare, you're not like everyone else,
you become more valuable, you increase your worth.
Does that make sense?
Just to explain this, best way I know how to explain it,
was how in 2002, that's when I hit
my version of rock bottom (laughs).
When I looked at my life, and I was separated
from my husband, living paycheck to paycheck,
no vision or dreams for my life,
no money saved, my house was a mess, I was a mess.
I had such a poor self-image,
I didn't think I was good enough
or had anything special to offer.
And I had a little girl who's looking
to me for inspiration, for a role model.
And that's when I looked into my future and realized,
unless I make a radical decision to change,
this isn't gonna be just a season of regret in my life,
this is gonna be a lifetime of regret.
And I decided to become rare.
I decided to change my identity from the girl
who got pregnant before marriage,
the girl who was violated, rejected,
insecure, shy, out of shape, in debt,
to the girl who rents arenas and believes God
to bring the people to fill it.
The girl who dares to believe God can use
her to impact millions to live their dreams.
I changed my identity by becoming rare,
I wasn't like everybody else anymore.
Well in prayer, the Lord said to me,
"Don't be average and your life won't be average."
You don't be average and your life won't be average.
Your career, your opportunities, your salary,
your house, your vacations, your body.
My life is anything but average today.
Well one of the biggest ways to shift
your identity and go above average is
to deliberately choose your input.
Did you hear me?
Deliberately choose your input.
See your input shapes your outlook,
and your outlook shapes your behavior.
Now this includes what you're listening to.
What you're reading.
What you're watching.
And who you're hanging around.
And let me emphasize this real quick,
T.D. Jakes says, "Show me your friend and
"I'll show you your future."
Get around nine losers and you'll soon be the tenth.
But see when you get around people
who are at a higher level, you'll come up higher.
See if you wanna get fit,
get around people more fit than you.
You want to get wealthy, get around people
with more money than you.
You want to achieve big dreams,
get around people who are doing bigger things than you are.
Now I like how Ed Mylett explains it,
he says, "It's like a thermostat".
Put yourself around higher temperature people.
If they're a hundred degrees in fitness and you're 72,
you're gonna grow, you're gonna come up higher
just by proximity.
See when I get around my friend Diana,
she has the best biceps.
Man, it makes me want to work out harder.
Her biceps are beautiful (laughs).
When I get around Paula White,
one time she was sharing with me
about her dream book and the dream she has in there.
I got on the plane to fly home going,
"Come on, Terri, you can dream a little bigger."
When I get around people like Caroline Leaf,
makes me want to eat healthier.
She only eats organic, and I don't.
One time we met at True Food in Dallas,
which is all organic food.
And I'm eating my little organic salad like Caroline.
And then afterwards I said, (gasps)
"You know what's across right there
"in the parking lot, don't you?"
And she said, "No, I don't."
I said, "Sprinkles Cupcakes!"
She said, "Well, Terri", in her little South African accent
she said, "I'm sure they have gluten-free."
I said, "I'm sure they do. But that's where
"I draw the line, Caroline (giggles). Extra gluten please."
I'm just kidding.
But I'm just telling you being around people like that,
it makes me want to come up higher.
Well, just recently, I was invited to a birthday party
for a pastor, who pastors several mega churches
in the United States.
And normally, I wouldn't want to travel the week
before my big ICING event.
But I intentionally thought, get around people
who cause me to come up higher.
Add associations to your life who live
in the areas that you want to grow in.
Well, I went to the after party
with two different Grammy Award winners,
member of the band Journey was there,
Paula White, Israel Houghton, his wife Adrienne
who was a cheetah girl, the band who sings,
♪ It's your thing ♪
♪ Do what you wanna do ♪
They're laughing at me, I know (laughs).
They were there, they were on stage singing,
you remember that song?
♪ You know you make me wanna shout ♪
Well, all of a sudden they're singing that song,
so I got my phone out, and I googled
"You make me wanna shout".
And I was like, "Wait a minute. That's them!
"The Isley Brothers."
I left there thinking, "Come on Terri,
"you can dream bigger."
It didn't make me feel like I wasn't good enough.
It inspired me to keep coming up higher.
See here's the thing,
not having the right people speaking into your life,
that's like, maybe you've got a map,
you got your dream pinpointed on the map,
you've pinpointed your destination,
this is where I'm headed in life.
You've programed your GPS, maybe you're driving a Porsche
and it's a Turbo Porsche, and it's full of gas ready to go.
You're ready to start traveling across the country
to reach your dream.
But you don't have a key to start the journey.
See your key is K-E-Y, Keep Educating Yourself.
Continually, get around the right people
to speak into your life.
They say your life will be determined
over the next five years by two things:
The books you read and the people you hang around.
So if you're the smartest one in the room,
you're in the wrong room.
If all of your friends think you're the wealthiest,
the most successful, the fittest,
you're in the wrong room because you're not growing.
And you might even say, "Terri, I can't hang out
"with Paula White or Dr. Caroline Leaf."
Well, I don't hang out with them all the time either.
But when you get a $20 book,
that's the equivalent of sitting down with someone
for four hours, six hours,
and they're teaching you everything they know in that book.
When you're enrolling courses with other people,
or in my courses, that's the equivalent
of me spending four hours, six hours teaching you,
showing you how to set clear goals,
how to design a vision board,
what do you do when the board's finished?
Well, that's how you grow, is by reading,
connecting with people who are doing something
you want to do.
John Maxwell said, "There's two types of people,
"the anchors or the motors."
The anchors will drag you down.
Stick with the motors who says
they're going somewhere (laughs).
So only absorb advice from people
who are doing better than you.
If you can't hang around them, listen to their messages,
enroll in their courses, read their books.
I heard someone say the other day,
"The person hungriest to learn
"will be fed the most results."
In fact, if you feel a connection with me in particular,
I want to ask you right now to become a partner with me.
Join my squad of, not only dream achievers,
but those who are interested in giving back.
This is not something we usually discuss on the podcast,
but God has opened a door for us to make a bigger impact
with our teenagers by getting
our vision board course in schools.
Isn't that amazing?
And I am so excited about this, but I need your help.
So if you'd like to know more about this,
I want to ask you to click the link below
or go to terri.com/partnership, if you're interested,
and I can explain more about our mission
and what it means to be a partner.
Plus, all the benefits that come
by joining my team, there's so many.
But more than anything, you were created
to make a difference.
And I believe together we can make a change.
Let me remind you today, you are good enough.
And don't forget, I'm cheering you on to live your dreams.
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