- We're talking about dick (giggles).
- I wasn't (giggles).
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- We are playing Never Have I ever.
- Gay man edition. - Boom.
- We are both gay men.
So, I think that's all I have to say, blah, I hope.
- No, I don't know. - You can be
what you wanna be. - I know, yeah.
But today I am a gay man, so. - Love that.
- Yeah, who knows? - Tomorrow.
- "Never have I ever been asked,
"'If you haven't slept with a woman, then how do you know?'"
Ah!
Okay. - The audacity, three.
- Two, one.
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- I'm kind of in between.
- I like hitting straight men with this one,
"If you've never slept with a man, how do you know?"
- I've definitely been asked have a slept with a woman,
but then I've never been asked, "Well how do you know
"if you're gay or straight?" - Yeah.
- And it's kinda like you get asked from a young age.
- Oh, yes, yes. - How did you know?
- As a teenager, when you're already questioning things.
- Yeah, and it's like, "How did you know?"
That's like how did you know that you were straight?
- Yeah. - Yeah.
And it's just like. - You know.
- It's just intrinsically within you.
(whooshing)
- "Never have I ever been attracted to a straight man?"
- Boom.
- I have. - Yeah.
- Yeah. - This is a yeah,
yeah. - Yeah, I have.
- Yeah, and it is very easy 'cause they're just a man,
and you're like, oh, okay, wow,
very, very cute, very nice, very pretty.
- Just because you're attracted to someone
doesn't mean they're gonna like you.
Also, just because you're attracted to someone
doesn't mean we wanna like.
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Get freaky with every moving thing.
- Yeah get up on them exactly. - You know?
- "Never have I ever dressed in drag?"
- Okay, I have, you're on the fence.
- Mm. - Ish.
- I don't think I have done it officially, like full wig,
but I mean not to the standard of a full have.
- Yeah, okay, cool, I haven't.
- Oh, (gasp) we've gotta change that.
My drag name has been Tommy Margarita.
- Oh, salty (giggles). - Salty, salty rim.
- Salty and fresh. (meter ringing)
- Yeah. (meter ringing)
- It's really fun for exploration of sexualities,
really cool, and it doesn't really have to be one thing
and fit a certain mold either.
- I love that. - So, if you wanna put
just a bit of lippy on, you can call that drag.
If you wanna put a little lash on,
you could call that drag.
You don't have to get rid of that beard, put on a wig.
You do whatever you want. - I love that.
I love that. - Yeah.
- So, I have. - You have, yes, 100%.
- I kinda wish that I could say,
"Yes, I have done this," I haven't, but you know?
- Never have I ever drag edition.
- Yeah, okay. - It's coming for you.
- Some say, "You're all born naked".
- "And the rest is drag." - Yeah, someone might.
- Someone. - Someone just said it.
- Someone out there. - Yeah, yeah.
(laughter)
- "Never have I ever been asked
"if I was a top or a bottom?"
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- Story of my mother.
- (car honks) life!
(laughter)
- Yeah. - Of course, everyone has.
- Yeah.
- I don't know if you meet people organically,
that does not happen. - No.
- But if you're on Grindr,
you pretty much get asked straight away.
- You can definitely have people go,
"Okay no, I'm not going to have anything to do with you
"now that I know that we're not compatible in that regards."
- Yeah, totally, depends on the person.
- Yeah. - That and the situation,
the moment, have you douched?
- This is okay if it comes from another gay person.
- Yeah, oh true.
- If it comes from a straight person, though.
You'll never know, bye. - Thank you.
(car honking) Yeah, thank you, stop asking.
(glass crashing)
Boom. (laughter)
- "Never have I ever had I someone say to me,
"'You don't seem gay,' and think it's a compliment."
- Three, two.
- One.
- You never? - I've never.
No, everyone just is like, "You're a big gay boy."
So. - Love that.
- Yeah. - Love that.
I literally have people be like,
"Oh, but you know you're not that gay."
- That's not cool to say
and regardless of if you're masc or femme
or however you present,
your own identity is your own, and it's all good.
- Hasn't really happened to me,
so I can't really speak on it.
- When it does. - Yeah?
- Go straight for the neck. - The jugular.
- The jugular (laughs).
- (gnashes teeth) bite.
- "Never have I ever been asked
"to be someone's gay best friend."
(laughter) (placid music)
Or GBF.
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- You don't have to label it as a gay best friend.
- Oh, I'm rejected, I've never been asked this.
- Aw.
- If you wanna have a best friend,
just call that person your best friend.
- How about we just be best friends?
- Yeah. How about we just be best friends, yeah.
- How about I just be you're best friend?
- Yeah.
- Preach it, sister.
- "Never have I ever been afraid to be myself."
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- Oe.
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(letters whooshing)
Okay, let's go, three, two, one.
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- I have. - I have.
- Yeah, I felt like I went all throughout uni
as a straight man.
- Definitely high school is the biggest place
where I couldn't be myself. - Yeah.
- Definitely had to hide who I was.
- I've grown up in suburbs where I've walked down the street
and been called (car honks) multiple times.
I remember being 16 years old
when I had my hair it was pink or something,
I'd gone on a train
and it was literally not even 10 minutes from the city,
and a tradie called me a (car honks)
and said, "Mardi Gras's over, mate,"
and the train was completely packed
and I was a 16 year old boy
and (car honks) like that, like you know?
- So, unfortunately, that's the biggest part of my life
where I have had to hide it.
- So, I think in the back of my head,
I'm always conscious of it. - Yeah.
- Because it just sucked that these were adults
commuting from work,
and nobody thought to say anything or stick up for me.
- I think I've been able to show a bit more of who I am
and that's definitely grown and I've expanded on that.
- I think it's a journey
'cause you spend 20 years of your life or whatever,
or 18. - Exactly.
- Or however many years suppressing this person,
and then all of a sudden you're an adult,
you've got your freedom,
but it's like, "Oh, shit, who the (car honks) am I?"
- And it's like, yeah, you're trying to traverse your way
in this world that traditionally hasn't,
you haven't feel accepted in,
and you're like oh, I am my own person now,
but I don't know who that is and how to be that person
because I've been shutting it out for so long.
- Yeah. - And yeah,
I don't know, it's just a hard transition really
to go from that point to that point.
- Yeah, I've definitely experienced that,
being afraid to be myself when I was younger,
and yeah, mirroring that,
it definitely feels very comfortable and confident
in who I am now,
and I hope that any young queer people
that are watching this know that it always gets better.
- Mmm.
- And adult life is really cool.
- That was really amazing. - That was a little journey.
- Yeah, I feel a little bit emotional right now.
- Aw, give me a hug. - But give me
a little gorgeous hug.
- I think the biggest take away
is that you don't need to hide who you are.
- You've gotta be your true, authentic self.
- Identify however you wanna identify or don't,
'cause well, that's perfectly okay.
- Yeah. - To pull away
from all the labels and just be you.
- That's how you find your people,
that's how you find your tribe,
that's how you find your community,
and that's where you find peace within yourself, yeah.
But do it for you, that's really important.
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