Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com.
You probably heard of the nice guy, maybe you've called yourself the nice guy.
I know that I have labeled myself in the past, as the friend-zoned, nice guy.
The nice guy who's always appeasing to people, getting in the friend zone, never having that
edge.
This was a big problem, because it did not cause attraction.
How are nice guys still able to get a hot girl or attract a beautiful quality woman?
Here's the deal.
It's not so much about whether you're mean or you're nice.
You can still be a nice guy, a good person.
I would consider myself a good person.
The thing that changes when you're able to trigger attraction is you having more of a
masculine dominant personality and being comfortable with who you are as a person and not apologizing
for it.
Let me give you some examples here.
Let me give you 3 ways that basically you as a nice guy can still attract a really quality
woman.
Here's the first thing I just want to throw this out there.
There's a lot of women who are in their younger years in high school, maybe even college and
they do go for that bad boy.
They do go for that guy who is an asshole and that typical alpha male that you know.
They're attracted to that because he just doesn't care what people think about him and
he is that bad boy and she's younger and immature and so she goes for that type of guy, even
though he is an asshole.
Even though she still can be attracted to nice guys.
But here's the deal, they go for those guys, potentially not every time in the beginning
of their dating life, because that's what's cool.
It's cool to date a guy who is a dick and then they end up getting burned by those guys.
This is why they say that nice guys finish last.
But here's the thing.
Nice guys don't really finish last.
You have to have a personality that is not people pleasing mentality, trying to appease
others, like I said, and you still have to have that edge.
We'll get to that in a second.
But what happens is a beautiful woman, a quality woman, she will eventually go for a guy who
is a good guy with that edge after she's been burned.
That's the first thing I wanted to say here is that she's done that and she's realized
now, okay, she doesn't want to be with the guy who's going to treat her like shit.
She wants to be with the guy who's going to be nice to her, but not put her on that pedestal.
This brings me to the second point.
The second thing is that a nice guy is typically or the typical nice guy that we're talking
about is typically a people pleaser, which means that he doesn't have his own personality.
And he doesn't have his own opinions.
He's just there to be agreeable to get the girl to like him.
He's desperate and women can sense this desperation.
He's faking this nice thing, like oh, yeah, anything you say I agree with, I'll do anything
for you.
I'll do all these nice things for you just so you like me and she smells this desperation.
It's not just like, oh, she's not attracted, because he's not a bad boy.
No, she's not attracted because he's weak, his personality is weak.
He's only doing things and only acting in a way specifically so the girl will like him.
That means that he's not his own person and she's dating basically this shell.
So you decide to be a good person, a nice person, but still have your own personality,
you have your own opinions, you do the things that you want to do, you don't apologize for
your actions.
This is a guy who can still attract a quality woman.
I want you to understand that, it's about being comfortable with who you are.
The typical nice guy that we've been talking about is weak because he has low self esteem
and he doesn't think that people can like him.
Unless he's really agreeable and over nice.
That's not what we're going to do here.
You're still going to do the things that you want to do which leads me to my third point.
A good person, a nice guy, a nice person can still get a quality woman if he's going after
what he wants.
I call this dominance.
I talk a lot about this in my program called Hooked, which you can check out at www.getherhooked.com.
I'll tell you a little bit about that in just a second.
But just understand that a guy who says this is what I'm going for, not just with women
but in life too.
This is what I want.
I want this kind of woman.
I want this as my career.
I want this to be what my life looks like.
I want this to be my lifestyle.
I want these things.
I want these kinds of people in my life.
If a guy knows what he wants and then goes after it, that is so attractive to a woman.
You can be a good person at heart and still go after what you want and women are attracted
to that.
It's a masculine quality, that's dominant, that's pushing things forward that's moving
in a direction that's being goal oriented.
Women are so attracted to that.
That's why a hot girl will still be attracted to that kind of guy who knows what he wants
out of life.
He's sure of himself.
This is a guy with very high self-esteem, that is more fearless because he's going after
what he wants.
And girls love this and that's you also.
The nice guy or the guy who is really another people pleaser type.
He's very weak, he's not really going after what he wants because he's scared.
And he's like, kind of going after a girl, kind of not afraid to show his intentions.
This is why the guy always ends up in the friend zone.
Trust me, I know I've been there.
I want you to think about some of these things.
And if you're trying to change from nice guy, weak guy into a nice guy with an edge who
goes after what he wants and is more dominant, I can teach you how to do that.
I talk all about that in my program called Hooked.
You can check that out at www.getherhooked.com.
I give specific examples of how to embody those masculine traits so that beautiful women
are attracted to you still with being a good person.
At the very least, I want you to start understanding and reviewing some of these concepts and think
about yourself.
Think about yourself; are you the guy who respects himself and has high self-esteem
and goes after what he wants?
Or are you just trying to do whatever everybody else says and be a follower.
Either the follower or the leader.
Obviously the leader is what you want to be while still being a good person.
Think about that.
I'll see you on the next video.